I think if you're going to do built-ins for the bar cabinet, you really need to match your kitchen for a seamless look. Why not place a piece of furniture there, that you can take with you when you move? Maybe something like this modular piece from PB, in black? https://www.potterybarn.com/products/modular-bar-suite/?pkey=cbars-furniture&isx=0.0.1854 Or, a buffet that you can serve food on when you have company? I'd put in the effort to move the light over the dining table one or two feet to the right. Then maybe rotate your table 90 degrees?

a black slate (more of a dark gray) can look great in a modern style kitchen. The wood look tiles though, be careful as some can look rather cheesy. they are fast becoming dated because of this. have you considered some fossilized bamboo? this one from CaliBamboo is one of the better qualities. (they have all colors) https://www.calibamboo.com/product-grey-hardwood-floors-vintage-moonlight-9009008001.html? porcelain tile option or, think about feathering in some of the black hex tiles like this, or doing a cool effect w/lighter and darker tiles in a herringbone. these are the blues, but you could do just the white, or grays/blacks.

I think your cabinets look nice..the arch part of the doors aren't my favorite. If it were a shaker or slab door and maybe w/different hardware, all pulls maybe, dark, I'd like them more. Now, having said that---I would take them for my own kitchen, arch and all, w/a big smile b/c they're waaaaay better than my monstrosities hahahaha. I prefer a lighter and plainer counter, but that's my preference-the counters you have look nice w/the cabinets. The backplash tho, I would want to change that, it would brighten things up. And just from what I've seen on here, under cabinet lighting would be fabulous. (also I like your bee pictures-we just started beekeeping this past spring)

White subway tiles?? White cabs? This is bascially what it will look like w/your brown granite. I think there are better options. Do you like your countertop? I can't really see what it is. Is it a granite or a quartz material? In any case, you have way too much brown happening all around that room. If it was my kitchen I'd change out the counters, backsplash and then see if the cabs should be painted. Are they good quality cabinets? good wood and not fiberboard w/plastic hardware hinges? Getting a pro job to paint those cabinets is not cheap. you're looking at 5-8K for a really good job. (that means removal of all the doors/drawers, taken back to the shop for sanding, priming and spraying. spraying the boxes on site after sanding/priming. If they are on the cheaper side but the boxes are good, think about refacing. I have custom cabinets but after 14 years I decided to paint them. You should also convert some of those lowers into drawers. drawers are so much better for storage. The kitchen company I used had all 5Star ratings on Yelp. They also had a carpenter that was able to modify my cabinets. see the open shelves on the island? originally I wanted to put my micro here, but ended up moving it under my wall oven. Their guys built me two large drawers to go in the island, and modified the spot under my wall oven to accomdate a new built in microwave. they also built the vent hood. I had all of the dated fluted trim and corbels removed. new doors put on the desk area II decided to go w/all new doors/drawers since it was only 2K more. the old ones had slab fronts for all of the top drawers and I wanted them all to match. For your island I would remove that wood support thing, get a new countertop for the island and have them do proper supports for the overhang. I would also have them build on boxes so you can take your cabs up to the ceiling. Or, just fill in the gap like this, and paint to match: Or they could get you taller doors. (if those are 36" you could do 42" and nice crown molding) add on boxes left open: If you took them up to the ceiling, they'd look like the 2nd pic, but w/crown. you could also do a nice butcher block for the island if you like. and the two tone white/blue is nice I also think if you reface, have them give you longer doors. These were the wrong ones they did on mine. see the bottom how there is a 2" reveal of the frame? my old ones weren't like that. Yours are the same way. If you get them refaced, go for the full cover Like this. see the diff w/the doors and how they almost cover the bottom frame? it looks better. You also have plenty of upper cabinet space. get a diff micro (built in. mine is the GE Profile 1.5) and have it fitted in one of your uppers or lowers. Get a decent vent hood w/a good fan. So much better looking and works better too. Paint your ceilings a bright white (they seem to be off white now). Hold off on wall paint and backsplash until you've picked the other items. If you need help w/cabinet paint colors, let me know, I have a lot of pics of colors. (mine is a shade whiter than BM Simply White. ) if you're keeping that granite (or whatever it is), any of these should work with it