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Comments (7)Hello Sue, How nice to hear from you. I haven't posted for a while. Don't give up on your plants, even though I'm disappointed that the first two haven't come true to their supposed names,last years was a superb rosy red with yellow middle. The new one to open this year was supposed to be Chiang Mae rainbow but is very much like Celadine my old plumeria but with a different sweeter lemony smell. Also it doesn't hold it's blooms like Celadine. I definately won't be buying any more as I've quite a lot. I bet my home grown seedlings have more exciting colours that's if the seeds were of the varieties given!If I can wait that long! They are around 4 years old now. Hang in there Sue! Kind regards Hazel....See MoreMixed feelings
Comments (29)Most everything has been said quite well. About the only thing I can add Dottie is that with the challenges you've faced in the years, with which you've face with strength and courage I've never seen matched. It can be normal to be suspicious of a good thing. Your heart has been broken so many times I just hope you're not risking a good thing from a subconcious fear of something bad happening again. Don't be afraid to have some happiness for you or your family! I hope this isn't the case and certainly understand your apprehension. But this is a good thing to happen. And it's meant to be. I look at it as possibly a reward to Dok for his strength, courage and such through an horrific time of his life. Keep in mind it's a friendship right now. See what happens. Hopefully it's going to be a great thing for all no matter where it goes. I can appreciate the situation from a bit of a reversed angle. My mother died from cancer and my dad didn't take it well. He talked suicide, etc. Probably about a year or so later my dad's neighbor's husband died after a long battle with heart trouble. Of course Barb was devastated. She wanted to go to Norway and she and Rollie had planned this for so long but with his health it didn't work. My folks wanted to go to Scandinavia and put it off and put it off, then the cancer hit and 6 months later Mom died. One day we were at an event of some type and Barb came up to my dad and asked how he felt about going to Norway with her. She didn't want to go alone and knew he wanted to go. Well, he wouldn't even think about it. "What would people think???" I couldn't get him to understand that he's depriving himself of happiness by feeling guilty. Then one day he mentioned it to my uncle (his sister's husband) with whom we've always been close. His response? Why the he!! not??? Then he threw in the kicker. "I think you should find a nice girl and get married again. Let's face it, there's no sex after 55 anyway!!" LOL And he went on to say set up a Will and you can still leave the kids what you want, what's yours is yours, what's hers is hers, she can give her kids what she wants and you can have that all set up from the start but there's nothing wrong with some companionship. (Bill was a very wise man IMO) But the "what would people think" haunted him until his death a couple years ago. My mother's only sister was diagnosed with cancer in 1964. In those days, no type of cancer was curable and they were hardly treatable. Well she attended my mother's funeral in 1977. My aunt's many illnesses were tragic. Her mind was affected, her memory too. She became unbearable to live with and how her husband and daughter came through it to me is amazing. But after she died, her husband remarried shortly after. A close friend of both my aunt & uncle lost her husband right around the same time and she had a couple kids. They talked after my aunt's death and has much in common and were good friends. They got married for companionship. He was afraid to tell us about it (what would we think!) and my cousin let it slip one day while we were talking on the phone. We were talking on the phone. She was raised in Texas so she has quite a drawl. I hadnt' talked to her in some time and asked how her dad was and what's new. "Well, we-all got married down here". And jokingly I said "You and your dad?" and she goes uh, yeah. It hit her then that she let it slip and she told me the story. I was so happy for all of them. The sad part though was to come. Not long after they were planning a trip up and called and asked me if I thought my dad would want to see them. He was downright scared that dad would think poorly of him. I said heck yeah, he asks about you all the time. So they had the trip planned out, would stop in the area for a day or two (or whatever they felt comfortable with staying) and the night before they were to leave, my uncle told his wife he was a little tired so he was going to take a nap. Nothing unusual there, but he never woke up. Had a heart attack and died. Shock isn't the word, he was in excellent health, no heart issues, just one of those things. (Stress perhaps?) I was glad that he had the companionship and "reward" so to speak for the tough years. He had some real happiness at the end. Wish I could have seen him - great guy, but I digress. Life's short. Life's unfair. Appreciate the good things and as long as you know it's right do it and enjoy it. I've babbled on enough. Relax my dear. Enjoy some good things happening. There's no disrespect or dishonor here. My best to Dok! Wishing nothing but happiness, joy, good times and fond memories to all of you....See MoreVery mixed feelings
Comments (26)I'm sorry for your loss, taigen. I, too, can relate. My first wife loved Christmas. She would be as giddy as a little kid during the holidays. We were married on the 27th of December because the church was so beautiful with all the decorations. 16 years later our Christmas celebration was in a hospital room as Mary fought ovarian cancer. She was able to come home for our anniversary but died on the 30th. Christmas is always a tough season to get through. Ron...See MoreMixed feelings about Japanese Beetles Traps
Comments (2)I know several people who have used JB traps & say all sort of positive things about because they have caught thousands...no millions of JB's. I think what has happened is a psychological, you killed large quantities of JB's.....it must be helping....you have to be controlling them! In reality if you know about insect reproduction, its just a "drop in the bucket", but it makes you feel good, it has to be working, because you think you killed so many. Second I've heard people say, "I trapped massive quantities of JB's for 2 or 3 years, and all of a sudden the numbers declined. That proves traps work." Well not really....again JB's are just like most other insects. They have up & down years in their life cycle. The drop in numbers is more likely due to a down cycle in their population than any trapping that was done. My opinion is, I don't believe traps really do anything for JB control....See Moresatine_gw
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