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Comments (9)How do you stay motivated? Well lizzardly, first, you've got to get your priorities straight...See, husbands come and husbands go, but how often do you see a free bathtub you could make that pond out of you've always wanted?!!! Think about it..... Just kidding, of course. I know how you feel. My DH and I are opposite in the same way y'all are. Have you ever read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"? It can help you understand what he really means. It can help you communicate with him better too. It's hard to give advice without knowing both of you, and it makes a difference the way he says it too, but the thing that helped me is- don't take it personally. Think of it as if a friend or neighbor had said the same thing. That way you get all the other issues out of the way and fast foreward to the problem at hand. Keep believing in yourself. Don't let him squish your ideas or convince you it's a waste of time. You were working, plus you did all that work around the house, you earned the right to play with a little junk and discover the creative side of yourself without a big hassle, now that you have a little time, before you die. Guys do like to think they're being helpful, maybe you could find some project for him to work on. And sometimes they are right. There may actually be too many tree roots in the yard to sink a bathtub in. Maybe he could help you figure out how to build a raised platform or partially bury your pond or put planted pots or rocks around the bathtub or make a pond out of something else. Keep an open mind. Sometimes you just have to ignore the nay-sayers and forge ahead. I like to make my own mistakes, too. Otherwise I'll always be thinking something could have been different. But he didn't help when you were working on the house, why does he feel like you need his advice now that you want to enjoy your self a little. Does he have a hobby/interest? You may have to do some things when he's busy with something else. Now, what actually motivates me is- wanting to see what something will look like. Also, I want to use the things I've collected and carried around all these years, and clear out the rest. I find as I get older, it's better to get up and get interested in sometning rather then sit in a chair and think about how bad I feel, and be thankful I still can, quite a motivation. It is very comforting in more ways than one, to have something to work on. I like happy endings. Hope you get that pond and I hope you learn to play nice together. Hang in there. Donna...See MoreWhy does this commercial irritate me so much?
Comments (38)I DVR most of my shows too, so I see very few commericals, but sometimes,I just let the commericals play. I like the AT&T commercials and although they are not as funny as they used to be, I like the Progressive ads too. I hope Flo is making some bank....See MoreWhy do some people get under your skin??
Comments (28)Some people get a feeling of superiority, "I will decide to take or leave you!" Maybe it's time to analyze why this bothers you. Things that have hurt us in the past have a way of rearing their ugly head many, many years later. We had a neighbor while my kids were growing up, that basically made our lives miserable. I did one thing to slight her, that I learned years later, and that set the tone for how she treated us while she lived on the block. She had frequent parties and we were not included. She once had a party for her daughter and did not invite mine. Mind you, many of their mutual friends were invited. Luckily I was tipped off and we went up to our weekend house. This would have been very, very hurtful for my daughter to look over two houses away and see all her friends at this party. So for me, although I did not even want this woman as a friend, it brought up my past feeling of being excluded. Once I figured this out, I was able to get past it. Fortunately for us, she moved off the street. To this day, when I see her I am polite, but I do cringe. It shows you that some adults don't do the right thing and can be petty, vindictive and immature. You, for example, would never think to treat her in anything but a respectful way. Just shows you how different people are....See Morenew build concrete patio on a slight slope
Comments (2)To have the forum be most useful, you need to corroborate whatever issues you bring up, with pictures. We need to SEE whatever problems you mention, such as "...where it's about 6' below the slab ..." in order to be able to evaluate what you're asking about. (The picture above does not show this.) When you have an idea, such as "retaining wall/planter box," you need to sketch out a VERY SIMPLE plan that shows us what you're thinking about, in order for us to know if you're on the right trail, or the wrong path. (The plan needs to include only the relevant areas ... not the whole back yard.) The plan and pictures should corroborate each other....See More- 7 years agolast modified: 7 years ago
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