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Comments (20)You did say that you didn't know her well and that she was new to the choir. It seems to me like maybe she likes her new acquaintances and would like to get to know you better. It's not necessary to give a gift every time. You could attend the wedding, take a few minutes to greet her, welcome her to married life, the church, the choir and invite her to call on you in the future when she and her new husband are settled. Back in the good old days when calling cards were the norm, it was also considered an honor for a young bride to be invited to call on an "established matron" after her marriage. It was a matter of being accepted in local society. Not necessarily high society, but older folks were prepared to provide young marrieds with their wisdom and an occasional small gift. Young married women who eschewed the invitation were rarely if ever invited again. Now since this is 2009, and the young bride probably hasn't been raised to recognize the signs of graceful society, she might be forgivven if she doesn't come around. But I think that through time, she may well come to recognize you as a wonderful person, and since you go to the same church you may still have opportunities to share the wisdom of your experience with her....See MoreTangled relatonship wedding invitation
Comments (16)Scarlett, I don't know what your relationship to these people is, but my best advice is to stay as far away from this decision as possible. It sounds like a classic no-win situation, now that you've clarified that there isn't anyone in the mix who doesn't care. If it's not your decision, stay AWAY from this sinkhole. They will figure out what to do, and you won't think of any option they won't. But someone will end up mad at you, even though you are only trying to help. Often, in fact, EVERYONE ends up mad at the innocent third party who was just trying to make peace (ever try to patch up a quarrel between two friends?) -- it seems inexplicable, but I guess it's just a safer, if unfair, way to redirect anger from a tense situation. Good luck to all these people. I feel sorry for the bridal couple. (I am following this post with care because my son's girlfriend's parents have a bitter divorce and are currently driving her engaged sister crazy with her wedding; I would love to get some insight to help avoid pain when it's our turn.)...See MoreSecond wedding - on the beach
Comments (20)Here are a couple of ideas I used from my wedding, also an outdoor and also a second: 1. Small canning jars w/ unscented white candles in them (from Ebay of course, the candles, the canning jars you can get anywhere). Hung from every possible spot w/ thin craft wire. Absolutely magical after the sun went down and so easy to make. 2. Lots and lots of fresh flowers. I stuck w/ roses, from white to ivory to pink. I was lucky enough to have a cousin who could arrange them, but I bought most of them from the grocery store and because they were cheaper, I could afford to have LOTS more. The impact of so many fresh flowers was beautiful. 3. We had a tent, which my dear husband strung w/ grapevine. We then placed lots of white christmas lights throughout and then of course the hanging lanterns. Since it's nautical, perhaps you could use net? Not sure, but again, the effect was really stunning and very easy (though time consuming) and inexpensive. 4. My focus was to emphasize the natural and to avoid the unnatural at all costs, since that's my personality. In such a lovely setting, sounds like that might work for you as well. 5. We bought sparklers and the kids loved them. Used tiki torches at the end, which was fun. 6. Cake was laden w/ real, fresh fruit and it was lemon w/ cream cheese icing. No ice cream, but there was raspberry sorbet. Not a drop left of any of it. 7. We didn't do the surprise bride thing. We greeted our guests before hand and had an hors' doevres (spel?) table w/ cheese, fruit, and fresh lemonade and iced tea. None of that was left, either! 8. Finally, my dear husband and I walked up the "aisle" together, after our parents and my sister and his best friend. This, I think, was the best part--it symbolized our equal relationship, our adult status and it just felt really powerful all at the same time. 9. Oh, in Pennsylvania, at least, you can marry yourselves. It's based on the belief that the Quakers had that noone stood between you and God. As long as the marriage is witnessed, you don't need a preacher. We had a friend conduct the ceremony, but we allowed the "marrying" to happen in a moment of silence. This was also very, very powerful and quite spiritual, since we were so closely connected to out-of-doors. 10. Oh, and one more thing, we had a string quartet from the local college and it made ALL the difference in the world. If that's not possible, think about having someone play guitar or something. I read in a Martha book that live music makes the difference and it does. Skimp on something else, but go for the live music if you can. And involve the audience. They loved the hymn singing, etc. 11.Oh, sorry, one more thing. Our wedding came at a very difficult time. My brother had died just a few months earlier. We made a point of honoring all of those in our families who were there with us in spirit, but not in person. This did not take away from the joy, only made it more poignant and moving. It is reality, with us "mature" brides, that some of our family members may no longer be present. We had a small table w/ their pictures on it under the heirloom apple tree that served as our altar. That we decorated w/ just a basket filled w/ aforementioned roses and just a bit of tulle to hide the rope that held it in the tree. Enjoy the process. It's time consuming, but fun and don't let anyone, I mean anyone, MIL, DM, SIL, anyone, tell you that it should be different. This is your one (or in our case, two) time in your life when you can do it how you want it....See Morethe wedding invite i got today....
Comments (12)Thought I'd check back in a month down the road... Turns out, I didn't go. A graduate school conference came up, and I couldn't pass it by. I sent my regards and gift to the couple and let it go. They did have a reception, though, with all the guests invited in the reception hall at the church. I think only light snacks were served (it was a 2:00 wedding). The exclusion of reception information seems to be a trend these days, though. I received another invitation from friends of mine (I know both the bride and groom) and no response card or reception info was included. I've spoken with the bride and groom since I got the invite, and they excluded them for financial reasons--they were trying to save money. We're all college seniors who have, as of yet, not gotten jobs, and I think it seems easier to cut out some of the traditional etiquette that we may or may not fully understand. :)...See MoreFun2BHere
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