Ladies, would you have a mammogram during this pandemic?
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Any young ladies feeling like you don't have a voice?
Comments (29)Chiming in to say 1) probably yes because you are female (not necessarily just because you are young) 2) we have a problem in our society in general of poor workmanship and lack of ethics as well Advice: 1) do a lot of research before getting your bids and signing a contract--this site has been very helpful to me, as well as asking neighbors, co-workers, checking with the BBB, doing a google search, etc. 2)Get a good digital camera and take pictures of the entire process-before during and after, and make sure that they know you are documenting. Also document your conversations. Half of these workmen won't blink an eye at lying about what happened, what was done etc. They convince themselves that they are justified in some way. 3) Make sure that you know multiple ways to contact the contractor--phone, email, etc, so you can get around the "I didn't get your message" excuse. 4) If you can have a male around at the time of signing the contract or even the estimate do so. They don't have to be related, just just need to appear like they know something and have an interest in the situation 5) when or if you do have to dispute something, remember that thanks to your documentation and contract, you control the situation and the paycheck (you haven't paid them until you are satisfied, right?) and don't have to put up with it. Continue to state with a friendly-to-neutral voice and demeanor what needs to be fixed and why, and DON'T let the contractor distract you with red herrings (like "I shouldn't have to fix this hole in the wall because you changed the paint color") and excuses ("Grandma was sick") Remember, you don't need them to LIKE you, and they don't care if you like them. About the cabinets: I hope you have some sort of warranty. I would be asking for a refund and opening a complaint with the BBB....See MoreCar Parades during the pandemic
Comments (41)I guess I was raised in a different world from most so although I feel sorry for all the disappointing things that everyone is experiencing, most of it is way down the ladder in importance to me. All the touchy, mushy stuff that people are doing such as the parades, etc. are trivial and useless activities to me but I don't begrudge people from participating in them if it helps them or others cope better. It doesn't take any energy or sacrifice to "care". I have a lot more respect for people who are actually doing something that requires sacrifices of their time or resources such as helping in a food bank or donating to a charity that is helping really needy people in their community. Personally, this really hasn't affected us because we aren't involved socially that much. We don't belong to any social or religious groups and since we live in a rural area we don't even see neighbors very much. So this hasn't affected us as much as more gregarious people. My biggest personal sadness about this is that it looks like our plans for something really special for our golden anniversary coming later this year aren't going to happen. But I'm not losing sleep over it. I'll be grateful that both of us are still alive after all this. We were so poor when we got married that we couldn't afford (and most definitely not our parents) a wedding and most of our lives have been spent working and making do without much traveling or fancy celebrations so this we can survive just as well. It's a disappointment but we will get over it. So, I guess I can see that parades and all these mushy FB videos, etc. might be helping young children and even teens and adults with childish tendencies get through the day - I think that beyond that there is more need of real help and sacrifice right now - IMO....See MoreIn search of engineered wood floors in L.A. (during a pandemic)
Comments (15)I wanted to let you know about an engineered wood floor that I had installed recently. It’s from Floor & Decor - not sure if experts will have negative comments about this store - but they might). I had a unique situation where I HAD to to remove ALL of the carpet in my house ASAP due to serious health issues (systemic mastocytosis - one issue is that I have allergic reactions - some milder but some severe requiring many trips to ER due to anaphylactic shock). I had to install an air purification system throughout my home also (pretty big expense) so my budget for floors was very tight. The exact color of flooring I purchased had been discontinued (regionally) by me - but were about $6-7/sq ft on both the East and West coasts (I had to pay for shipping - expensive - but if you knew the price I paid, even with the expensive shipping for about 35 boxes at 70lbs each - it appears to have been an EXTREMELY good deal based upon what I’ve read on this site). The floors are Woodland Reserve (I believe it’s an in-house brand) and range between about $5-$9 sq ft. They no longer have mine, but still have other colors of the same type - and they also have others with varying widths/colors/finishes. My floors are European Oak with reactive stain - 5/8th inch/4 mm wear/9” planks. They have a matte waterborne uv cured finish. I had to be particular re: materials and finish also due to my health issues. The lengths vary from about 25” to just under 87”. Obviously, because of the width (probably a bit wider than I would have picked out - I would have preferred about 6-7” - but everyone LOVES them) they were glued and nailed during installation. They can be refinished two times (maybe 3 - but my flooring installer said 2 for sure) which is good also - I am getting ready to have the rest of my hardwood floors refinished in order to compliment the new engineered ones. My floors were installed over the weekend before Christmas - so, I haven’t had them for very long - but I had MANY people here for the holidays - including my daughter and son-in-law with their two English bulldogs (one an 8 week old puppy). I also have two dogs - a yorkie poo and a morkie (mutts!). The weather here has included snow that has melted completely twice. The floors have held up well to muddy paws - plus, if you‘ve ever been around an English Bulldog for very long, you know how much they drool! Anyway - I am rambling now (I’ve been up all night - it’s currently about 5 a.m.). I just read your question and wanted to give you my thoughts because I had to make my purchase without even a sample (and incurred about $450 in non refundable shipping charges). If you have any questions, let me know. I tried to post some examples of the flooring but it didn’t post for some reason. I hope that it doesn’t post this LONG comment twice....See MoreBrainstorming ideas for 90th birthday during pandemic
Comments (25)Yes, those were the ones I thought would come. But they don't live in his neighborhood of condos. Actually, one of his oldest and very good friends lives there and they take a walk every day. I was there yesterday and the weather was gorgeous, sunny, mid 70s, and he saw them taking their walk just like always and told me but he refused to go out and say hello. I've known these folks since I was in diapers and even my grandparents were friends of their family. He went to school with them and they socialized a ton and best friends of my late mother. But he refuses their company. It's the depression and anxiety talking. Trying not to make it worse by allowing my Dad to isolate himself. He refuses medications, have been on that for over a decade. Absolute refusal for no logical reason. He's not senile but has cognitive decline as far as how well he functions. But it's not memory or task issues, just personality. My uncle just celebrated his 95th, he's far from his home now in assisted living due to a stroke and just sold his house and lifelong summer cottage. And yet, he managed to at least try and enjoy the company of those around him, including his family and folks at the assisted living facility. Also got letters and calls from many old friends. My Dad has a hard time with even these kinds of things. And yet, he'll risk covid and go out to the community dinner at the local church once a week to see and be seen, even complaining about the food . . . sigh! Friends call him and he complains about the conversations . . . he's getting pretty hard to converse with, a family friend told me that yesterday. The friend is battling cancer and hearing my Dad repeat the same gripes over and over is trying for him considering how he sees folks every day when he goes for chemo who would rejoice at my Dad's life, even limited by some infirmity. Dad obsesses over not being superman anymore . . . not celebrating 90 years of a quite remarkable life full of good things and accomplishments. He only focuses on losses. Dad says he feels like he is waiting for the bus of death to arrive. I say we all are, so let's try and make the best of the wait . . ....See More- 6 years ago
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