I can tell you what we have in our house. All the windows have stained trim (in a honey color--maybe the one you don't like in yours? But I love it!) Anyway, the windows were all replaced by the PO, who installed and stained the new ones. The rest of the house trim and baseboards, however, are still original to the house (1939) and are all painted white. The doors, also mostly original, are painted white as well. The only new (french) door we added as part of an addition, we stained to match the window woodwork--that is the only door with stained trim. In our house, I think the combination works well. We have a lot of wood furnishings, as well as the floors, that are a similar tone to the window trim, and the white works well with our cottage/country-ish decorating style. We have talked about painting the windows, but my DH is against it because once you start repainting windows (which eventually needs to happen), it starts affecting how well they function (as we have experienced in other older homes we have lived in) How well it would work for you might depend on what color your doors are, what color floors/carpet are and how those blend/contrast with the stain or paint color.

A scarf joint is used to disguise the joining of two pieces of trim in a straight line. That is the 30 or 45 degree miter folks mentioned. I use 45 degree because it is easier to set on my miter saw. There is a right way and a not so right way to use a scarf joint. The right way is to have the closed end---the end with the miter cut so the inside of the trim cannot be seen----as opposed to the mating piece, which is cut so the trim inside can be seen-----is placed so the line of sight from the entrance to the room looks over the joint instead of into it. Get a book from the local home improvement store---best $10 or so you can spend to learn that and more. Like using painters putty to fill nail holes in painted trim.

It sounds like maybe the floor is "cool" in color & the trim is "warm". I don't know of a way to make cool & warm harmonious. It would be like wearing charcoal gray trousers & tan shoes. If that's indeed the situation, paint the trim. You love your floor, it's original to the house, & you're the one who's going to live with it, so change some other element. & it may be that there's just too much wood; refer to log houses with beaded ceilings, log walls, wood floors, & big wood furniture. Even trees don't show that much wood; they clothe themselves in greens & other colors! I once lived in a house with beautiful honey-oak hardwood floors, & I was so happy when I found a good deal on an antique dark walnut dining room suite. It was awful! I finally got a room-sized area rug to cover some of the wood & break up the wood-to-wood contact, but I never was happy with the whole effect. If that were to happen today, I'd sell the dining room furniture for whatever I could get & put in something "contrasty", maybe a painted table with a glass or tile top & chairs upholstered with a patterned fabric.

I use flat on ceilings, eggshell on walls and semi gloss on trim and doors.