plain family room - tying everything together??
heystellaaa
4 years ago
Featured Answer
Sort by:Oldest
Comments (15)
Related Discussions
So much for my keeping the family together...
Comments (45)June: You just reminded me of those early days. My DH, too, would often try to shove us all together, thinking we'd see in one another what he sees in each of us, and that we couldn't help but bond and genuinely love one another. I don't think his plan worked, lol. How could it? The BM lied about me being the reason they didn't work it all out. I wouldn't be accepting of TOW, either. Later, when she 'fessed up, too many hurts had occurred - it was several years later, sadly. Cawfe: You're right in that I don't want to go where I'm not wanted. I don't want to be w/o my boys, who definitely not wanted, either. If I have to ask my parents to stay w/ the kids, I'd MUCH prefer to use it for a nice dinner out w/ DH alone or another movie as other than Sat, it's been YEARS since we've seen a non-kids flick. And, DH is supposed to relieve mom on Wed. afternoons, but it has yet to happen. I think I'm telling her to go for PT on Wed. afternoons for her shoulder... If I ever tried to stick Dh w/ something for the kids, he'd just miserably fail. Even now, he's supposed to be helping w/ the nighttime routine per counselor. Some nights he's OK, some I do it alone, but if he's tired and I'm not done w/ the older two, he just plops the 3 y.o. in our bed and goes to sleep. Well, that's NOT really doing the bedtime routine, you know? Or his other stunt is letting them stay up really late watching a movie in bed til they fall asleep from exhaustion...grrrr! I could never trust him to do this routine during school! Southern: I, too, was a fan of Jackie's. Ironically, I believe she and Christina had a very strained relationship. I felt for both sides and I was just a kid back then! But, regardless, Jackie handled herself w/ class - no doubt about that...and no one can criticize one's grace under pressure, right? Oh well, the 'date' is hours away. OSD must be so excited - probably having a pedicure over her lunch hour... Thanks for all the support and advice! I just needed to bat this thing around - will post more when I know what transpires tonight. Oh, and I'm thinking of bagging up all the junk in her room w/ the laptop and handed it to DH as he heads out to get them tonight. She never came to clean up - I know you're all shocked beyond belief, lol. Oh, yeah, Jackie might not be this tacky - but I have a feeling if Christina had wanted anything she left behind, it'd be in the land fill by now....lol. Dana...See MoreGrown Step Daughter treats me badly at family get togethers
Comments (7)Stop answering questions that had nothing to do with you for starters. Whatever happened in someone else's relationship is not your place to discuss with the grandkids. It does not matter why the marriage failed it is not something you discuss with them. Who cares if they think one way and you happen to know they think wrong. You should have switched the subject long before the 'slip' came rattling out. What happens/ed is up to the parents to discuss with their children when and if they decide the tidbits are any of the children's business. Politely telling grandkids to mind their own business and/or telling them the topic is something they need discuss with their parents is all you needed to say. Nothing you say on your weekly visits should be anything that can not or should not be repeated when the kids get home. True, they should not be being grilled, but as you're now known to feel entitled to set topics straight (even if slipped) and/or allowed such topics to be discussed in the first place...well, you've left yourself wide open for the parents to protest and suspect. All you can do now is be certain there will be no personal discussions of such nature again. The believed 'offense' has already occurred so now it will take time to rebuild the damaged relationship (if it can at all be repaired). As far as the get-togethers, it really depends on what the adult children are doing. Are they saying bad things to you while there? Omitting you completely from the social talk? Glaring daggers at you? Just 'treating you badly' leaves plenty of room for about anything and/or everything my imagination can think up. If the adults are truly deliberately making you uncomfortable and are truly misbehaving and going out of their way to make you totally unwelcome, that's more serious than say 'She did not say hello to me when I entered the room'. While you don't necessarily have to 'like' each other, as grown women you both should be able to tolerate each other for an occasional afternoon. If it's not so, excuse yourself and stay home. Just tell your husband you have no intentions of attending a family event where you are poorly treated and unwelcome. I would think he could also remind his daughter that when she visits someone else's home (like husband's mother's home or another relative and/or mutual friend)she too is a guest and should mind her manners out of respect for the host. I'd see no need though for you to be expected to visit the daughter's actual home if she does not want you there. She must not think you are all that bad if she continues to use you as her babysitter every Sunday. She has not tried to ban the grandkids from you. Seems the lady thinks you're fine to babysit and be grandma, just not ok to discuss personal topics with her children while they are present. You can't stop her from wagging her tongue to other church members. Best you can do there is see to it you don't do anything that gives her reason to gossip. If you have a clear conscience than she has nothing to wag about but untrue gossip that your true friends in the church having known an asociated with you will know is untrue....See Morereplacing art and tying living room and dining
Comments (30)jess,,,,here is guide for you on hanging art. from the floor up, the CENTER of the art piece should be between 56-60" (center, not the bottom of the frame) . From the floor to center of the TV, should be about 58-60". eye level. everything in that room is hung for 7'6" humans. even the new one over the sofa is still too high. get a tape measure and mark 56" from the floor, onto the wall. now put your art or tv center on that mark. that's where it gets hung. (give or take an inch here or there) your tv needs to come down at least 8-12". the gray art piece over the desk, bring it down to where your tape marks are. as for the pictures you're choosing, art is personal. if you like it and it goes w/your colors and decor, get it. that small boob light is killing me. if you can't do a hanging light, do a semi flush or flush mount....See MoreHelp! Rug ideas to tie family room together
Comments (16)Start with a good-sized high-contrast rug like those suggested already. Once you see how that looks, then move on to your other ideas--desk, bar, etc. Grover's idea for a sofa table displaying photos or art work is just great because it opens up the window and curtain space. Going forward, Keep in mind that you have all brown flooring--a "fourth wall"--massive brown sofa, big black TV set, brown table in the niche, and brown coffee table. Enough with the brown! Notice how great your curtains look. Add light pillows or pieces with color or other finishes than brown. Good luck!...See Moreheystellaaa
4 years agoTransitional Designs, LLC
4 years agolast modified: 4 years agoheystellaaa thanked Transitional Designs, LLCheystellaaa
4 years agoZapata Design, LLC
4 years agoCelery. Visualization, Rendering images
4 years agolast modified: 4 years agoheystellaaa thanked Celery. Visualization, Rendering imagesCelery. Visualization, Rendering images
4 years agolast modified: 4 years agoheystellaaa thanked Celery. Visualization, Rendering imagesCelery. Visualization, Rendering images
4 years agolast modified: 4 years agoheystellaaa thanked Celery. Visualization, Rendering imagesheystellaaa
4 years ago
Related Stories
Woven Wood Shades Tie Rooms Together
Contrasting sharp modern edges or complementing a contemporary look, these window shades are a lovely finishing touch for any room
Full StoryADDITIONSRoom of the Day: An Addition Designed to Bring a Family Together
A new space combines pantry and homework area and overlooks the backyard to keep parents and kids connected
Full StoryDECORATING GUIDESHow to Focus Your Family Room on Family
Reclaim your room from screens and headphones with these ideas for fostering family togetherness
Full StoryDECORATING GUIDESRoom of the Day: Something for Everyone in a Seattle Family Room
Family members downsize to a home that will shorten their commutes and give them more time together — much of it spent in this room
Full StoryDINING ROOMSRoom of the Day: Grown-Up Style in a Family Dining Room
Easy-care fabrics, a lighter color palette and a great furniture save help a Boston-area family get the transitional look they were after
Full StoryTRENDING NOW4 Great Ideas From Popular Living Rooms and Family Rooms
These trending photos show how designers create living spaces with style, storage and comfortable seating
Full StoryDECORATING GUIDESRoom of the Day: A Family Room That’s Up to the Challenge
An invitation to do a makeover inspires an interior designer to revitalize her family room with bold colors and prints
Full StoryTRENDING NOWThe Most Popular New Living Rooms and Family Rooms
Houzzers are gravitating toward chic sectionals, smart built-ins, fabulous fireplaces and stylish comfort
Full StoryROOM OF THE DAYRoom of the Day: Moody Blue Update for a Family Room
Comfort, function and style bring this room up to par for a stately Georgian home on Long Island’s Gold Coast
Full StoryROOM OF THE DAYRoom of the Day: New Family Room Goes Big and Bold
This addition to a 1920s Connecticut home features beautiful built-ins, graphic color, layers of pattern and pleasing proportions
Full Story
Celery. Visualization, Rendering images