Downsizing WTF?
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Comments (28)Wow, I forgot I shared that Tx. She walked down the hall... then came back, asked "is SD going to be ok if I oust her from 'that' room" and I said "oh, no, sorry, you and dad are in DD's room". And then continued what I was doing. I didn't even look at her. But the energy sure was weird! I could "sense"/"hear"/"feel" her muttering to dad.... She slept in the spare room last night and DD and Gpa slept in DD's room. DH told me not to put her in there but I just didn't feel up to anything. I did not change the sheets or make the bed though. Usually I would. But I am just barely well right now. When they came back last night I said "there's homemade chicken soup in the fridge" and they weren't interested so I directed them to a nearby restaurant. Yay me. I was up coughing all last night. This virus will not go away. hahahaha the funniest thing happened though. SM came in the house last night and then I heard her and dad talking and she said something and then he said, I have to get the bags out of the car first and then she said, oh, well, are you going to want me to help with that? and he made this noise... huh-ma-gib-a - ish noise and she said "oh, (trilling laughter) of course you're going to want me to help" AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Bi-zotch! Quick Poll: Would any of you just expect your DH to carry all the bags in? If so, is that because you have a physical condition or a pre-set division of labor and you will be doing something else that is contributing to getting "it" done (whatever you need to do as a family to get ready/settled) In other words, would you ever go somewhere on vacation and be sitting on the couch yapping while your DH carried all of the bags in the house?...See MoreHow many clothes/outfits make up an appropriate-sized wardrobe?
Comments (13)First, thanks, All, for your thoughts. Today's my last day at work 'til the new year, and this is going to be my project. I was reading online what some people say they own /think is appropriate. One woman said she owns something like 250 hanging shirts PLUS an overflowing drawer of tees. Okay, I feel a little better about myself ... at a guess, I suspect I have 75-ish hanging items in my closet plus a shelf of sweaters above. Yet this morning I went to the dryer and pulled out a shirt to wear. Hey, I have two pairs of jeans, slacks in black, navy, gray and Khaki, lots of plain t-shirt-style tops, sweatshirts for cold weather, several pairs of shorts for hot weather. I survive. I'm pretty much with you ... in terms of what I actually wear. What I have that I actually wear is one pair of jeans, one pair of black jeans (which I sneaky-sneaky wear to work all the time), and two pairs of work-appropriate slacks -- one gray, one light brown with a herringbone pattern. I have a couple other pairs of work slacks that, um, won't zip anymore -- can't understand why! :( My plan for them is to pack them in a box and label them with a date one year from today. In one year, if I can wear them, they can stay -- if not, they're going to Goodwill without the box being opened. I think it depends on a lot of factors. Do you work outside the house? Do you exercise, play tennis, etc...? Do you live in a climate w/ four distinct seasons? How frequently do you do laundry? I do work, but I'm retiring in roughly two years. I just last night thought to myself, "I will not buy work clothes any more" -- or, I will buy sparingly, replacing only as actually needed. I actually do need a new pair of black flats. We Carolinians do have seasons, but winter is mild (40s being our typical lows). Thing is, these are also my church clothes and my going-out-somewhere-casual clothes, so I can't out-and-out STOP owning these things. But once I retire, I will not need the quantity I have now. Yes to exercising, but I feel comfortable with that arena of my wardrobe. I have "just enough" without excess. Similarly, my coats and shoes seem to be "just enough" -- that is, I have what I need, and nothing sits un-used. Must analyze: how is it that I've chosen better in these arenas? Shoes are kind of easy to analyze: A couple years ago I developed Plantar Fasciitis, so many of my shoes had to be replaced. Fortunately, my two daughters wear the same shoe size and were quite willing to take all those nice strappy sandals and heels that I could no longer wear. I can wear a couple brands of sandals -- and they're not all old-lady looking, but I have to be so very PICKY -- and I can wear any shoe into which I can slip my small orthopedic insert. Surprisingly, I have not missed one single item and it's refreshing to not have the closet overflowing. Yeah, I want to be able to say that. Do a goggle search on "personal uniforms" I didn't know that term, but I think I'm already doing that. My go-to work outfit is a Lands End knit dress ... worn on its own in fall/spring, worn with a cardigan in winter. I have probably a dozen of their dresses in a variety of colors. I don't wear this exclusively, but I probably wear this type of thing three days out of five ... especially in warmer weather. Also, search on" LBD project". "LBD" stands for "little black dress". Oh, no. I know you mean well, but I hate little black dresses. With all the colors in the world, why do women flock to no color? Go to a party, and all the women are wearing the same color? I own exactly one black dress -- one of my Lands End knit dresses -- and I always wear it with a colorful cardigan or jewelry. I want a closet that looks like one of those photo shoots in an Ikea advertisement where there are just two pairs of shoes, a couple of folded pants and a half dozen tunics. I'm not sure I want anything quite that minimal, but I understand your point. I am glad that I can sew, when I can find a suitable fabric to sew with. I can sew, and about a hundred years ago (when I was in college) I worked in the sewing section of Belk's department store -- they no longer have that department. I don't particularly enjoy sewing, but I'm compotent. Being 4'11", I do excel at hemming. I love loose linen pants and the concept of dressing that is referred to as "langenlook". It is a loose style of dressing. Reminds me: I recently saw a picture on a travel site of a woman wearing a pair of loose linen pants and a white peasant blouse. I have several blouses (in several colors) similar to the one she was wearing. She was saying it was a perfect, comfortable travel outfit, and it would work with casual sandals or Toms-type slip-ons. I liked it enough to look it up online -- I liked the pants in a tan linen and a pink linen -- and I thought I'd ask my husband to get them for me for my birthday, which is in spring. As I said, I'm not far from retirement, and I thought that'd be a nice type of thing to have as I transition out of my school-marm things. I have always been good at work clothes and ultra-casual clothes, but I have never felt quite comfortable with the "in between outfits"; that is, I'm not good at pulling together an outfit that says "full-fledged adult meeting girlfriends for lunch and shopping" -- and I'd like to be better at that. I can look like I just stepped out of my classroom, or I can look like I'm about to go cut firewood, and I do "fancy" well -- but I would like to feel more "put together" for casual events like a baby shower or going out to a museum. Hey, hey, hey -- STOP IT! I'm trying to get rid of things, and here you are encouraging me in a different direction! (Pouting.) Most women buy so many things in an effort to piece it all together. When I was younger (and used shopping as a hobby without fully realizing it), I was very guilty of buying pieces and pieces, especially sale items ... then never wearing them because I didn't have anything to match. I have become better about that over the years. I don’t think it’s outfits per se, it’s pieces that can make up a ton of different outfits. I think that 's a fair statement -- as long as they do add up to outfits. I've learned to be more intentional with my purchases. At this point I do have pants that I can't wear any more because the shirt that matched them was stained /thrown away, etc. my only exception is cocktail dresses, since they don't get worn as often. That brings up another issue ... fancy dresses are taking up more than their fair share of my closet. I'm at the age at which my daughters /my friends' daughters are getting married, so I need to keep these dresses. Obviously, I don't want to downsize my dresses, then find myself forced to buy something new for an event. Only one of my daughters is married, but I have two mother-of-the-bride dresses. A funny story -- funny now: I bought a great dress and was very happy ... until my mother-in-law texted me picture of the very same dress, saying she'd just bought it! She was iffy on whether she'd wear it or not, and I just couldn't trust her not to do it ... so I had to go buy a second dress, which I liked less. Both are in my closet. And in the end, she didn't wear the dress! I could've worn it to the wedding. Back to the point: How /where do y'all store such items? I was thinking of taking them off the hangers, gently folding them, and storing them in a basket on the difficult-to-reach top shelf. If I'm going to wear one of these dresses (I live in a world of casual dresses and jeans), I'll have weeks of notice, and I can take it out, hang it, even have it cleaned. Good idea or bad idea? Thanks, All, for your ideas....See MoreWhat's going on with this Haw?
Comments (26)Rob, I have what I believe is the same Haworthia -- H. attenuata enon. I had one that was very healthy and grew quite large (tons of pups), so I split it and made 2 plants. The first repot grew very well. I experimented with the second plant and put it in brighter light. It began to resemble the photo that you just posted, so you may be correct in pinpointing too much light as a stressor. I have since moved it to a shadier location, but frankly, the plant is taking a long time to recover. For the record, both of these Haws are planted in the same mix -- 50% C/S soil / 50& sifted perlite. Both are in plastic pots, and both live perpetually outside (I live in FL) and manage to exist well enough in tropical humidity. I water them both about once every 10-14 days, and I never worry if I'm on the late side of those 14 days. They survive the dryness. I think perhaps you have too much pot for the number of Haworthias. If you are going to re-pot, you might downsize the pot a bit. Overall though, I would try a shadier location, certainly for the recovery stage. Good luck with them....See MoreNeed help adding interest to my boring ranch exterior
Comments (30)Thank you everyone for your comments. I’m sorry I’m just posting now but I didn’t realize I had any responses, let alone so many! No the house isn’t a flip. We used to have a huge 1920s Mediterranean and its just the two of us, so we decided to downsize. We purchased this home because of the size and location. At the time this pic was taken we had just completed the siding and were in the process of painting. I don’t like the driveway encroaching on the walkway/patio, and it’s the main problem I am trying to solve. I love everyone’s ideas and suggestions. We would love to add a porch but can only build out 3 feet from the concrete pad. We are planning to expand out the 3 feet though and possibly add columns. I agree we need something vertical on either side of the door and hadn’t considered hanging plants, which is a really inexpensive and simple solution! I did purchase very large stepping stones for the walkway since I like the modern look. Thank you again everyone. And btw, the interior was completed first and it is beautiful. This home is the perfect size and location for us. We have a gorgeous view of the intracoastal and are very happy here. I will post pics when the exterior has been completed. Cheers!...See More- 6 years ago
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