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Any roses you feel Guilty about?
Comments (24)I, too, struggle with guilt and pity for roses I've accidentally hurt in some way or shovel pruned despite their being healthy. I have experienced that many times. I cope with it with a few strategies. First, I try to find homes for them rather than shovel pruning. I've long since run through and exhausted my list of friends and neighbors who might want my cast-offs. Then I turn to Craig's List and list them as FREE. Second, I'm gradually getting thicker skin about shovel pruning the roses that are heavily disease-prone or just weaklings. I remind myself they started out as nothing more than pruning material we've all disgarded tons of. Third, the money I've spent on roses after giving away perfectly healthy roses that I just didn't love, I remind myself its just part of the cost of enjoying hobby and that it defintely is appreciated/needed by these rose nurseries. I still struggle with some twinges of regret: Roses I had mixed feelings about getting rid of. Sometimes they were great roses but too big for my limited space. Occasionally there's a rose that is great in every way--healthy, viorous, blooming machine even good bloom form, that I just don't like the color of. Winsome, St. Patrick, Pierrine all did well for me, but I could never get excited by them. The worst guilt is from occasional mistakes that resulte in my killing a rose. Oops. Particularly frustrating when its an unusual, hard to replace variety. I killed off New Yorker by over-fertiling the delicate thing repeatedly until it couldn't recover. (Palm slaps forehead)...See MoreEver feel guilty...
Comments (4)Yeah well, the bidders get the plant they wanted so I can't fault them. Ever price orchids???? I kind of like to see the gesneriads get some action. The first one is probably a very nice new hybrid, but aside from its growth habit, it looks much like many netted streps. I wonder what could be had from a selfing of Bethan. The second one is also very interesting, though not particularly beautiful. It came from some mixed seed sent from South Africa by Jaco (can't remember his full name). Humph, I just remembered I have some mixed seed from him. I better get it planted! Since gesneriads are so easy to propagate I doubt if these two will be rare and expensive for long, but in the meantime its nice to see that people value them. Jon...See MoreFeeling Guilty....HELP!!!
Comments (22)Of course if you just need "permission" to toss some things in the trash, you've got it. But, since you're having a lot of feelings of pressure and craziness with stuff--which I've had too--and you probably don't really love putting large amounts of stuff in the trash--another thing is to take a deep breath and see what's driving you to the gotta-trash-it-now feeling--so you're less likely to get frustrated. Are you making too complicated a plan for give-aways? Is it a big ordeal to get to a donation station, or are you trying to pack too carefully, or what? Because if you've got a whole bag or box to toss, what's keeping you from driving it over to a donation station? What do you think you will "get" out of putting it in the dumpster? Is it just that you want to make the fewest steps between "deciding" to toss, and getting it gone, so that you think you will make more progress than if you put things in a box in your trunk? My biggest trash-toss impulses are when I've just got some little thing, or one last thing, that's bugging me, maybe that would finish off a de-cluttering project, and I don't want to "wait" for a full box, or whatever it is I think justifies a trip; or sometimes, those un-categorizable "things" that you can't imagine the donation center would want. But overall it is very easy for me to drop things off, and they take a single sack, bags, boxes, whatever, don't paw through it, so it's pretty low stress to take stuff there. I also have tried to "save up" stuff for the church rummage sale (twice a year). If given a choice, I'd rather it create funds for our church projects (if sold) rather than take it to Goodwill. But, at times that can cause me similar reaction to what you've posted--I don't want to keep it around for 4 months until the sale. So my main "guilt" is taking things to Goodwill monthly, or on any Saturday when I've got a few things, rather than saving it up for a the rummage sale. This became more necessary when one of my kids moved back home and so I can't stash boxes in her room any more for awhile. So in the past year or so I have just taken everything to Goodwill. So, don't waste time feeling guilty, but do take a moment to see how you can help yourself get back into a system that works for you....See MoreGorgeous stone counters...feeling guilty?
Comments (15)So many wonderful, admirable and honorable points about the planet, resources and our human impact on the world, As it relates to our kitchen reno. I am thankful to be a part of such intelligent souls on GW. Be-careful not to get so bogged down you become depressed about the world as it relates to your kitchen reno. I truly believe in being as eco-friendly, environmentally aware and responsible. I also believe we need to be at peace with our choices and even the choices others make. And doing the best we can is one step in the right earth friendly direction. I chose a granite that is found in the US, (many soapstones are too) but I would never be upset with a gardenweb friend who chose a granite, soapstone or marble that came from another world. So many sides to the coin to consider. The piece of rock you buy from Brazil, India or China is giving a job to many people. People who without the sale of that rock could starve. While the fossile fuels used to transport that peice of rock are considered wasteful, think of the family the rock you bought is supporting. It would be great if we could come up with other ways to transport that rock that are not related to fossil fuels, but meanwhile you could be feeding many hundreds of families with the purchase of your stone. Pat yourself on the back for giving to the world in this way. Still feeling sad about our planet. A great book to read, buy, lend to another or borrow from the library is called. The Live Earth Global Warming Survival Handbook. by David De Rothschild. This cute little book can help you help the planet. And as it relates to your reno, perhaps think about the lighting, natural lighting options, energy efficient appliances, better wiring, better functionability, Yes, even the foods you cook or grow in a kitchen garden, water saving faucet, quick heaters that retain heat with less waste, recycled tiles, reclaimed wood or recycling your old kitchen cabinets to habitat for humanity.... But don't beat yourself up if you can be perfectly eco-earth friendly. Do your best and share your positive enthusism with others. This goes further than feeling sad about our planet. Thanks for letting me share my favorite book. ~boxerpups...See Moreravencajun Zone 8b TX
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