Does your house HAVE to have something to feel "right?"
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Comments (19)antiquesilver, that's IT! I may not even be looking & find a single, perfect piece. I do find, tho, if I'm actively looking for something? I almost never find it. It's when I distracted (adhd) with something else that it pops up in front of me, or when I've just decided to (or been forced to) go with good enough? It'll happen. I find the same, though. When the perfect item hits me in the face, it does go with and probalby compliments whatever's going on, anyway. I don't really care about cost (that's the old me talking) but I will now, shop my bummy off. I'm big on asking for layaway, contractor, AARP, DirectBuy, any discount other that might be available. I'll save if I have to, to get exactly what I want. No more good enough for now!! Waste of $$. I found myself in a pretty lucky situation. After a 2005 fire, in 2006 we took the insurance money and a loan, and bought almost all the materials we needed for the house. Windows, doors, fixtures, some lighting, toilets, sinks, things like drywall nails, nuts & giant bolts for the front porch, joist hangers, you name it. If you can name it, I probably have 3 of them. Anyway, in 2008 when I decided I couldn't wait for STBX to put his $$ where his mouth is, I started working to put these materials in place. Windows installed, electricity done & corrected, plumbing installed & corrected, heat & air conditioning, doors, etc. So it was over 5 years that I've worked to do these things. Still got more to go. :) Getting to the point: I continue to be grateful that I still like the fixtures, paint, tile, lighting, etc., that I picked out 5 years ago. The only casualty are 3 flush-mount lights that I bought because DH actually offered an opinion on them. I'd like to sell these. 2 are still in the box! I don't like the cabinets I bought for the MBR. No "ah HA! I also discovered after I bought them, that what sucks me in are inset cabinet doors. No wonder I couldn't find a cabinet style I loved!!! I didn't KNOW what I loved! But I evidently do still like my own "Ah HA!" stuff. What a weird blessing....See MoreDoes your house have feature sheets?
Comments (19)And as a buyer, a sign with just the Realtor's info. annoys me. [...]I generally won't call the Realtor to find out about it, but if there's a flyer in the info tube, that'll generally answer my basic questions. sweeby, I am exactly the same way when I am searching for houses - I'd much rather get the initial info on my own without having to talk to someone. Those REAs generally want to ask you a million questions too. They all think they can find you a house "if this one's not right" and then, IME, proceed to turn around and try to show you every house that is exactly NOT the type you're even remotely interested in. Actually, I'm pretty sure that's what happened yesterday after our agent showed the house to a buyer who had called the infoline. They didn't like our house, and I think she probably spent the rest of the day with them looking for other houses for them. The agents prefer the infoline number with no flyers and get excited when someone calls them because my sign is providing them other business. But I digress... Thanks patser for showing me your FS - it helped me make one for this weekend. And roselvr, that's a great starting point! I've downloaded the template and will play around with it today to make something even better than what I had....See MoreDoes your house have to be up to date at all times
Comments (47)Great question! I like to know what current trends are, but not to chase them. If something is 'in' and I like it, and it suits my style, I may incorporate it into my house in a small way. It might be something as small as a lamp shade, accessories, throw pillow, or paint color choice. My style is still evolving (I'm in my mid-30s), but I have a strong enough sense of what I like (traditional but not fussy), to feel comfortable ignoring trends that don't appeal to me. Like ideefixe, I don't like the idea of my home becoming stagnant, so this approach lets me keep things a little bit 'fresh' while remaining true to myself. I used to think that my preference for a relatively traditional style, with a mix of current and antique pieces, meant that I was somewhat immune to trend-chasing or the potential to be dated. But it occurred to me, while reading the recent threads on trends/what's 'in', that different time periods/decades have their own approach to 'traditional' style. The 80s' interpretation of traditional was different from that of the 90s, and that of the 2000s, and so on. I'm sure it's the same with more contemporary styles. There are regional differences too. The era/region may manifest itself in the choice of upholstery (solid vs. patterned, geometric vs. floral), colors, or hardware. Few rooms are truly timeless, even if many of their elements, viewed in isolation, would be considered timeless. Magnaverde's room is timeless but that is the exception rather than the rule. Since my antiques are mostly in the bedrooms, and the living areas are furnished with things I bought in the last 10 years, my house probably screams "late 90s/early 2000s 'traditional.'" To some, it's already dated, and to many, it soon will be. But the rooms that are finished or close to being finished reflect my taste, and that's what matters most to me....See MoreI feel horrible but it feels right.
Comments (31)You probably would have always wondered what he was like if you hadn't taken him in so it may be a blessing in disguise. Now you know so you can put that mystery to bed. He does sound like a con man so I'd be careful with any financial papers left around. Lock them up & when he's gone after the house sale, you can start a new chapter & have a very good life. Your ex-husband sounds like a decent man and you have a good son who cares about you. To put his mind at rest about your health, why not try one of those life alert systems? It might give him peace of mind & he does need to get on with his life. Best of luck to you. I can't think of anyone who deserves it more....See More
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