How to word this invitation?
Annette Holbrook(z7a)
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Comments (11)I guess the showers I've been to are different from the ones other posters attended -- maybe this varies by community, too. I have rarely seen any games; the showers I've gone to have all been just refreshments, conversation, and opening gifts. The closest thing I remember to a game was a bridal shower where we each had to draw a slip of paper out of a hat with a marriage-related topic on it and give the bride a piece of advice on the subject (I think she was the only unmarried one there). It was fascinating, especially hearing from the oldest people. I don't know if the bride was listening, but I was! I would probably find most actual games kind of silly, but they wouldn't bother me, and I would participate cheerfully. The thing that I would find offensive is a "shower" at which the gifts are not opened in the guests' presence. As has been said many times on this board, showers are the only exception to the rule against including instructions to bring a gift on any invitation, because obviously that's the point and main event of a shower: watching the guest(s) of honor open the gifts. Calling the party a shower and then not having the honoree(s) open the gifts is more like a party with an admission charge than a shower. I once was a co-host of a large party for a couple, which fortunately got changed from a "couples shower" to just a party in their honor. The bossiest person in the group was insisting that we call it a "couples shower," but not open the gifts -- I think that she felt that that was not appropriate for a coed or large group or something? I don't recall. Perhaps that is where I got the idea that people feel like showers are beneath men's dignity or something. But anyway, several of us were very uncomfortable at the idea of calling it a shower (let alone "couples shower") and then not opening gifts -- one way or the other, we felt. Fortunately, someone else spoke up about it, so I didn't have to! When the bossy person said, "But then how will the guests know they are supposed to bring a gift?" everyone was grossed out enough to agree with the objector, and that was that. And then I didn't even have to say anything about "couples," because the bossy person didn't seem to feel the need to call it a "couples" party....See MoreInvitation wording help needed
Comments (2)"Please join us for a casual picnic lunch in our yard after the services of dedication for our daughter. Service at 10:30 at the whatever church if you wish to attend, and lunch at noon at our house. Please come to one or both events, we would love to share our blessing with you."...See MorePARTY Creativity Needed!
Comments (4)I would just give one party. As a guest, I would find it confusing, and perhaps even a little off-putting -- am I supposed to buy TWO gifts for the same person the same day? You don't want it to look like you are trying for double "haul" out of one party, especially because it is your own child. Sorry to be a wet blanket -- but you are going to go to a lot of trouble and expense for this party. Don't take a chance of alienating your guests. I would make it a shower, not a birthday party. Actually, moms aren't supposed to give their own children showers, but I would actually find that less strange than a parent giving her adult child a birthday party (unless it were a major birthday, like 40 or 50) -- especially on the same day you are giving her a shower. You can still have a birthday cake with candles. There is no reason men can't be invited to a shower. Trust the men in your life to be grown up. It won't hurt them to watch gifts being opened. Was that the reason for the double party idea? I would word the invitation just as for any baby shower, with no mention of the birthday and no mention of any registry. Serve whatever food suits your crowd and the time of day you want to have it -- I can't really make suggestions without knowing time of day or size and perhaps age of guests....See MoreWedding in one state/Reception in another
Comments (4)If your concern is for how you will know who is coming to what, the solution to that is to include a response card with separate yes/no lines for each event. For the invitation, you could both on one invitation, but I would do them on separate cards. Make sure that the dates are prominent on both so that your guests will notice that the events are in different times and places. I assume you mean that everyone is invited to both Florida and Michigan? You used the word "or," though, so I can't tell for sure. If you only want them to come to one or the other, then you need to decide who you want at which one and only invite them to that; I can't really think of a polite way to invite them to both but to tell them they can only choose one. I would also avoid confusing terms like "marriage celebration/reception" or "marriage celebration." Three weeks later is close enough that you can call it a "reception." People know what that means....See Moreshare_oh
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