For the uplight, you could go a few routes, especially with respect to dimming functionality. And some fixtures don't support dimming, so you need to figure that out. To that end, I suggest you think through the use cases. For example, the use case that I think I'd appreciate most is late evening, after you've retired to another room of the house, at which time a mellow indirect glow from the skylight cutout would be particularly pleasant. You might also want the more light from this source on occasion, in which case you'd want brighter lights on a dimmer. That being said, here's some options. I'm thinking two, centered on the skylights, mounted near the bottom rim of the cutout (just above the beam probably). Regarding the pendant, I know that selecting pendants is hard enough without more to think about, but one downside of a single pendant vs multiple pendants is thhat single sources create worse shadows. And the clear glass pendants above exacerbate this harsh shadow problem by being point sources, whereas the Fillsta, for example, mitigates this problem because it's effectively a uniform 31" sphere of light. This large diffuser also makes it possible to use a brighter source. For example, you could put a 300W equivalent CFL in the Fillsta, but such a bright light would be unacceptably harsh in a point source like the clear glass pendants above.

I like them all, but not number 2, but maybe that one will work for your taste- it's just not mine. I really like 3 and 4 (the one your husband likes).

Have you looked at something like these? I know they come in a variety of metal colors and sizes. Possibly a stain nickle would work best.

Of the 2 options, I like the 2nd one you posted. But I agree you can go bigger. How about these: 1. https://www.westelm.com/products/sculptural-metal-pendant-large-metal-shade-brass-canopy-w3396/?pkey=cpendants&isx=0.0.4460 2. https://www.hvlgroup.com/Product/H181701L-PB 3. https://www.hvlgroup.com/Product/H180701L-PB 4. https://www.shadesoflight.com/products/modern-metal-shade-pendant?color=Warm+Brass&via=57e1330169702d78ae0000a5%2C57e133ea69702d78ae0002d1