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What are you missing?

6 years ago

Since the pandemic began?

For me:

Mexican train group that played weekly

Regularly exercising at gym

Monthly potluck socials

Occasional afternoon tea and finger sandwiches with a few

Church: Miss attending but do watch online every Sunday

Dining out

Comments (64)

  • 6 years ago

    I miss eating out in my favorite restaurants. I miss having lunch with friends. I miss going to the gym six days a week. (It's open but my doctor said no until there's a vaccine) I miss shopping at HomeGoods, TJ Maxx and Target. (I still do a Target run occasionally for things I need and they're back to regular hours. TJs and HG close at 7 for some reason) I miss distancing myself from my own local families because of where they might have been. Grandson was in NC for a week visiting his girlfriend starting grad school at UNC and they closed the school down on Monday). I miss my old life. The other day I was sure it was Monday , but it was Sunday. All the days are basically the same. Groundhog days.

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  • 6 years ago

    My measuring spoons. 😊

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  • 6 years ago

    I am tired of staying at home and who knows how much longer this will be. I miss family coming over. Friday I will miss my grandson's wedding although it will be virtual but not the same. Poor kids have cut it down to 50 people all wearing masks and social distancing. The oldies have to stay home. I am just so sick of it!!!

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  • 6 years ago

    I really miss our son and his family who live hundreds of miles away from us. We have to be extra vigilant about avoiding transmission of Covid since son's DW has cancer. We don't know when we will be able to visit in person. Fortunately, we Zoom regularly and I've been sending care packages of goodies that they enjoy so much. Martha Stewart's cheese sticks are a favorite! At home, I miss roaming around at the library, checking out the collection for treasures I haven't read yet, going to Starbucks and striking up a conversation and my recreational visits to the mall. Miss going to restaurants and visiting with friends. How we took all this for granted a few short months ago!

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  • 6 years ago
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    I miss going to church. We have virtual church.

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  • 6 years ago

    Missing my bridge groups (particularly the luncheon one), My Mexican Train groups, Dinner with friends, lunches (although we do stay for lunch after golf) an occasional hug with friends, dinner with daughter and SIL, regular hair salon visits.....I did go recently because I was desperate, but told my gal I didn't know when I would be back. Probably when I'm desperate again. I'm a social person and mostly miss that.

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  • 6 years ago

    We miss travel, even the short trips

    Happy hour with a group of friends

    Lunches with a gaggle of girlfriends

    Hugs when I see someone I’ve missed

    Our two boys and their families who each live 2 hours away

    My dear 95-year-old aunt who lives 20 minutes away but can’t visit with the people she loves in her own home. She has had her son and DIL on her porch for distanced visits.

    Dinner out when we just feel like going out.


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  • 6 years ago

    not a whole lot. my life is pretty normal. I was going out about 2x a wk, now usually once every 7-10 days. what I find is that now I don't like going out even once in 7-10 days! I have a lot of doc appts I need to get to but I'm not going out now because of the heat not the virus! I was disappointed that my son and gsons didn't come out this summer, but too dangerous traveling across country with the virus and they would have been here during the surge of it in AZ (it's lowered a ton in recent wks). but the heat for them would have been horrible too. I warned him about our normal heat in the summer but this year has been so much hotter. much better to come in the spring or fall.


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  • 6 years ago

    I miss my mother. Or, touching her. I can see her at a screened window and she'll put her forehead against the screen so I can too...that's our hug these days. We were given an extra 15 minutes on the patio on Monday, so an hour and 15 minute visit after a drive of more than two to her senior facility...but she needs it, for the stimulation and encouragement.

    I miss seeing friends and feeling free to hug. I ran into an old friend in the drugstore a few weeks ago and automatically hugged her, without thinking. She looked startled, then hugged back. We talk about once a week so she knew we'd been as careful as they are with our actions and socializing all these months. We've had lots of 'driveway company', but usually masked and always distancing.

    I miss eating out. Other than take-out maybe three times, we've been cooking and eating at home. I'm running out of dinner ideas, or maybe its enthusiasm.

    Little things. I'd like to shop, not charge in and fill a list like a soldier on duty, then return to my post ;0) I've wanted some yearling oysters. An afternoon in a nicer full service nursery or taking a garden tour. Those are things that require a drive, maybe knowing someplace food would be available and probably a restroom to use at some point during the day so we haven't gone.

    Small things, I know, when considering no one in our extended family has been ill and none of our friends who all seem to be in a similar mindset. Very few around us are letting their guard down including neighbors. DH has been a trooper and stays oh-so-careful....keeping my Mom in mind and wanting to be as close as we can to her with a clear conscience. understanding she needs us more than he needs his 'normal'.

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  • 6 years ago

    I miss overseas travel too, but it can wait. I still have plenty of places I want to visit in California that I haven't been to, plus some places in Arizona and Utah that are just one day's drive from here. There are plenty of short trips we can easily take that are very beautiful and interesting, however.

    I miss going to Cárdenas Market (near our house in Cathedral City) and getting chicharrones and tamales that are made there. I sort of miss restaurants, but not all that much, as I am very content to cook all our meals, as long as I have the ingredients. I've even come up with some new recipes that I really like, but it would be nice to go out for a pizza instead of having to make it. When I get a new pizza oven, I will be less motivated to go out for pizza, but I always like going out for seafood, even if it is a seafood salad.

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  • 6 years ago

    Being casual and spontaneous. We still do many enjoyable activities but it takes much more planning.

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  • 6 years ago
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    My grand kids, normally we would be spending time at amusement and water parks, the beach and having adventures.

    Eating out, with friends or just dropping in to a diner alone and people watching.

    Faces. I will never get used to masked people everywhere. It's downright creepy IMO. I want to see facial expressions and random smiles.

    What Nickel_kg said. That pretty much sums it up.

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  • 6 years ago

    I miss having things go smoothly. It seems like everything is a battle. Getting new glasses was a ten step process rather than a two step process. It seems like so many things require extra steps and involve delays.

    i miss travel!

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  • 6 years ago
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    I miss going to our lake house in Maine but the rules are to be obeyed and we're complying. Other than that, we have a very full like. I have four siblings and one grand and her son living near me and see them often. I watch Dylan for three days a week. I can't see my other son and grandaughter and grandson due to their locations but we are messaging all the time. Right now, my husband is in the basement teaching Dylan how to make birdhouses, he just turned four. I'm making meatballs and sausage in my own home made sauce. I make enough for six so I freeze half of it. I read many books and, sadly to say, I've not done one bit of art during this hard time. I just don't seem motivated. I don't sleep very well. I'm a bit on edge but I cover it. I thank God for everything in my life as so many are suffering, I pray for them. I make sure I laugh ten times a day, it's a goal I set for myself and I'm doing way more than ten. Faith and fun is my motto.

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  • 6 years ago

    I miss seeing people's faces.

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  • 6 years ago

    Dining out

    Meeting in person with family, friends and business associates

    A hair cut

    Personal care i.e. mani, pedi, etc.

    Life being more care free

    Having a plan based on the "norm"

    Travel


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  • 6 years ago

    I miss not having to think too much about simple things. For instance, when a man is holding the door for me, I now say thanks, but no thanks. Too much thinking just to do the little things.

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  • 6 years ago
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    'masked faces everywhere ... creepy' Wildchild, and others who feel this way -- I wonder if you all are more attuned to faces than I am. I'm an introvert, and shy, and I might even have a slight touch of face blindness ... so masks don't bother me at all. If anything, I might be a bit bolder looking at people. I can look at the mask: is it a pretty color? a pattern? is it tailored and straight-laced, or fun and playful? Takes all types in the world :-)

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  • 6 years ago

    I miss very little. I returned to work in June and NOW I miss something. I miss the blissful 2 months I spent at home. I'm not a traveler. I don't really enjoy shopping. I am happy in my small home with my Prince and our 5 felines. I have weekly visits outside with my granddaughter (5 years old). I sit in a chair on the patio and she sits on the lawn. I do miss being able to hug/kiss her, though.

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  • 6 years ago

    nickel_kg Yes we are opposites in this regard. :-) I have always looked directly at people and eye contact has always been a priority for me along with facial expressions. It turned out to be a blessing for me, because when I became suddenly late deafened lip reading came more naturally to me than I suspect it would have had I not been this way.


    My best friend is similar to you. Shy and uncertain around people she doesn't know well. It got to the point when people would talk to me instead of her when they really wanted to say something to her. She has gotten "better" over the years from hanging out with me but I have been told more than once by people I walk into a room like I own it. But it's really just that I look at people directly.

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  • 6 years ago

    My main thing is that I haven't been able to visit my special needs sister who lives in a Home. The rest of the 'things' are inconveniences, but this is heartbreaking.

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  • 6 years ago
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    I miss ringing with my bell choir, especially our weekly rehearsals. But we are starting up again in two weeks! Unlike the vocal choir and wind instruments, we can perform with masks on!

    I miss walking the trails with girlfriends. They all want to walk 6’ apart and the trails aren’t quite that wide. The main concern is passing other people, who may or may not have masks on. DH will walk the trail challenge with me this year, but it’s more fun with girlfriends.

    I miss going to the fitness center. But, see above: my workout buddy suspended her membership now that the gym is open, because her husband is at risk.

    I miss eating Or having coffee out with a couple of friends, who really have to watch their exposure for themselves or a family member.

    I miss having a day to myself every week or two. DH is no longer traveling, DS does class from home (he’s a commuter student so was only gone a few hours a day anyway, but still).

    I miss my mom’s memory care staff. When we visit, it is outside and I only see the aide who brings her out.

    I miss going to the theater with my cousin, my theater buddy. Our season tickets, and the season, have been extended to next year.

    Visiting my DMIL et al. We are in US, they are in Canada, and we could fly but we'd have to quarantine before we see her.

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  • 6 years ago

    Can't say I miss anything. I have my hubby, my crazy German Shepherd & the barn cats. Don't like to shop & only go for groceries once a month. We don't go out to eat, too expensive & too far away from where we live. Guess I can say I love just being at home. For us the virus has not made us do anything different.

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  • 6 years ago

    I miss the interaction with my friends the most. Then, swimming at the senior center. I just can't make myself swim in a lane with someone else. Most swim like if they were in a competition... and breathing heavy.

    If I didn't have the option to go out and ride my bike, or work in my yard, I think, I would go bonkers.

    Moni

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  • 6 years ago
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    Travel

    Yoga class at the gym

    Dragon boat paddling with my team

    Library volunteer work

    Lunch, breakfast, dinner in a restaurant

    Having a future event on my calendar

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  • 6 years ago
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    Nothing, really. It’s kind of annoying to not be able to just go where we want, when we want, but that’s not a big deal. I guess introversion does have benefits.

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  • 6 years ago

    Wildchild, that's interesting -- so besides feeling "creepy", which is a personal aesthetic impulse (like many people find clowns to be creepy), maybe you're also feeling out of basic communication, with not seeing lips? That would make a difference in how I felt about masks, too. Thanks for speaking up and giving me food for thought. I realized actual deaf persons would be impacted, but not the many people who are semi- or self-trained lip readers.

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  • 6 years ago

    Going inside a restaurant and having lunch with my cousin. Last few times we went for our county drive we got takeout and ate in the car.

    Visiting family and friends. My friend Vicki did stop by for a porch visit this week and brought me vegetables from her garden

    Going shopping at Costco - with my bad back the way it is going to Costco once a week gave me some exercise because holding onto the buggy gave me the support I needed for my back. I would race around the store a few times quickly up and down each aisle before doing any shopping. My back has gotten worse. My back was getting so much better so I could start walking without the support before the pandemic


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  • 6 years ago
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    Cherry so sorry this is causing more problems with your back.


    Same as most everyone here, there is so much that I miss. My top items are spending time with family and friends, hugs, going out to eat, getting my steps in at the mall when it is too hot to go for a walk outside, feeling comfortable grocery shopping, spending weekends with friends in the desert, my book club, travel, our extended family Easter, our annual big 4th of July celebration and so much more. Even with missing all of these things I think I am saddest that we were not able to have our planned Celebration of Life for my mom and party to celebrate my son’s graduation from college. Hopefully this will happen at some point.


    That said I am thankful none of my close family or friends have come down with Coronavirus, so it is all worth it.

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  • 6 years ago

    I'm trying really hard to focus on what I have to make this all easier. I do however have "fake" tickets to France next May. Fully refundable and expected to fully refund....but it's fun to think about!

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    I think one of the saddest parts of this pandemic is not being able to be with loved ones when we need them the most like at funerals or even not being able to be with a loved one when they are in the hospital or in nursing homes where you can't visit them. I have watched 2 funeral services online where only a few of the family are present and self distancing. So sad for them. Sorry for you loss Jill and not being able to have the Celebration of Life for your Mom.



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  • 6 years ago

    I miss...Friday afternoon ‘wine time’ with neighbors...spontaneously going out to dinner with friends...spending holidays with my siblings and our families...shopping with my husband...giving hugs.

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  • 6 years ago

    I miss the once a month 60 mile drive to shop at Costco, Walmart, Home Depot, and the cheep food store. I dislike buying most things online. I want to wander the store and see the Things I want, and pay less for them then at Safeway, QFC or the local hardware store. I just keep saying “ maybe next spring I will feel I can again”

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  • 6 years ago

    I miss my Tri T meetings and breakfasts. Lunches and dinners with friends. Seeing my grandson. Enjoying a night our for dinner. The gym. The dog park and socializing with friends there. My husband working.

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  • 6 years ago

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    Yesterday my GFs and I went out to lunch, ate outside...first time I've eaten out since June. It was so nice to be served!

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  • 6 years ago

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  • 6 years ago

    I am not missing anything I can think of. My life is about the same as before. I have a lot to keep me busy here at home. I still have lunch with my girls out on my porch.

    Sue

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  • 6 years ago

    I've noticed that many people mentioned missing going to restaurants. We lost about 2 out of every 3 restaurants here so there are fewer to choose from. Is a lack of restaurants the reason why?

    1929 - gotta ask, what are "fake" plane tickets? I hope you do get to go to France next May.

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  • 6 years ago

    Some restaurants aren't open but those that are have limited outside seating or takeout/delivery. Today and the past few, eating outside is variable because of the smoke.

    Thoughtful people that I know are reluctant to linger in public places and aren't going to restaurants that have outdoor seating. Many are resigned, myself included, to staying home as much as possible. I haven't been to a restaurant since early March and don't plan to do so anytime soon.

  • 6 years ago
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    Working at work and all the ceremony that goes along with it.


    Since my son feels like he must attend online classes on campus (sequestering will be over with, so screw it), we're going to a restaurant tomorrow. First time since this began. Last until it's over.

  • 6 years ago

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  • 6 years ago
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    Found the measuring spoons. All is well.😀

  • 6 years ago

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  • 6 years ago

    I miss family gatherings. My family still gathers...maskless, but I don't attend. If I do see anyone one on one, I am masked, and keep my distance. I miss going out to eat on occasion.

  • 6 years ago

    I miss Hugs.

    Missouri does not have state mandates, altho some cities do. I tend to be careful, even tho people around me are oblivious.

    I'm a hugger and I miss hugging my friends. I'm a reckless soul (haha) so hug my son anyway. But nobody else.

  • 6 years ago

    Mystical, I hugged my son when we had lunch on Wednesday. I couldn't resist, been 2 months since it's seen him and 6 since I hugged him. Felt great.

  • 6 years ago

    I miss home. I miss my apartment. I miss eating out and only cooking if I felt like it. I miss walking everywhere, especially when doing my regular food shopping at the butcher, the bakery, the fruit vendors, the ethnic groceries, or picking up take-out from a variety of places to assemble one meal. I hate riding in cars and even though I'm learning to drive, not walking and carrying things home makes me feel like a slug. I know I'm living in an especially beautiful country setting and it's been good for my husband's current health situation (although I lie awake at night worrying about what would happen if he had an emergency, as there is no help out here but a volunteer ambulance and crappy country hospital.) I am grateful that I get to breathe all this fresh air. But I miss being surrounded by highly educated people; even listening in on strangers' interesting conversations. I miss seeing interesting fashion on the streets and especially miss seeing all the good looking men. Even though I'm straight, I miss being around gay culture. Heck, I miss being around culture, period!

  • 6 years ago

    Never thought I would say it, but I miss working...