Linen white is a stock off-white that many people (including myself) love. Ballet white (OC-9) is supposed to be completely neutral and is very light. I think Elephant Tusk (OC-8) is wonderful, but it may be a little too dark for you. It is the same as Ivory Porcelain (239).

My deepest sympathy on the loss of your son. You will get more help if you post your question in the Home Decorating part of this forum. It's more active than this one and there are lots of talented people who have good ideas re color choice - both exterior and interior.

With that color of brick, any light shade of white or cream, along with darker shades like black, hunter green, or several shades of gray would look great with that brick color. What color is your roof? That's the other color you need to think about when choosing paint colors for your house. You do not want your trim clashing with it. Here are a couple of my favorite brick homes from Houzz painted with colors that would go with your brick: This shade of gray would work really well with the color of your bricks.

Hold off on the very white backsplash...your two cabinets color choices lean yellow...simply white is the more obvious of the two. The S W white has a bit of black in the mix, but it is still a warm white. Of the two quartz, I like the softer one, first left. That gray works well with Simply White. If you are set on the white tiles, choose a very white paint, like Chantilly Lace. I think the mix of just white and gray is kinda meh! What else have you got going on for color in the house? Any blue?