OT: Singing book (how-to) for teen?
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Comments (33)Start of the season...when 101.9 (Baltimore) and 97.1 (Washington) start their all-Christmas music around the middle of November...I never tire of Christmas music and love every minute of it! I just wish they played it until January 6...or at least through New Years Day! If we're home for Thanksgiving, we usually put up our outside decorations - lights, wreaths, garland. Sometime b/w Thanksgiving and December 6, we start decorating the inside - starting with our fireplace mantle. December 5/6 is "St. Nicholas Day", the children hang their stockings the night of Dec 5 with a letter to Santa. Santa stops by that night to pick up the letter and leave a small gift along with some fruit & candy to "tide them over" until Christmas. A week or so before Christmas, we all go out to cut our tree. We like to keep our tree up until well into January, so getting it little later means it lasts longer. (The tree in January helps lighten the drab days of post-Christmas winter.) On Christmas Eve, if our church has a service, we attend the service and then have my brother and his girl friend & her son over that evening. That night my DH and I wrap presents...well, I do most of them. I actually enjoy wrapping gifts, my DH not so much! We'll have a fire, watch "The Christmas Story" until my DH bails & goes to bed, and then I listen to Christmas music! I then "artfully" arrange the gifts under the tree and fill the stockings (more fruit & candy), turn off all the lights except the tree, and gaze at if for a while (I love it!) Christmas Day, is a quiet day spent at home...lounging around in our PJs most of the day! Back when our DS & DD still believed, they would be up at dawn. Once they were older, we had a rule that they could not wake us until 9am. They were free to check out their stockings, but they couldn't open gifts. Now that they no longer believe...well it's the same rule...not before 9am! We unwrap gifts and then I make blueberry muffins. That night, we have lasagna for dinner. The next day, we pack up and that night head north (western NY) to visit my mom and one of my sisters and other brother until around New Years Day. We decided when we had kids that we would always spend Christmas Eve & Day at home...no traveling until after Christmas! We wanted to spend it in our home with our kids. It's worked out very well. Christmas Day ends up being very relaxed!...See MoreOT: How do you make a decision to spend a lot of money?
Comments (19)I can't spare you some of the agonizing, but it might help you to separate out one type of concern from another and so maybe whittle down to the real priorities. Since it sounds like you are buying the piano to really play it, and you have the ability to detect differences in pianos and what you like and don't, I would first focus on that--the piano you would most like to play ( that fits in your house, of course!). Holding value (monetary value) has some importance but maybe less for pianos than for cars, say, since most people go through several cars for themselves, kids, etc. and get future benefits from a good trade-in. You might not end up buying the piano that you most love to play if it in fact is so expensive it would hurt your finances in some way. Everyone has some price that is too high--though the number of OO's might vary a lot! Or you might determine that you simply don't VALUE the very best piano. I bought a guitar a while back and I knew I did not need or want the "best" guitar and did not need to impress anybody with how cool my guitar was. Also I am a beginner and knew I might not become a real expert. I did buy a better guitar than I expected, and maybe I should have bought one much cheaper until I learned more, but the price was okay for my finances so I made a "match". If I were actually a good guitar player, I would not hesitate to buy a much better one than I did but again, I think the focus would be on what played the best, felt the best, that I myself got the best sound from, and that might be different for me than for another musician. I am sure that must be true of pianos to some extent. So if there is one single piano you keep going back to because you love how it sounds/plays and you "can" afford it, buy that one. If there are a couple that are sort of equally good but in different ways--and I mean in terms of musical quality, not prestige or later value ( I had that dilemma with guitars) , that is where I would get some feedback from another musician/piano expert. The car price comparison is fine as long as you look at in the right way--you don't value European sedans (neither do I) so you drive something cheaper and buy pianos. For other people it is the opposite and that is perfectly fine. You might enjoy reading some things by Amy Dacyzn (The Tightwad Gazette). She is or has been an extreme saver and re-user and most people would not want to do as much of that as she does. But that was not her main point or her greatest strength. Her mantra was, save on everything that you can that really has no value or benefit to you if you were to spend more; don't let your money just slip away on this and that. Don't buy things just because other people do if you really want something else. Decide what is really important and don't whine that you can't afford it, because it is likely that if you really focus and avoid daily spending traps you can afford a lot of really nice things--just not EVERYTHING. Her deal was empowerment to be in control of spending. Several posters above gave good examples of that. Typical examples that have been used in some budget/happiness books is a person who wistfully says they would love to take a trip to Europe,it's their heart's desire, but just can't afford it--said while sitting on their new sofa that cost $2000. So your situation is an extension of that--there are people who have your same income who actually cannot afford a major piano purchase because they have a huge mortgage and have bought cars, and furniture, and jewelry instead. Which is perfectly fine unless all they really want is a piano!...See MoreVacation with teens - where to go, what to do?
Comments (67)The nothern Ca coast is perfect for a road trip, with many sights along the way. To make it easy on yourself, fly into the small Santa Barbara airport(if possible), and rent a car from there. Santa Barbara itself is a lovely, wonderful, bustling little village with plenty of shops, great food, the pier, and of course the magnificent beach! Oh, and USB is right on the ocean. You'll only be about an hour(a gorgeoous drive!)from San Simeon where Hearst Castle is located, but you would need to book your tours online beforehand~we dId two, one after the other, but don't recall which. I swear the views from the estate are a look into heaven! You will also be close to San Luis Obispo, a great little village with a ban of fast food chains. There's a tree~lined street you can't miss, which is reminiscent of a scene out of Gone With the Wind with the mighty Oaks and also the college with it's gorgeous grounds. I can't remember how far you will be from Solvang, but it's a short drive and well worth seeing this bit of Sweden-in-America! Monticeido and Summerland, are other small villages worthy of a bit of time, and close to each other. As an aside, i'm also somewhat of a 'food snob' and was happy to learn the majority of the small restaurants along the way have their own organic gardens and if not, the produce is bought locally from organic farmers/farmers markets. It's definitely a trip i'm planning to do again, and will take in Monterey and Carmel, possibly as far as San Fran/Sausilito. As for San Diego, I lived there for 27 years before moving to Austin, and it can get crazy on the freeways. Parking places at the beach are rare, restaurants can be a 2 hour wait, and if there's a baseball game, traffic can be at a standstill in every direction. The Del Mar Fair is in late June ending on July 4th, but two weeks later horse racing season starts~all this creates more traffic, etc in SD. Just a heads up, as it can become frustrating(and overwhelming!)and may be more than you bargained for. Just something to keep in mind if you plan a visit. Looking forward to your decision. You've been given some great ideas!...See MoreInput on rules for facetime/texting by a tween/teen.
Comments (16)How old is your dd, Lyfia? I am assuming 10-11ish? If so...I think you are spot on with what you are currently doing. Do be prepared...in the next couple of years, more and more of her friends will be getting phones. Eventually it will get to the point where, even though you are making a wise parenting choice...your child will actually become somewhat socially isolated. It seems ridiculous, and if someone had told me that when my oldest was 10, I would have been like, “So? My family, my rules.” But it’s not just the kids you don’t want them hanging around that get phones...the “nice” kids get them too. You child will inadvertently get left out of things...and might become resentful. I have a friend who is a wonderful parent, and she really wanted to hold off on the phone until High School. It was getting stupid...her kid’s friends would have to send her separate texts to inform her son about plans. She’d have to relay the info to him...things would get missed, it was very awkward. I know a lot of folks on this forum have adult children and think the answer is “no phone, period!” but in our technological world...that is not a realistic option. It is literally how teens AND adults communicate. It is a tool that needs to be managed and it sounds like you are on the right path....See More- 6 years ago
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