Thanks everyone. I think I will have the curtains made and the room painted and wait and see before committing to the white for the chairs. I love the curtain fabric and if the white looks wrong I'm sure I could find a creamier matelasse if I look hard enough. I just want to have it all "done" but I don't want to regret any decisions either. My kids think the empty room is pretty fun anyways! I'll update with pictures when those steps are done:)

Am I just asking too many questions at one time?

Any opinions on white ceilings vs same wall colored ceilings? We also have 10’ ceilings everywhere. Functionally: If you use top grade (not "ceiling" paint) white paint on the ceilings, you can change wall color a couple times within 5-8 years without having to paint the ceiling too. If you do walls/ceiling same color, you paint the ceiling every time you change wall color. Last, white reflects more light. Aesthetically: There isn't a right answer. It comes down to personal preference. I myself prefer a white ceiling above my head. YMMV.

Dear flippers everywhere, please refinish/restore your early 1900s wood!!! Unless its been hopelessly trashed by previous owners this wood has more value preserved than not - just take a look at the prices in architecutral salvage shops if you doubt that. Wood from this era is mostly what's left of the old growth virgin forests that once blanketed much of North America - which essentially doesnt really exist anymore, except what you find in old buildings. By 1930s/40s farmed wood began to be most common (ie growth accelants used, not the same quality as old growth wood) so probably less necessary to preserve, but still.... even that era wood is light years higher quality than the terrible splintery knotty wood of today. I also want to say to you flippers - dont under estimate your buyers. Just because you see acres of white painted wood in just about every RE listing doesnt mean buyers are clamoring for that. It often only means the seller got lazy or was in a hurry, and took the RE agents advice to slap white paint on it. The paint lover buyer is always free to paint if they wish, but the vintage wood lover is very likely NOT going to be able to undo a paint job. Once white paint gets deep into the crevices and pores of the wood it's essentially ruined. You can have very appealing current color schemes which incorporate wood tones. Just recently I saw a house with incredible heart pine stripped bare w/ clear satin finish and a sorta Scandinavian pallette of light grays/ blue-grays/ blue-greens throughtout which contrasted beautifully with the rich tones of the wood.