Ethics of writing about your kids on the Internet
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I guess I just want to write about my husband
Comments (14)Well I am glad to say that my son got to come home from the hospital on Jan.18th. And he did not have a blood clot in his heart thank God. He has to take a baby asprin everyday and Plavix and his doctor says he will make a good recovery if he stops smoking and goes on a diet which he needed to do any way. I got the autopsy report this week for my husband and it said he had scarring on his heart from another heart attack. Something that I didn't know. How can you have a heart attack and not know it or not tell your wife? I went to the graveyard today and told him I was a little angry with him for keeping this from me, maybe we could have done something to make it better. He never wanted to go to the doctor but if he had he might still be here to play with his grandkids and for me. I still love him and I always will but I am really hurt that he didn't do anything or that I didn't do anything. I finally received his death certificates today and there is some incorrect information on it so they have to do it all over again. I can't get any of the insurance business complete until I get the death certificates. I guess I'll survive until they are right. My husband's birthday is Monday January 28th he would have been 55. I am going to have his favorite birthday dinner Chicken and dumplings. I have invited his family members sisters, brother, and there kids for his birthday. I wanted to have them over because we all need to get together. This has been hard for them as well as me and our kids and grandkids. My daughter hasn't been dealing with this very well she has been angry more than anything. She is so much like her father always happy and cutting up so this isn't like her. She finally went to the doctor and got it all out and is feeling better now. Her doctor suggested she try kick boxing to get out her anger issues. I hope she does. I would like to thank anyone who read my post and prayed for my son. I think it really helped. Thanks for listening...See MoreEthics, I would love your opinions
Comments (36)Ellen, Yes, keep the hard copies of the emails, and the copies of the reports. But don't forget to write it all down, as I suugested, too. It's good that you didn't actually sign the docs because that probably eliminates legal accusations of the crime of "falsifying business documents", but you are still at some risk of false accusations that you were the cause of the shortages, not simply the person charged with trying to keep the accounts up to date. Irregular and sloppy handling of non-personal funds (by your Director) will eventually come out - and somebody will be blamed. Your Director's other actions (your story of the cat care that she took on and that then became the responsibility of others to support) leads me to see her as someone who doesn't accept responsibility for her actions, hence my worry that you will be at risk if the financial problems come to light and her lack of accountability (both financial and personal) is exposed. That's why people are urging you to take steps now, in a proactive way, to bring the situation to someone who can act. You felt deeply enough about it to leave a job, so it must have bothered you, as well. At the every least, perhaps you could talk to whoever supervises the Director. They could see that she gets re-training and adopts correct accounting for funds in the future. It's not like the whole group home will be shut down, or that she would get criminal charges against her. (Unless she was also stealing other money, which is always possible, too.) But the good the program does will run aground eventually unless the problems are resolved. Better now, than later, I think. This stinks that it falls on you to take action. It's probably way above your (actual) "pay grade" to have to deal with this. But we all have ethical pay grades, irrespectvely of our financial circs., and my opinion (easy for me to say!) is that you should try to make this bad situation better by reporting it to someone who can effect the needed changes. Better for you (in avoiding long-term worry and risk, and now, when your conscience is pricking you). Better for the Director who is probably aware of her short-comings but unable to make the changes without prodding, And whether or not she is now inappropriately using the funds, she will be always at risk of falling into even deeper problems if this is not stopped. Better for the clients since messy-money probably also results in somewhat less services than they might get, and certainly stress over something they can't control. Because if nipped in the bud now, the house need not change, as it would certainly happen if this progresses to outright theft. Better for your co-workers, too, even if they don't see it. Better even for the cats since their situation may become more stable. I think that in the long run discovering your personal ethical boundaries and knowing you will act on them will be a source of self-confidence and strength. Crap happens, randomly, it's what you do about it that counts. But as I said above, "easy for me to say." OTOH, without going into details, I have faced somewhat differetn ethical issues, and after an internal struggle, dealt with it publically. Years later, I'm glad I did, even though it came with some stress/anxiety at the time. L....See MoreHow's your business going: does your kid make more than you?
Comments (2)Hi marksteelman, I don't have any suggestion to offer to deal with your problem, as I've never had a PayPal account - nor eBay, either. I think that your possibility of getting a reply to your question may be better if you start a thread of your own, so that people who may be interested in your topic may see it. Also, you may find a reply over in the "Computer" forum. While your kid may or may not be making a better return on his invested dollar than you ... ... it looks as though he's more adept in the use of a computer. As are most of our kids. I hope that you're enjoying your week, otherwise. ole joyful...See MoreWriting a Poem for a contest (your opinion)
Comments (14)YOu asked for opinions--mine isn't about the poem itself--as far as the poem goes, whatever YOU feel fills the requirements of the contest is perfect, regardless of what others here may say. However, I've been competing (in another field) for almost 30 years. I know this is a small contest, not the national kind I compete in, but here's my problem with your post. And I say this only because it's good advice for anyone planning on entering a contest. You NEVER share or publish your work before the contest is judged and the winners announced. Often, in the fine print, there's an admonition against submitting published works (and yes, posting on the internet CAN be considered publishing by some sponsors). Even if there isn't, it's always best to keep your entry close to the vest, so to speak, just to protect it. I'd strongly recommend NOT putting your entry on any website at this point in the competition--it could end up costing you the chance to win. Obviously, that's just one opinion. You can certainly do what you want, but you're obviously putting a lot of thought and effort in this. It would be such a shame if someone either stole your entry, or disqualified it because it was easily found with a quick internet search....See Morebeaglesdoitbetter
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