Januhairy....not sure how I feel about this...
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Comments (17)Thanks everyone so much! I have been seriously thinking about getting Souv. de St. Anne's. I can live with a bit of stiffness in the bush as long as the basic form and foliage are nice. I have a few hybrid teas I just love. Safrano ia arriving this week sometime from Ashdown. Thanks for the lovely pictures. I have been trying to get Madame Antoine Marie and G Nabonnand, but everyone seems to be out of them for the season. If you know of a source that has high quality bushes of them please let me know. I guess I like a mixed bag. I enjoy most types of roses. I tend to favor the full cabbagey flowers such as Mrs. BR Cant, but I also love the charm of some of the simpler roses like Lady Hillingdon. I think they all look pretty growing near each other. The simple ones balance the big fat ones. I have had a terrible thrips problem for 2 years. This year is not quite so bd as last year, but still not great. I have "regular" thrips and chili thrips. Some roses have both, some only have one or the other. I have sprayed a couple of times, but do not want to use insecticide very often. When I find dead bees inside a flower that had been treated with systemics it makes me sick. It makes the plants too toxic for them even days after treated. One bush I absolutely love is Bermuda's Anna Olivier. She has the most gorgeous full blooms, and they last well when cut. I had a few thrips problems early on with her, sprayed her once about 5 weeks ago, and she hasn't had thrips since, unlike many of my other roses. I think she can deal with them on her own. So....it seems it is not always the fact that the rose is a full bloom making it a problem here, because I have a few that usually have little problem, such as Anna and Mrs. BR Cant. There must be some other factors with genetics involved. Mrs. Dudley Cross has been a mess lately, probably thrips, but I haven't had the urge to get rid of her.....yet....See MoreHow do I not feel like this?
Comments (22)This thread may be over but it has been so illuminating and thought provoking for me, as I'm usre it is for everyone who reads it. I have no great advice to give--I dated my dh for four years before we were married. But we were not living in the same city and had to decide affirmatively to sacrifice something --my job or his job--to end up in the same place at the same time. In the end, we decided to do that and we have been happilly married for eleven years. Its kind of the opposite situation from yours--you've essentially been "married" for ten years without having wht seem to you to be the true benefits of marriage which would be living in the same place and having children. After all, if you didn't want those things you wouldn't be suffering when you compare your life to that of your SIL and BIL. You seem to really want something tangible--more tangible even than real estate and joint accounts. On the one hand it sounds like you've had all the benefits of marriage for years--you've travelled and had a signficant other and owned property and vacationed together. But have you ever really lived together? Have you started to do those things which are truly "married"--not planning for retirement but planning to live together and have kids? Now that I'm engaged in a renovation with my husband I can testify that renovations don't make a life happen-life is already happening and the renovation only disturbs that. I live close to my parents, and I anticipate needing to care for them in the hopefully distant future but it seems odd to me that you have felt you *had* to live at home with your mother in order to care for her. And once you made that decision it seems wrong that that decision has prevented you from going ahead and marryign your SO. People live with their in laws--its not a bar to getting married. And grown women move out of their mothers houses to get married if it is. Essentialy you are saying that you don't feel you can be a married woman and live with your mother full time in her house--you could do it, but you don't want to. If so, you are going to need to fish or cut bait. Either move your SO in and start life as a married couple (whatever that means to you) or move out and start life as a married couple. There is never going to be a perfect situation in or out of your mother's house, its just going to be a compromise. Marriage/privacy/adulthood or marriage/lack of privacy/living space. You pay your money and you take your choice. hugs abfab...See MoreHow would you feel about this?
Comments (42)A name, address, and birthdate are often enough for someone trying to steal your identity. I wouldn't be at all concerned when a realtor wanted my driver's license before driving off with me somewhere. At the very least, even if all the information on the DL was fake, the picture could still be verified by the realtor as mine. A real picture strikes me as a relatively good deterrent. However, I work in consumer finance and see a lot of legitimate DLs with pictures that look nothing like the people presenting them. Who knows? In any case, I wouldn't expect anyone to go to some secluded location with me without verifying, to some extent, who I am. As far as exercising your 2nd amendment rights, sure, some cops are overpowered and their guns are used against them. However, think about how many police officers are carrying weapons and working every single day. It's much more likely that a police officer will be the victim of deadly violence than the average citizen, simply because of what they do every day. Average citizens (carrying weapons) deter crimes all the time, but they don't get the same news coverage as some random lunatic killing a bunch of people. If you are a realtor (or in any other profession that requires you to meet with strangers in a secluded environment), you really should consider taking steps to make sure you don't become another needless victim. If you're not comfortable with anything stronger than pepper spray or an asp, so be it. However, a firearm is another legitimate tool of defense. They really aren't scary. I am probably the least likely person in the world to be handling a weapon, and I have become perfectly capable with most revolvers and semiautomatic pistols in a relatively short period of time. You don't need to be Rambo. You just need to use common sense. Guns are very simple machines. They don't just go off. Just like car engines don't just blow up. 99.9% of people with a concealed carry permit don't want to ever have to use the thing. A good number of people who are victims of random violence could have benefited if someone nearby had been carrying and willing to take action to stop some violent criminal. Just a thought....See MoreFeeling sick - not sure about tile - PIC
Comments (52)Well, Serafina, I love the slightly grey look of your tiles . . . very chic and interesting with your black and white. I was going to mention what smilingjudy did . . . that magazines etc. are showing a lot of gray and yellow together and have been for a year or so. I know because I was looking for gray carpeting and have had fits finding it. I can't figure out why I see it everywhere except the carpet stores! I know how hard it is to readjust your vision when you have a picture in mind. I've had to do it on several issues in this house, and it's HARD. I suspect most home-builders/remodelers run into this at one level or another. A couple of mine have been pretty big "levels" and I've had a real struggle: Learn to like it or spend literally thousands of $$ to change it. Only you can make that decision, but I think the color combination you have going is going to be very WOW. Arlene...See MoreUser
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