Heartbroken Check with your state & see if they will go back & pick up that doctor bill. I just looked up your state. Girl you need to get out and vote, those politicians sure aren't helping the little people of Oregon. http://www.chn.org/pdf/factsheets/Oregon.pdf They're cutting your programs. I found this site for you. Good Luck. http://www.cwla.org/ Child Welfare League of America Children's advocacy organization active in lobbying and humanitarian projects in the US. History and current programs described; links to publications, ... www.cwla.org/ - 41k - Cached - Similar pages

Also ask the lawyer about the house. Do you have any proof--reciepts and such that show you did put money into the house. Can you go to the builder and get some? Do you have bank records that show how much money you had and when it was taken out? Do you have the papers the lawyer gave you that you signed. If you don't have money to hire a lawyer look into legal aid. Do not feel bad that you are doing this to your daughter. I know it kills a mother, but you have to be strong for the boy. In order to pursue this and not hurt the boy, you have to be as sneaky as she is--let on to her that you don't want to be responsible for the boy. Make sure it is only to her and there are no witnesses. Do notunder any circumstance say anything like that on the phone she could be taping it. If you can ever get the boy alone tell him this has nothing to do with him and you will always love him. Good luck

So cute! That first picture is precious--he looks kind of surprised. Very, very sweet. Looks like he has momma's hair color. Maybe it's good you cannot go right away. Will give them time to get settled in. First baby, right? Congratulations, Grandma.

I am a step-mom of a now-26 year old, whom I "got" at 8 years old and was also abandoned by his mother (but raised by his father), and I say go to the party, but DEFINITELY talk with your husband about it first and let him know how you feel. He needs to step up here and stick by you a little more during the get together. Stop being a bystander with this family you willingly married into - interact with them and you just might find you enjoy their company. Even if you don't enjoy their company, unless something really egregious happens, you really should attend the big events. (I always attend holidays, birthdays, the random visit, etc., but don't go every visit time my husband does.) On the matter of this child being introduced specifically as DH's son, I'm sure they all assume that it's understood. I mean, you know he is DH's son, and they all know you know, correct? It's super hard - I know that first hand - but you married into the situation and I think you need to make more of an effort.