Thanks all for the votes. Since the majority here like Number 1 and that is what came with the lamps,( therefore not costing me anything extra) I think I will keep them. I will return the white ones and if sometime down the road I tire of the the gray, I will then find new ones. Everyone here is always so helpful when I ask questions so again thanks it is much appreciated.

and as luck would have it, I have been unable to find 2 of those shades in white for under $50. The closest I can find (but will keep looking ) is at Tarjay but instead of 16 diameter, I believe it was 13 diameter. I may just buy it and see if it will work but I think the lamps are too beefy for a 13 inch diameter. It seems like such a simple mission- to just go buy some drum shades and update the look.

The glass and metal lamp shade is a huge part of the value of that style lamp -- and you don't want to just "toss" it. It likely would sell on line -- Facebook Marketplace or Craigs List or Ebay, etc. -- or even a yard sale. If you are not interested in doing that, then, at the very least, donate it to a Habitat for Humanity Restore Store or a charity run thrift store near you that supports a cause in which you believe. IF you want a lamp upgrade, buy a new lamp -- a tall thin metal or wood one with a medium to large white shade. You might even find one you like at Habitat for Humanity Restore Store if you go by to donate the one you have.

The white lampshades are fine as far as color, though they look a little small to me. And yes to a patterned curtain - but not white. And please don't beige the room down any further! I agree with @Jan Moyer that your room is crying out for pops of color. You def need an assortment of colorful pillows on your sofa. I have a chocolate brown loveseat and only two of the five pillows on it have brown in them. But I wouldn't go with more browns and orange for pillows or curtains, unless the orange is clear and not too muted. Maybe some blues or greens or deep pinks or even a cranberry color? I love your coffee table but don't think it's helping the room here. It looks too high and the brown top is rather bulky (especially given the slender lines of your etagere, lamps, and side table) and not the right shade of brown, but maybe it would look better with a small area rug beneath it, layered on top of the carpet? Adding some plants would be an improvement, too.