My neighbors built a 9 foot privacy fence.
Nancy Weinberger
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Comments (16)Ink, there is much you don't know about the situation, and I would ask you to refrain from comments about my attitude until you know what I know. These children are being done a disservice by their parents, and my tax dollars are paying the price. Their son needs honest to God parenting, and I think then, he would be far more manageable. His step-dad works most of the day and most evenings, as a pizza dlivery guy. his mother doesn't come out of the house unless it is to smoke. She now has the county providing a 40 hour a week caregiver for this child, because she simply doesn't interact with him. Last week, he was outside in his underwear for nearly 30 minutes, running through the historic park flanking the birthplace of our 18th President; mom and caregiver were inside. When they came to look for him, he ran into the highway. Neither picked up their pace from a leisurely stroll to save him, and he was nearly hit by traffic. This week, he grabbed a knife, attacked his 9 year old sister and is currently in the local Children's hospital for mental health emergency treatment. I'm not disputing the child has issues, and it would probably be safer for them to have a fence for the boy. But I know from my own experience, a high functioning autistic child with a parent who is active and involved and willing to provide structure and discipline copes far better than one who's parents are only out for freebies at the taxpayer's expense. My daughter doesn't need a fence, because I go outside with her, watch her, and interact with her. She is continually reminded of the boundaries and behaviors that are acceptable and she mostly stays within those boundaries. Tomorrow, the neighbors promise the fencing company will be here to start the fence install. Once it is done, we are going to backfill so that the gap between our lawn and the fence is leveled a bit, and then I'm going to be focused on keeping my area nice, and my children close at hand. And hopefully, the fence will be beneficial to this child, because with parents like those, that kid needs all the help he can get. Hopefully, in the future, the parents will learn not everything is handed to them and that sometimes, you have to work to earn the things your family needs. No one is "entitled" except perhaps our military. And if some think that means I have a bad attitude, then so be it....See Moreneighbors new privacy fence
Comments (21)When our neighbors put up a similar fence I went over and asked them what they were going to plant, if anything next to it and asked them if they had any preferences for things they didn't want me to plant next to it. I asked them if they would object to me hanging anything on the fence, like bird feeders or trellises, etc. We talked about it because even though the fence belongs to them, my property was within a few inches of it and they had to know that I was going to plant things there. They appreciated that I consulted them about it and that I cared about how they wished to maintain their fence. When their family and friends were visiting and cooking out in the back yard, I made sure not to run the mower or to make a lot of noise that would interfere with their get-together. I never chose those times to trim trees, or to spray paint my shed, or to smoke a large hunk of meat. I never looked over the fence when they were outside, but if I was doing something, like painting my house on a ladder, if I saw them outside, I greeted them in a friendly manner and went about my business. When my neighbors decided to use Roundup on a gravelled area on their side yard that was adjacent to one of my flower beds I explained to them why I didn't want them to do that. The man explained to me that he had a prosthetic limb and couldn't pull the weeds, so I offered to pull them for him so his yard would look nice. I pulled his weeds in that gravelled area (about 12'x40') for nearly 8 years. We lived in Westminster, Colorado when we had these neighbors and as many people will know, in Colorado they have ordinances about keeping the snow shovelled off your sidewalk. We knew that with his bad leg and his wife severly overweight, that he wouldn't be able to shovel his walk. So DH went out to shovel that first big snow and went all the way up to the corner. But the next morning we heard the 8hp motor of a snowblower and there was our neighbor on his riding snow-blower, and he did the whole street. It's been said that good fences make good neighbors, but I think that good neighbors make good neighbors. I'm not naive, I know that some people are just bast*rds, but sometimes one act of kindness can beget another. It's worth a try. Cheryl...See MoreNeighbors built fence, making our driveway a tunnel
Comments (49)An older thread, but I guess it's been a little slow as it wasn't that far down the list. Pinkpaula notes that the fence is built in accordance with her area's codes. These regs will vary by city and perhaps neighborhood. In some areas a fence wound need to adhere to a setback to allow for maintenance without trespass onto the neighbors property. In other areas there is a maintenance easement parallel to the property line to allow for this (unlikely in a neighborhood that old). From the description it sounds like the kind of neighborhood I grew up in. It wasn't uncommon for a driveway to run between two houses or for two drives to run parallel. Most wouldn't allow for opening the car door until you were past the house. Down the block, one neighbor A built a fence on the property line only to realize neighbor B's driveway was too narrow for his pickup truck. Neighbor A ended up taking out a section of the fence in the back, neighbor B would use neighbor A's driveway and cross over. Will it effect the resale? Since that's what most of the homes in the neighborhood will have to deal with than it shouldn't have a major impact. Your comparable isn't a house on a big lot and a big yard, it's the other houses in the neighborhood that are close together. The reality of this situation is that if you can't open your car door while in the driveway it's likely that you couldn't have gotten out of your car without trespassing on your neighbor's lot to some degree. With your backyard and garage it sounds like you're fine, but your guests aren't. I'm with Kaismom on this. If fences are allowed on the property line in that area there's no reason for him not to put it there. He didn't want to sell part of the land, that's his call. The posters that are calling him a jerk are sympathetic to your plight but unrealistic and most would not be inclined to give up their property rights if the situation were reversed....See MoreNeighbor's new solid concrete footing fence affect my drainage?
Comments (11)It's always best if you show overall pictures so we can get a feel for what's happening. Words have a way of leaving a lot of mysteries unanswered. In spite of not knowing, I'm speculating based on what it sounds like. It sounds like they (you, if you allow it) may be creating an erosion problem. If their new fence base is catching water and redirecting it, even though it will end up in the same place, along the way it will develop into a stream and could erode soil on your side of the wall. The stream would be forced to run along the wall because it's along the lower side of your lot. It protects the neighbor from washing, but adds to washing on your side. I did not follow your other thread but it's likely that this project is a violation of drainage code. Why are the neighbors doing it? If it's to protect their property from runoff, they're in a sense thumbing their nose at your situation in deference to making sure they come out on top. General rules of drainage are that people cannot concentrate water flows onto someone else's property, nor can they block the natural flow of water from coming onto their property. If either of these rules were ignored, instead of the world operating smoothly, there would be colossal problems every time it rained. Your husband wanting to let it go is his not understanding the degree to which this might come back to haunt him (unless you are the one buying and hauling soil to fill in the washed out areas when they occur ... thus it being no skin off of his nose!) Of course, we can't be sure if it will be severe, or how severe, because we can't yet see it so as to make our educated guesses. My suggestion would be to get on top of this ASAP. If it is going to be a problem, you would not want to stand idly by and watch it being created, just to be nice ... so that you can be miserable tomorrow. If it truly is going to cause a problem, it would also be much less neighborly of you to allow it to happen, discover the reality of it and then demand that the neighbors correct and remove it, after they've put all the money and effort into it. Then there really would be hard feelings. It would be infinitely better to put an immediate stop to it. All of this depends on that little word: "if." Show pictures in line with the wall/fence and pictures across the grade, perpendicular, looking at it....See MoreNancy Weinberger
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