Need a Deideruzer for DHs Closet
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Comments (2)yes! i too would love to see some nice laundry rooms, or if there's already a thread covering this please let us know where :)...See Morehow do you get DH to purge?!?!?!
Comments (20)Wow! Steve, I Agree on decorating. Good to have you. There are many men out there who are sparce on decorations but have no clue what they like- they just don't have anything out of lazyness. I'm impressed. I think if you ever end up learning the magic to get a husband to declutter, I'd like to know the magic secret. My DH is a great man and I'm lucky to have him. But he is a saver. He saves everything. Paper is his biggest downfall in saving. If it is paper, it must be important- even reciepts from McD's. Soooo- I admit it, I declutter behind his back. Right or wrong, it is survival for me. I can handle saving things when they are neat and put up in a place, if a place is made for the things you want to keep, then fine. Our problem is the place for things as far as my husband is concerned is where he put it last. For example, he's fixing a toy in the front room on the counter, he finishes fixing the toy, the toy belongs on the counter because that is where he had it last AND the tools belong on the counter because that is where he had them last AND the dead batteries belong on the counter because that is where he had them last. It doesn't matter if the tool box goes under the sink three steps away and the dead batteries go in the garbage two steps away. SO I pick up after him. And when he wants his tool box, where does he look? You got it, on the Counter. Everything goes "here for now" and then that is it's new home. SO I do declutter and get rid of behind his back. We dont' have the storage space for everything. We just don't. Five people in a 1500 sq. ft house, three bedrooms- we don't have closets. Clutter piles up quickly. I can't stand it and I can't think around it and I get stressed out around lots of clutter. So it's survival. When he is gone on trips the magazines and catalogs that are older than a year go away- unless they are nicely put up in a place where they belong. My belief being that if they are important to him, he will take care of them. But all to often what happens in our home is magazines (for example) end up in a sloppy pile on his side of the bed. Every so often I grab them and throw them in a basket in the front room waiting for him to take care of them. I'll tell him- they are there and if you want them, you need to put them in a good place. End of the year, they go away. My point is this-- I tell my DH if something/anything is important to him, we will find a place for it. I just ask that it be neat and look nice. I believe we can find or make a place for just about anything- A place where I can have my needs for neatness and cleanliness met and he can keep his stuff. If we need to buy bookshelves, gosh knows we have plenty of space for bookshelves, we can buy bookshelves and he can save tons of magazines. IF he doesn't want to put the time and effort into finding a place for something and doesn't take care of it, then it's fair game. I try to warn my DH that I'm reaching my limit- the magazine basket is full, or whatever, and I'm going to go through it and clean it out. After that, I think it's fair game. So, I guess my advice to you PJade is the same-- help him find a place for it that allows you to have them put up, out of the way, in a place you can live with, stored in a way you can live with... And that allows him to have his need to save those wires. IF he isn't willing to work with you, warn him and explain that you really can't live with it the way it is- then do what you want. Of course, this same advice would get several of my friends in divorce court. You and your dh need to do what works for you. You need to do what you feel comfortable with and what you feel that you can do. Too bad there is not a magic solution to this age old problem. Ginger...See MoreMBR Walk-In Closet: Need Ideas & Pics
Comments (4)First, measure your clothes to determine how much short. medium and long hanging space you need. Rather than one set of drawers under the hanging rods, have a stack of drawers. Instead of bifold doors, have double doors. You can mirror the inside and use both doors to get a good look at your front and back. Here's an example of a closet with double doors. These doors are very wide. I have 18" wide doors, for a 36" wide opening, which is plenty. Inexpensive door mirrors are around 14-16" wide and 60" long, so they can fit easily on the inside of the closet door....See MoreHow much closet do you need?
Comments (38)aprilneverends- I can so sympathize with you. When my mom decided to move to NM three years ago, I worked like crazy to get just the right furniture and accessories for the small 1BR condo we had found for her after much searching. DH and I both wanted her to feel comfortable from the get-go and very “New Mexico-y”. It was adorable. But I had forgotten that my mom was never much for decor, design, or cleanliness for that matter. I had forgotten that she never makes her bed, so the “look” I had put together with comforter, blanket, pillows . . . was wasted. I had forgotten that she runs life from a ”Cockpit” of sorts, meaning a chair that has multiple ottomans, plastic tables from Amazon and overturned boxes from Amazon masquerading as tables, all around it. All seating surfaces covered with throws that are covered with cat hair. All table/box surfaces covered with paper and this and that and coffee cups and . . . Regarding one rug-type cube ottoman: “Take that out, it’s hard to move around.” (sigh). She’d order something against my recommendation, then when it arrived, say “You’re so good with decorating. Where should I hang this 3’ x 5’ painting of a zebra?” I would tell her I would be glad to hang it for her, but she needs to tell me where she wants it, as I couldn’t really speak to a good place for it. And then a couple months of sniping and hard feelings would follow. Lather, rinse, repeat. Zebrad infinitum. My solution? I haven’t been inside her new apartment (independent living apartment) since we took out the last moving box. In October. But I digress. __________________ We each have about eight feet of hanging space and a built-in dresser. DH’s shoes are in his closet. Mine are in bins in a built-in cabinet in the bedroom. Other than that there is just the coat closet (where DH has way, way too many coats and jackets). We do try to get rid of something every time we bring in something new. We’ve always had older homes, and have never had a walk-in closet. We’ll go to open houses and builder parades and stare in wonder at some of the huge closets. I’m sure when we eventually build our retirement home, it will have a walk-in closet. But it should remain quite sparse, as I hope to have only seven outfits by then. One for each day of the week....See More- 6 years ago
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