I've got a different take, but be forewarned, I do NOT have any problem with dated finishes, IF they are in good condition. While I don't care for your wall color, the rest of the bathroom looks very nice in a late 80's - early 90's style. 1. Since your entire house has beautiful oak trim, I definitely would NOT paint the trim and doors. If the vanity wood, doors and drawers are in good shape, I would also not paint them. I'm in the Chicago area and the experience is similar here - painted trim is typically used to hide (cheaper) pine (or now even cheaper MDF), while oak is left stained. Change the vanity hardware; you'll have to be careful about the footprint of new hardware. If it's smaller than the old, it might reveal a ring of different colored wood. You could, if the vanity is not in great shape, paint the vanity only. There's no concrete rule that says every scrap of wood in a home has to be the exact same finish. There is also the option of cabinet refacing, if the vanity is structurally sound but the finish is bad. 2. Change the countertop, sink, faucet and light fixture. I'd use a Corian type surface for the counter. Your daughters would not have to worry about being extra careful with the counter. 3. Since you have no intention of selling at this point, do what YOU like. Pick the counter and floor to complement each other. Then pick wall paint to match; it can easily be changed. 4. Because of the large light, consider installing a dimmer. Pick a style where the dimming and on/off functionality are separated in the same switch (many styles available). That way, you can dim it to medium, leave it there and then just turn it on and off. When you need the brighter light, you'll have it. This post was edited by DreamingoftheUP on Sat, Mar 22, 14 at 10:53

I'n not sure if you will even need the other 2 recessed lights in that size space. I guess it depends on how much light the fan will give. I have a bath that is 5 x 7 and we have the lights over the vanity (2 -60 watt) and a 4 in recessed light in the shower and that seems fine to me. But if you want them, why not have them over the center aisle? I assume the lights on either side of the vanity are good task lights?

no, it wouldn't I mixed finishes in all my baths..looks pretty natural. I don't even think people notice..they just see bigger picture. Don't mix brushed nickel and polished nickel, or chrome and nickel, these are too close to mix successfuly. ORB is different enough from brushed nickel, and also gives that very neutral feel, it being dark..you should be fine. but you can also cross post your question in Home Decorating forum..there's usually where questions about colors etc. go. Or Bathrooms one..but Home Decorating has more traffic..you 'll get more responces

If you go to your local tile showroom I'm sure they will help you pick all the materials and recommend the right sizes etc. As far as visualizing it all, the most simple way without getting any crazy software, is to use power point. I make visual boards all the time on Power point by just cutting and pasting the items I'm using. You can format the pictures to remove the background and at least get a sense of all the finishes together. This one is super simple, but allowed me to see the wainscoting, flooring and wallpaper.