She's just jealous.......
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Comments (4)Stacie, I hope it's me. Listen to this. I belong to the moms club here in my community. There are a lot of young moms, several pregnant, most with young toddlers, some newborns..... anyway, my son is 11 yrs old so I'm one of the "older" moms in the club. There was some talk yesterday about an old wives tale, something to do with sitting in this special chair and within a years time you will get pregnant and have a boy. So there was some talk going around yesterday and some of the moms were saying they wanted to sit in "the chair". So I said, "Hey, maybe I'll sit in it!" One of the girls wrote back, "I don't think the chair has magical powers." I was SO insulted! What does she think I am? 90 yrs old? Gosh! So anyway if your package is coming to me, wouldn't it be so funny if I got pregnant???? I'd show her, that young whipper snapper witch....See MoreCuriosity kills that cat. I need help!
Comments (27)Hi everyone. I am so touched by all of yours thoughtful comments and suggestions. You're like my invisible friends whom I can turned to during this difficult time in my life. I can't really share with anyone in my circle of friends/family at this stage since I want to protect my wife's just in case we are going to work things out. ( For those who want to correct my English and have bias, please take your comments elsewhere. It's not welcome here. The last thing I want to do now is to correct my English. I just type away hoping that it makes sense). So far I haven't taken any action. I just want to think it through carefully and consider all of my options. I am actually very upset but I want to give myself sometimes to cool down and to collect myself so that I can sit down and talk to her in a respectful manner so that I don't hurt her pride. It's amazing that there are so many thoughtful and observant contributors on this forum. Marco keenly identified that I am actually Asian. And yes that is how things work in our culture. Case and point: Her parents ask to meet me first and talk to me before they give the OK to take their daughter out for a coffee on our first date. Not like in our culture here where one doesn't meet the parents until both are serious about getting married. For those who replied and took the moral high ground of respecting privacy, trusting and all that. Give me a break. I am glad you happen to have good marriage and you never have to think about snooping around. Like 'Jenny alabama' & 'labmoma' said one will be curious to find out what's going on especially when your spouse is behaving cold/distant from you and constantly deny and often refuse to talk about the subject of the heart. I can't recall when was the last time she look me in the eyes lovingly. And as I said am a very passionate person. This is where I got an uneasy feeling but didn't confront her on the wedding day. I wanted to make it the happiest day of my life. This is where it hurt me second to the recent event. During the ceremony she didn't even look me in the eyes as she repeat after the pastor and exchange the ring with me. During the entire day she seem to be pre-occupied with thoughts and didn't seem to pay attention to me. Am I too sensitive of a man? I asked her about it later she told me that she was nervous planning for the rest of the day. My thinking was, what else could be more important than spending those precious moments with your spouse in front of God as a witness. And now I am thinking maybe she didn't want to look me in the eyes because she ashamed of facing God for making a decision not from the heart. Yes this is what I get for trusting too much and thinking that how can I go wrong with an educated catholic girl. Of course I respect others' privacy and I think I have placed enough faith in her for the past two years. We agreed that because of the long distance in order for our relationship to work it has to base entirely on trust. I even mentioned to her about the anonymous emails and have never question her. I didn't call around to check her out then knowing that I could very capable of doing that, since it's a small town and I do have relatives who live in the city. She came up the explanation that made sense to me at the time that it was co-worker jealousy. Right before she came over some of my relatives did give me some vague warnings that they just recently heard over the grapevines but they don't want to tell me everything because they don't want me to be unhappy or talk bad about my wife. It's hard to hear that your wife has been around the block. I do find comfort in reading 'bnicebkind's' reply. Yes she does miss home naturally from being apart from her parents and friends and adapting to a new way of life. I do my best to understand and comfort her. She talks to her sister who live in a different state on the daily and call her parent on weekly basis. I find that this might be what she is going through: "Bushduh, sometimes after marriage (and especially after a baby) a woman may start thinking about a past boyfriend, and become obsessed with the fantasy of "what if". It does not always mean that if she actually had the opportunity to be with him again, that she would really want him, but sometimes women fantasize about that person, building him up in her mind to more than he ever really was in real life. Perhaps he was more romantic or made her feel beautiful, or wanted/loved in a way that marriage and the reality of real life cannot measure up to. The "reality" of marriage, responsibility, laundry, and dirty dishes, make some women yearn for the carefree life of a single woman just wanting to be loved, and the romance and excitement of it all. Real life with all of its responsibilities of being a grown up intrude on the fantasy. " Thank you 'bnicebkind'. I wouldn't have the experience and the insight to think of this. As you can see this forum helps me alot. Back home her mom cooks and if needed she simply swing to the corner cafe and get something to eat. Now she has to go to school and go home and cook. She certainly not ready to do that day in and day out. I offer to help cooking and I do the dishes. The problem is most people from a third world country form their perceptions though movies and think that the US is a piece of heaven. I have never promised her of heaven but did tell her as much as I can about how impersonal and busy life here is. Yes money is tight because I am looking for a job. But we live in a nice home. Some how she had a vision in her head that when she come I'd take her traveling before settling down to work/ or go to school and I'd take her on a shopping spree. So she was kind of disappointed when that didn't happen and I only took her to sight seeing locally and shop just enough. I am sure if I were to be well off go out eating often, travel, and shop without thinking then she's not as sad as she is today. But if she can find happiness in little of what we have and build a life together with me then we're in for the long term. I sure hope that it's a phase that she is going through. But for now I have a lot of doubt that is the case. For the life of me I can't understand writing to someone else about missing, hugs and kissing them while being married. But there is more...there is a little details I almost forgot to mention. She actually writing to two guys, one from her home country and the other I don't know(could be here in the US) with similar tone of voice. I am not sure what this fact tells me. Either she is as manipulative as others have warned me or this is how she deals with missing her home. Until we have the 'talk' then I can better judge the whole situation. I hope I am not naive then and accept one excuse to the next. I hope I have a clear vision to see though it and decide once and for all. Like Marco said: "Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't love you back." Thank you for reading my lengthy writing...please check back with this posting regularly and give me some insights.... Bushduh...See MoreShe didn't just kill the dandelions...
Comments (3)however she may not have killed those dandelions completely. these are tap rooted plants and any piece of that root left behind will sprout new growth. You can certainly top dress and reseed anytime. you can wash off the vinegar with water and top dress and reseed. however like I said, expect those dandelions to grow back. The only effective way to remove these pest is to dig them out which I have done in my lawn but it's hard work. That said, I do find this post 'cute'. Your Mom should continue consulting these sites and not to worry about mistakes. I've had many disaster in my many years of gardening. I learn as I go.. She shouldn't fear mistakes....See MoreI wonder, what got her panties in a wad.....
Comments (18)We don't have all that much power, believe me! We can 'flag' a post but have zero power to delete someone's comments, thank goodness. The offending post will be masked on your screen, but not on anyone else's. The flagging notifies the administrators to take a look; a post or thread will be yanked only if deemed necessary. It's a great tool, absolutely, as it lets Tamara or others know of a problem. I flag flagrant spam when I see it. And there's been a couple of incidences in the garden forums with an irrational, mean spirited individual who felt it his right to spout all kinds of ugly comments. At first his posts were deleted and I suspect he was given a warning. When he was finally banned, it was a huge relief to everybody. I don't think that I've flagged anyone in this forum. But there sure have been times in the past where I would have. I also think that certain words are triggers for automatic deletion of a post. That's the only way to keep such a large community from becoming a hotbed of potty mouths, lol....See More- 5 years agolast modified: 5 years ago
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