Grandson is home and he's made one request!
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This was taken a year ago, Sept 2017, when I last saw him. He's on leave, from Hawaii, for the next few weeks and he wants to spend tomorrow with ME, and made one request: we stay home and cook. He loves my white chili, so that's what we are gonna make with cornbread drop biscuits. Gonna spice the chili up a notch with slices of cajun style andouille smoke sausage. He loves spicey!
All to myself :o)
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