I took photos all around the room...

Anyway, once I find out what color it is I can then try to research what to pair with it for the walls and trim.

Not a match....the sherwin williams samples have yellow undertones.
An artist friend once told me that to find compatable colors, look at the pigments that makes it up. That after I wanted to paint some trim a warm sunny cream to blend with the wallpaper, and it turned out sickly greenish tone. She said, of course it's greenish...look at the formula.

Ugh. Darn.

I just can’t “see” color or tones. So trying to match to the color chip was my way of then being able to Google “colors that coordinate with functional gray”.

How do you tell what undertone your cabinets have if you can’t see them?

Sometimes I thought I’ve caught some purple in there . Which from studying might be a really bad thing because I heard to stay away from purple undertones.

Can you try and take a picture from further away?

doesn't have to match, has to flow as they say.

I feel like it photographs different than it looks in real life.

It definitely seems like a slightly warmer gray than others. But it doesn’t look the same in my home as I thought it would.

Can anyone distinguish the underdone of these?

Praying that it’s not green because I have a huge issue once sumner comes. I put new windows in and it’s heavily forested. In the summer these windows let in light like this. This is the room next to the kitchen. (And this room only has the one forested window). I’m hoping the kitchen won’t be as bad because I have another window and sliding door that will hopefully balance some of this green. I love that I have two new windows in my kitchen, but I’m dreading summer because I’m so scared I’m going to have a pea soup color kitchen.

@aprilneverends

Further away like this?

I still have lots of work to do (new dinette table and all new stuff in the nook, and some tweaking in the family room) but the couch, end tables, and tv stand will stay.

Any thoughts on a color that would work throughout?

I’m so scared to voice this out loud, but I think I chose the completely wrong color cabinets to complement what I already have. And now I’m freaking out that I’m not going to be able to bring everything together.

Here’s what I was thinking for the dinette.

Well my input at this point is they are pretty. I know it's not very helpful))

Reminds me of Elephant' s Breath somehow..slightly lilac in that warm gray?

I'd just find a color that works wit it as you wish it to work. Don't look at colors' names for sure, these are confusing. The dining color stays, right, you're looking only to paint the kitchen, or..?

@aprilneverends No, all will need to be painted because they all share the same walls. I wish this wasn’t the case! There’s a tiny area where the family room/nook paint touches the kitchen cabinets. There are no places to stop the paint. It’s a continuous wall.

Now when I can see more pics-very helpful, thank you. Oh they are beautiful cabinets. Don't worry, it'll work. Small tweaks with accessories/fabrics might be all you need-if you'll need them at all. Right now I don't see it being off either. One has much more freedom when it comes to upholstery etc, it's not a semi-permanent element like cabinets and walls and tiles.

Wall color in the living -does read a bit too warm, but only on some photos, so I don't know whether my monitor captures it correctly.

You like tonal neutral scheme-not easy, but can be very rewarding when you find that elusive color that works everywhere. Be prepared to like it 75%-80% of time-that's a good result.

I like your pillows fabric up close. A lot. Does it seem like cabinet color, irl? The thing is-all these undertones, we know them mostly by comparison. This is browner that this. this is bluer that that. Without context, some will be easier to pinpoint, others, really hard.

I'd take pillows in the kitchen, and backsplash, to the living, to see whether they go, color-wise:) Then if you like what you see you can use colors found in them as inspiration,

ETA: seeing newer pics-yes, you need a slightly cooler color for the walls, so it seems. You'll find it.

I looked up one of my favorite bloggers' choices for subtle greiges that can read either way, I really like some if the suggestions https://laurelberninteriors.com/2015/03/11/nine-fabulous-benjamin-moore-warm-gray-paint-colors/

Abalone sounds fab. well most of them do. You really need to see everything you try in your space. Make big samples(minimum A4, 2 layers of color), so you can move them around and see them in different corners. Also in different lights.

Thank you @aprilneverends! So helpful, great idea! Couch pillow in kitchen:

The couch pillows seem like a different tone than the cabinets. I think the pillow trim is throwing it off worse. Not a good match to the pillow trim.

Here’s the cabinets in the family room:

More of the kitchen pieces in the family room:

Last one. This stuff looks so so different when moving it around. It’s crazy!

I’m going to have my work cut out for me, that’s for sure! Between trying to get all this stuff to work together to combatting the pea soup green that will come through the windows May-September.

Side question. I have this hood and as going to paint it to match it to the cabinets. Is there a better color that would help pull everything together? It’s primed, so I think I’m stuck having to paint it.

Trim doesn't have to match, it's fabric. Neither does pillow.

it'd be a very flat non-interesting scheme if all and every color of every surface would be same exact shade.

I wanted to see whether they work together, and I think they do.

The wall color is the one you need to tweak, and you're on your way to do just that.

The cabinets are the newest element in the room, and you see only them for now, which is a natural first reaction-and looking for neutrals for walls is daunting enough. So you think you made a mistake.

But they do work. And a new wall color will bring everything together just fine.

Imagine the cabinets with your choice of warm hardware, countertops..it'll be beautiful.

Also, trim in rest of your house appears to be white??? If that is the case, the kitchen trim should be white too. Your cabinets look fine. You are trying to hard to match things, and will just end up with a boring monotone kitchen.

I did think about hiring a designer, but when I start looking around I get just as overwhelmed trying to choose a designer! That's almost just as hard!

Colors don't *have* undertones.

Your dilemma illustrates why the theory that they do doesn't work.

Comparing to white paper, as you've experienced, is pointless.

Even if you had the color formula for the cabinets, looking at the colorant load is equally as useless as "undertones". Analyzing colorants one at a time is where this idea goes wrong; because the way formulas work is colorants interact, one affecting the other. Individually, they mean nothing.

The only way to sort what you want sorted - the way you want it sorted - is to get a Color Muse and measure the color of the cabinets and other elements. Take a look at the hue families and see how they align.

Thank you!!!

I actually set up a few calls and emails with designers, but in the mean time I’ve been busy. I put everything together and have been looking At how the colors work together! I might be able to do this!!!??? I’m “seeing” things a little better (I hope!!).

A couple questions if you guys don’t mind sharing input!

Two images here. These are my cabinets (gray), carpet, family room table, etc. I have two options for dining room fabric...light gray with taupe loom rope or beige with gold rope. At first I was thinking the gray, but looking at all this together makes me think gold/beige for sure?! What do you guys think? Shown with the fabric samples is the chair and table wood.

And what do you think of these two possible paint colors? First and second in the strip?

Brought it all into the kitchen to look at it in that light. Plan to look again in the morning when it gets much brighter. Considering the top two colors as options, but open for suggestions if someone sees a color that might be more cohesive.

Can’t wait to look at these in the bright light of day.

Painted a sample wall with worldly gray and I’m not sure if it’s a match. I’m just not very good at “seeing” if colors are complimentary.

a) I see four different colors-it's a bit chameleonic I presume, even to you in your space, especially on my monitor. Changes with lights and all

b) I like them all))

found you a blog post dedicated to this Wordly Gray, that might confuse you more lol-or nor..but I liked the ending signature:) "Stop stressing" one

https://www.kylieminteriors.ca/paint-colour-review-sherwin-williams-worldly-gray-sw-7043/#:~:text=Worldly%20Gray%20is%20a%20warm,IS%20a%20greige%20at%20heart.

Notice how also looks different on every of the pictures in the blog..

The one picture, the backsplash, does not look like it goes with the countertops at all. As for paint, maybe wait until you finish the rest of the room, and then decide what colors the walls will be. I am assuming, you will have window coverings of some sort. I still think trying to match the cabinets, makes the room too monotone and boring.

There is a separate thread on the backsplash, as far as I remember. Oh I found it. @101newkitchen101, I'll link to it, with your permission?

https://www.houzz.com/discussions/6080413/does-this-match

@aprilneverends Those are all the same color on the wall. Just different lighting.

Thanks for attaching the worldly gray blog post...I actually read that one. I've been reading and reading and looking at everything i can find! Kylie M has been very helpful...I did even think about reaching out to see if I could hire her services, but I think she's hard to get a consult with.

Yes, I have that thread regarding the backsplash! I was feeling pretty confident that I was all set with the cabinets, counter, and backsplash matching, but then a comment or two from someone else can start me with the re-guessing process all over again, ha ha!!!

Why is this so hard. I had no idea what I was getting myself into!!! ha ha.

I still have those calls out to the designers, so I'll see if I'm able to get some help. Timing may not work though because I have to get these decisions in order right away...maybe not the paint, but the other things are holding up the job. The paint I was just trying to get a head start on.

Worldly gray swatch in the family room.

I don’t think I like it. I think I’m trying to like it.

I think I like richer colors. Warner. I actually like the color I already have, but the problem is that now it doesn’t go with the cabinets. I may try the next lighter shade of the current color (mega greige) or the darker color of worldly gray (amazing gray).

You can see how the mega greige looks with my cabinets in this photo.

Here’s the annoying problem. I ordered the cabinets, which were supposed to be a warm gray. I love warm colors. The rest of my stuff is warm. But when I added my new kitchen windows, it opened my kitchen to the north, which now is making my cabinets cool. So I don’t know if I’m ever doing to be able to harmonize these rooms. I don’t want to go cool, but warm is not matching the cabinets. The lighting is making the cabinets more gray/cooler than what I was hoping for.

I know it's the same color, I just pointed out that they look like four different ones to me:)

Think how it changes with light, than it gets filtered by your lense, then it gets on my monitor..

Cabinets also look differently in different lights, on your pictures. That's how it is.

I also love warm colors, and my cabinets are taupe, very warm -they can even read brownish in a certain light, and that's when I love them the most.

( And I chose this color for a very long time-everything seemed too cool to me)

But in some other times, in certain light, they do become slightly cooler. It's normal.

At night it doesn't even matter what color they are lol. No light-no color.

I think you need to give yourself a full day or day and a half to look at the color. This, or another one. Make several bigger samples, move them around.

I usually pick up small swatches in a store, staple my favorite ones in a notebook, deliberate over them (probably look funny as hell)), ..pick the ones I love the most..can be something unexpected too...narrow down to three or four..then make big samples I can move around in the room next to this and that.

And I agree, you're trying too hard to match, while you probably mean: "to work together"

SW 7024 to me seems like the best paint choice