Does she look like the kind of person who would love it if you left some great cookies or the kind of person who would rather have some non-fat yogurt?

Or both! ;-)

When I used to house-sit at that age, one family always made a lasagna for me. I’d eat it all week! It was homemade and delicious. I loved it!

Bottled water, flavored water, the foods you mentioned, along with cookies and such. Lean Cuisine or other frozen meals. I love Amy's frozen mexican meals, they're about the healthiest on the market and ever so good! Ritz crackers w/peanut butter is always good.

Fill up with frozen foods and tell her it's all hers. Yes to lunch meat and bread, mayo/mustard. Lettuce tomato onion, and a bag salad with a couple of different types of dressing. Cheese sticks are good.

And let's not forget, chocolate covered nuts. :)

That’s a 19 year old for you. She’s a family acquaintance. Are you friends with the mom? I would ask her.

I would buy a variety of things most of which I would be able to use if she doesn’t.

Yes, I'd ask the mom. And have a couple gift cards to local eateries.

IME, no one but your own family answers that question with any detail (if then). Me: what do you want for dinner? Random kid: Whatever is fine.

As long as she has a car, i would have on hand even less than you already bought.

I would presume her rate covered her meals unless otherwise specified, because otherwise its likely to be wasteful or inefficient.

Thank you all. She will be sleeping here, she will definitely spend time here but she babysits for another family for 4 hours a day.

Yes the wifi password is written down, along with "Please do not clean my induction cooktop with anything other than water"

Can't ask the mom. Mom walked out on the family 8 months ago. This young woman is home because with the sudden upheaval in family situation including finances(loss of one income and the insurance provider) she needed to take the semester off from school to reassess college finance situation.

Cant ask the dad, he would probably say whatever too. He is very stressed and depressed right now.

I will add in some Amy's burritos, some chips and salsa, salad, and clementines, a bag of cookies. She will be fine, she is a Maine woman ! I asked if she would be okay if we got hit with freak snowstorm and 24 inches of snow. She said - "wheres the snowblower, or do i need to shovel."

OMG, such a sad story. Sounds like a win win that you can help her and she can give you some peace of mind. I changed my mind; stock the pantry!

Yep. I was actually out to dinner with friends and they mentioned she was back and I said "Oh I wont send dogs to kennel and have neighbor take care of cats, I will hire XXXX" I just want to hug her, she is such a sweet girl. Her dad was a coach for my kids and she always volunteered to help with snacks and serve at the concession stand. So she has been my volunteer buddy since she was probably 8.

This is catty - I never really 'liked' the mom. People, other moms in our volunteer inner core, kind of noticed. But she was a 'signer upper' not a follow througher' if you know what I mean. She often organized cocktail events for fun, not for fundraising, and I mostly didnt bother.

I think i will get Dove ice cream bars. Don't they soothe the soul?

Definitely Doves. And microwave popcorn. Cinnabon cinnamon bread and peanut butter. Kraft Dinner Mac and cheese, make sure you have butter and milk, or else the instant kind. Maybe a Starbucks or Panera gift card if they are nearby.

Ditto what Mtn said, stock the pantry. My heart breaks for her. Give her a huge tip too. :)

ETA: ROTFLMAO at bpath's suggestions!

Know what I like for comfort food? Canned Dinty Moore Beef Stew and Spaghetti O's with meatballs. Get her a dozen each.

Oakley, I have a college kid, that's what he'd want! Oh, and some Boursin and some rolls, and Havarti and Triscuits. Oj too.

......and if there's anything left over, pack it up and send it home with her!

The very handsome 6’4” coach dad gets a parade of casseroles weekly, no need for doggie bags from my house. Lol.

Maybe add in a grocery gift card in case there’s something she’d really like to have (a particular soda, etc.) that you don’t have stocked for her. My comfort food at that age was chicken noodle soup and a tuna fish sandwich. Ramen noodles are good, too!

Ooh, tuna fish sandwich. Now you have me craving!

Yup, at that age I'd want tuna! and things like pickles, cheese, crackers, and cereal!

“Mom walked out on family...”.

SMH. I try not to judge. I try to understand people have their own personal struggles....blah, blah, blah.

I have a hard time with that one.

Did you know Starkist sells a ready to eat tuna salad kit, and it comes with crackers? Ixnay to crackers though, bread is better. lol

Michele, as bad as it must be for the daughter, there has to be more to the story IMO, which is why I can't come down too hard on the mom. It's a known fact that both men and women who seem to appear to be perfect people, are not so perfect behind closed doors. Not all abuse is physical, the worst is emotional.

I read that many couples wait until the kids are in college to divorce, which DH's parents did. Such a pity the girl has to pick up the slack though and have her life put on hold.

Oakley, I know. Believe me, I struggle with my own issues. I understand couples splitting. That is commonplace.

Not from kids though. She’s only 19. To have your mother walk out of your life?

A long time ago, when our two oldest were little, my husband told me that one of his relatives had divorced his wife. Very rare for his family (their culture). The kids go to the father. I told him if we ever split, the kids were with me. He said no, he could never be apart from them. We joked about it, and said that settled it, we were together for good!

Localeater, I really feel for the kid. I hope things work out for her. She sounds like a great person.