Gift cards --- don't do what I did
6 years ago
Featured Answer
Sort by:Oldest
Comments (12)
- 6 years agolast modified: 6 years ago
Related Discussions
don't do what i did!
Comments (8)Linda first things first how are you? i feel more sorry for you than i do me!! i've lived with these stupid migranes forever for about 30 years or so, but finally i did find someone who listened to me! i sure never expected it from a doctor on call (this is where you go to your own clinic and you don't have an appointment and you see whoever will see you, very common in our city as over TEN thousand people do not have a doctor, and you can only go to these clinics if you have a family doctor at the clinic you go to, if not they send you to emerg. - As we say only in canada!). well i woke up with a migrane and decided to get the prescription filled - are you all sitting down - it was for 12 wafers, i only got 6 at a cost of 106.90 (it isn't imitrex). well good news i laid down, for 45 minutes and it was gone! i'm on cloud nine right now no pain it's unbelievable! to celebrate i left the dishes, sat down and started making a foundation piecing tote bag, and of course talking to you all! i wish we could all meet, i think we would all have a great time! I remember winning tickets to see meryle haggard and jeannie frickie (and i had a migrane on that night too), but we had a great time. I've been on that circle route - family vaction time, and we had such a great time, and it was when Al still was walking, being stupid in the car and singing songs, and other things! I think any city is better than here, another restaurant closed down, a mill is closing, some university staff is on strike, it's a bad city to live in right now our down town is like a ghost town! well thank you everyone again for thinking about me! freezing cold and 26 degree and it snowed on and off all day today! debbie...See MoreWhat do you do with gifts (decorative) you don't like?
Comments (34)My mother is one of those people who loves to give gifts, but unfortunately, has no sense of what the other person likes. She orders junk out cheap catalogs, re-gifts (for instance, a make-up case where an eyeshadow or two was used), or wraps up prizes she won at bridge tournaments (keychains or BBQ tools marked "Delta Dealin' Regionals"). She is well-to-do, (maybe because she doesn't spend much on presents? ha) so she's not giving inexpensive items out of necessity. She just doesn't get it. Christmas is tricky--but my family chuckles. (My husband got a Humane Society calendar this year, the one they send for free if you've donated. He also received a plastic Thomas Kincaid corkboard/keyholder thing in a busted box that he immediately took to a "Dirty Santa" party.) But then I am left with boxes saying "As Seen on TV!," useless kitchen gadgets, hideous plastic decorative items and heavy sense of guilt for wanting to get rid of it all. "Gosh, it may not be much, but she chose it with love and wrapped it with me in mind. I can't just put it in a yard sale." I was wringing my hands over my quandary, as my closets slowly filled with unwanted items ("but my MOTHER gave me this!"), when a wise friend had a talk with me. She reminded me that when a gift is given to me, it is now mine to do whatever I like with it. It is not Mom's, with strings attached or say-so about what should be done with it. It is MINE. I own it and I have the authority to decide where it goes. And it is perfectly okay if I think it should be donated to Goodwill and be enjoyed by someone else who might love it and think they found a treasure, instead of sitting unopened and disliked in my closet. So I no longer feel bad about "recycling" her unwanted presents. The only time I've ever spoken to her about the issue was when I had to gently ask her not to give me clothes anymore, since her taste was so different than mine. Now I thank her And sometimes she does hit the mark and I am delighted by her gift. You cannot control someone else's desire to spend money on your presents. They enjoy shopping for you and they like thinking they found the ideal gift, even if it's expensive. Of course, if you don't like it, it makes you feel bad that they invested in it, but every so often you might get something you want and then the cost doesn't bother you, right? I think you're being very gracious about trying to decorate with this item to spare your mother's feelings. But it's not up to her what you do with it, because she transferred ownership when she gave it to you....See Moresophie123 ('i don't like my island') - what did you do?
Comments (1)I'm curious too! What did you decide, Sophie? Allie...See MoreOH NO...what did I do... don't look if you don't like spiders
Comments (17)For three days now, I have been seeing a rather large spider crawling across the top shelf of my computer desk. I haven't tried to catch it to put it outside, because grabbing among all the stuff on the shelf would result in a disaster. It must be difficult to go through life fearful of bugs, spiders, snakes, etc. I don't have that fear, in fact for the most part I find them fascinating, and in the case of spiders, when practical, adopt a live and let live attitude. My mother was the same, as is my sister and my children. But in my husbands family, they all are more fearful. So I am wondering if a persons feelings about such things are inherited or perhaps learned....See More- 6 years agolast modified: 6 years ago
- 6 years ago
- 6 years ago
- 6 years agolast modified: 6 years ago
Related Stories

LATEST NEWS FOR PROFESSIONALSDoes Your Business Send Holiday Cards or Gifts?
Five pros share the ways they offer holiday cheer and thank clients and trade partners at the end of the year
Full Story
LIFEThe Polite House: Do I Have to Display Decor Given to Me as a Gift?
Etiquette columnist Lizzie Post tackles the challenge of accepting and displaying home decor gifts from frequent visitors
Full Story
FUN HOUZZEverything I Need to Know About Decorating I Learned from Downton Abbey
Mind your manors with these 10 decorating tips from the PBS series, returning on January 5
Full Story
GARDENING GUIDESHow I Learned to Be an Imperfect Gardener
Letting go can lead to a deeper level of gardening and a richer relationship with the landscape. Here's how one nature lover did it
Full Story
THE POLITE HOUSEThe Polite House: Can I Put a Remodel Project on Our Wedding Registry?
Find out how to ask guests for less traditional wedding gifts
Full Story
COFFEE WITH AN ARCHITECTAn Architect's Calling Cards
The next time you run into a tongue-tied architect hanging out solo in a corner, one of these handouts may help
Full Story
CHRISTMASGift Giving the Simple-ish Way
If buying holiday gifts drives you to the spiked holiday punch, try these easier but still rewarding traditions
Full Story
HOLIDAYS15 Gifts Designers Will Really Appreciate
These things of beauty will be joys forever in the hands of any designer on your holiday gift list
Full Story
FUN HOUZZBinge on the Design of ‘House of Cards’
Pull up a seat to Netflix’s addictive political drama for sets and fashions rife with intrigue
Full Story
PRODUCT PICKSGuest Picks: Geeky-Cool Gifts for Kids
Boost your kids' brainpower this holiday season with toys that aren't just fun — they're truly smart choices
Full Story
User