Hi - congratulations on the upcoming event! I agree about the blurb on the address side. First, call me stupid, but I'd have to Google what a "repast" is, just to be sure. I don't think I'd use that word. And I might make it all a bit more "flowery" (although I'm not a flowery speaker) - something like "Please join us to celebrate the upcoming nuptials! ... yada yada yada), etc.

Lol, these people will know repast. It’s a very formal group, constant luncheons, debutante balls (yes, seriously).

I agree, flowery is what I’m lacking.

Glad I'm not the only one who didn't know what a "repast" is... never heard of it. I'd say "light refreshments" will be served if there's not lunch type foods planned.

Personally I’m not sure I’d want to send a post card with all that information for any random person to possibly get hold of.

I would keep it very simple and not mention food as refreshments are typically served and expected.

"We would be so happy if you could attend", "At the request of some of our guests, the registry is located at.....", "Looking forward to enjoying your company " and then I would close with the light repast sentence.

I would add the day of the week to the invite, so people don't have to look up whether it's a Sat or Sun event.

I'm so old, I knew what repast is but cannot imagine using that word today. It's gone by the wayside with a lot of other language of the day. As I was writing this I noticed your reply about repast and how formal this group is. How about "the honor of your presence is requested" LOL.

Not sure I like the idea of a post card either, but it's definitely less formal. I don't think I would put anything about a registry on a shower invitation. If someone wants to know if they're registered somewhere, they will ask when they R.S.V.P. I would just invite to join for breakfast, lunch, brunch or light refreshments, whichever you are going to serve, in honor of the bride to be, On top.....I'm (We're) Having a Shower (Please come join us for (fill in the blank) in honor of (fill in the blank) on Sat., February whatever at whatever time, at the home of.........address......R.S.V.P. (phone #).

In the "Miss Manners" column, she always says that any mention of gifts in an invitation is inappropriate. Though what point is there in having a registry if no-one knows where it is?

Thanks all!

Maybe I’ll just put the actual stores they are registered with instead of the website.

I’m doing postcards as they are quickest. Long story, short, but bride’s mom apparently isn’t into weddings and is not really involved in planning. So I didn’t realize she wasn’t getting a family type shower until Christmas and she didn’t want to mention it. So we had to quickly find a date and place, thank goodness for my group of long time girlfriends, none of whom have a daughter so they jumped right in. My DIL to be is very casual, and is not quite sure how to negotiate a very formal family. So I’m trying to bridge the gap, formal enough for my in laws, but not overwhelmingly so for the bride.

Elizabeth, traditionally anyone who wishes to know registry information contacts the bride’s mother or chief bridesmaid/matron of honour to ask.

Myself, I am not offended by registry info on an invitation but if you are striving for more formality, it would not be listed.

I would leave off the registry info also, it's so easy today to find out online. Only concession to that would be to mention a theme such as a "kitchen shower" or a "lingerie shower".

Repast is fine, I knew immediately what that is. I think email only for RSVP is fine.

I would scrap all the information on the address side (except for the address) and then on the frontside I would add the word "please" to the "join us...." sentence'

I would put the "Light refreshments (or repast) will be served" sentence under the date or the "at the home of..." sentence.

I have never been to one where food was not served. I assumed that was part of the celebration. Is it different dependent on where you live?

In the deep south it's typically cake and punch (or champagne).

Forget "repast", whether people know it or not, it's dated language. And yes, include your phone number.

Or "light lunch" if that's the case. "Refreshments" would just be cake/punch, etc.

Considering the time is 2 (after lunch and will end before dinner) I would assume nibbles of some sort rather than a meal.

What is served at a bridal shower can be anything....it is by no means restricted to cake and punch!! I've attended brunch showers, lunch showers, afternoon tea showers, dessert showers and wine and appetizer showers!! And I disagree that 'repast' is dated - it may not be in your common, everyday vocabulary but it is a perfectly acceptable word for refreshments or a light meal at a social gathering and most folks are familiar with that word.

"...and most folks are familiar with that word". I guess I don't fit into the "most people" category. Sure, I've heard the word, but wouldn't have any idea what it referred to as far as food at the shower and I'd find it a little ostentatious. But I don't travel in the aforementioned formal circles. I guess it means "a light meal" in this case? Or not .... Annette, what does it mean for you occasion?

To me, "two o'clock" and "repast" would mean snack type appetizers, cake and/or cookies. Not a full meal, but more than cake and punch. I'd appreciate being directed to a registry for ideas of what to buy, that I might or might not buy from. What this invitation doesn't tell me is what to wear. Business casual pants? Sunday type dress? Stylish jeans and nice top?

If my daughter marries, I'll be the mom not into wedding planning and all the hoopla. It's kind of you, Annette, to pick up the slack!

I'd use the word repast but knock the registry off the card. Most people know what a repast is but to be that formal, don't list the registry.

To be clear, it is my ex husband’s family that is very traditional, old south. For my wedding I had to register for silver even though I didn’t want it. I got all 12 place settings! At least I chose something very simple and can still use it.

They are wonderful people, I still love them and stay in contact. But I don’t miss that aspect of it. I just wasn’t wired for it.

This is very kind of you to do for her, as the merging of families that a marriage produces can be stressful and quite intimidating for some brides and grooms.

I believe I would leave the registry information on the invitation. I can't remember the last time I received an invitation (bridal or baby) that didn't include it. When this first became a habit, I was initially annoyed at the presumption. But now I consider it a courtesy and a convenience to guests who are obviously going to buy a gift for the occasion. If I received an invitation without it, I'd probably turn the card over several times saying, "Now where the he!! are they registered?!"

I've received wedding invitations but never bridal shower invitations. I've only recently received invitations to baby showers. Well, not all that recently, but never before the 1990s. I did give a black peignoir for the mother at one baby shower, plus a gift for the baby.

Postcards are informal. The words and format you are using seem too formal for any postcard. I agree with privacy issues being a potential issue sending a postcard like that.

Using small cards and envelopes would resolve all your concerns. If the family is traditional a postcard wouldn't seem all that appropriate in the first place.

Postcards that I receive are usually junk mail so they don’t get a second look unless I know of someone traveling. If you can I would agree with the suggestion of a small card. Postcards don’t seem formal enough for your party. What a sweet thing for you to do. Have fun.

Take off the registry words. That's so tacky. Most people who know what a repast is know to call the hostesses and ask about a registry.

I don't understand the concern for privacy. Just what is it that some of you fear might be given away by someone reading the postcard?

I have seen reports occasionally of thieves sneaking into gatherings of women particularly and stealing handbags- this actually happened at my own choir practice once.

Or a thief might figure the house would be a good source for loot after everyone leaves., or break into a rich source of parked cars.

Suzieque, some of us worry about personal safety where it is known that either gifts of value are going to be collected at a given address or the absence of a home owner is occurring. Depending on the location and crime rate of the area, sometimes that is not information you would want just anyone to have access to. Remember when the newspapers would put the address of the deceased in their obituary? They stopped doing that because the homes were frequently being robbed during the funeral ceremonies.

I am all for etiquette, but in today’s more informal world, I would not mind seeing the registry information on the invitation. And I wouldn’t hesitate to put a phone number for the rsvp, especially if some of the invited guests are elderly and might not use email.

As for ‘repast’, do whatever you are comfortable with. I don’t think it is dated or pretentious, and I certainly knew what it meant. I see it used a lot, but then maybe it is regional.

If they're "old South" forget the postcard, forget "repast" and do NOT put where they are registered! Most bridal showers have a "theme" - kitchen, bath, lingerie, bedroom. Your guests will know where brides register in their area. I'm assuming you are not having a luncheon as you don't want to do that much cooking/work. So at 2PM, you're pretty much left with tea/coffee/punch and cake or cookies. It's too early for tea party food.

As far as privacy goes with a postcard...who is reading your mail? Postal employees could read the postcard but are they a big threat?

Mail gets stolen from mail boxes.

Question:Why is the party info on the address side and what is on the backside?

So I finished it up and got them sent. I had to do postcards as doing cards and envelopes would have delayed it a week and I’m already past when the invites should have gone out.

I left the registry info on the back since it will lessen the number of questions. This wedding, while a happy event, is happening at a crazy time. I’ve just downsized and moved out of the home we had for the past 20 years. Old house not sold yet so I’m having to travel 90 minutes each way whenever I’m needed at old house. Tree fell on the barn at old house so having to deal with insurance on that. I’m supposed to find baby and childhood pics of my son for this thing and finally had to break it to them that there was no way that was happening. In addition to this I’m trying to organize the rehearsal dinner which is another 90 minute drive away so trying to do it all by phone and email. The saddest issue is that I was supposed to breed my little Lancashire Heeler this round for her last litter, and she came in season this week which means due date for puppies would be the weekend of the wedding! I’m going to have to call and break the news to all the people on my waiting list.

Anyway, whatever happens at this point is all a bonus. So I got the invites out and just hope I don’t look like a total slacker lol.