My friend’s mother in law helped out so much with her toddler before and after baby #2 was born. It was a win win for everyone as she got soooo much time with the toddler and my friend could focus on herself, recovery and the baby (she couldn’t lift the toddler due to c section). Needless to say the toddler loves his nana so no guilt was involved.

I loved my first granddaughter so much I was afraid I couldn't possibly love the second as much. (I never shared this feeling with my daughter.)

That changed the minute she was born. The love came fast.

Love is exponential - it expands to encompass all. I have no doubt that this is just a momentary blip and that you'll soon be anticipating this grandchild's arrival with a full heart.

I like the way this young mother explained it.

https://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/08/11/i-dont-love-my-second-child-the-way-i-love-my-first/

I felt exactly the same way - especially with my middle son's two who are only 19 months apart. Love does expand and I cannot imagine life any other way!

My grandmother had 7 or 8 new grandchildren in one less-than-two year period, and about four to five years later had 5 new grandchildren in a little over a year.

(She also had four girls of her own in under 18 months).

I don't think people used to ask questions like this :)

My DD and SIL had twins, a boy and a girl. They light up our life so 5 years later when they announced another was on the way I thought why? It's perfect the way it is!! But the little brother arrived and again the love expanded, but of course not only for me, and his parents, but for the twins they are so patient and kind, it would have been a shame to have missed that, just because of an old selfish grandmother.

My son and his wife have two -- my granddaughter will be five after Christmas and my grandson was two in March. They're expecting a third in December, another boy.

When my granddaughter was born, my husband was receiving chemo and radiation for his brain tumors; went into in-patient hospice; died; and, I lived 45 minutes from my son. So, I didn't get that enjoyment/bonding with the first because of the blow from caring for, and losing, my husband. Because I lived 45 miles away, they rarely asked me to babysit.

I moved closer to them when she was two, so we're very close now, but not as close as I am with her younger brother.

When my grandson was born, I was with him so often. He and I are so close--he's all over me when we're together, asks if I'm coming over, if he can come to my house, or just plain out asks, "where's Grammy?" He even told his parents he was "grammy's boy" when they asked if he was a mommy's or daddy's boy!

I'm close friends with my DIL's mother, who moved here about the same time I moved here. Neither she nor I are as excited about number three right now, but I'm sure we will be when he arrives in December.

You will find plenty of love to give this new grandchild, as well as any other future grandchildren. Each child is different, just as your own children are different, and you love each for their own special ways. They will own your heart no matter what.

Be thankful you are close to them and included in their lives. We are with our 6, but so many are not.

I don't think it's unusual to think such things, if for no other reason than your family dynamic is about to change -- and we tend to just get used to things being as they are. You're entering the "unknown", whereas you've been perfectly comfortable just where you've been. That said, I have no doubt that you'll quickly cherish the new little arrival. Your first grandson will always be special because he was the first. The second will be special for reasons all his own. Enjoy them, and congratulations to you all!

As Ida said, there is definitely something special about the first grandchild. I'm not sure how to explain it, but for me, because he was the first and I was learning my new role as the grandmother, it was and is just a very special relationship. When his brother was born 19 months later, it just added a new element to my relationship with my first grandson and actually the whole family. I also have twin grandchildren who are my other daughter's children.

Every relationship is different, but as everyone has said above, love is infinite.

My one big desire as all the grandchildren came, was that they would know me, and know me well. My grandparents were almost 700 miles away and we saw them at most once a year. My closest and oldest grandchildren are 400 miles and a mountain pass away, and the twins are a day long plane ride away. But I managed to see the closest one every 4-6 weeks, and the twins every 3 months or so, more when they were babies. The kids are now 15, 13 ½, and 10 ½. I was lucky enough to be able to retire before the twins were born.

Yes, congratulations to you neetsie, and to everyone here who has grandchildren in their lives.

How exciting for you! I don't have any grandchildren yet but my sister has 4. While she loves them all, I do think she has a special relationship with the first.

When I was a little girl, I explained to someone who asked, that when a baby was born, a bundle of love was born with it. I see no reason to modify that explanation.

Thank you all. I did speak with some other Grandma's I know and all said the same thing-yes, they were a little sad but overwhelmed with love when the new baby came. I'm sure I'll feel that way, especially as her pregnancy progresses.

Today I had to take her to the doctor as she was so sick she couldn't even stand up. My SIL had taken Ro to day care and he couldn't get off work so I took her, she was happy to have me come along for her first appointment. Poor kid is so dehydrated they couldn't even get her veins to plump up enough to get enough blood for the tests. She'll get an IV treatment tomorrow, meanwhile she's gotten some anti-nausea meds and is drinking a lot of water, and her DH made her some soup tonight. She was feeling better when I left.

I had the best time with my baby boy tonight-he's so silly right now-but he's now acknowledging me as Gremma so that's making it a little better for me, I was worried (unfounded!) he wouldn't ever be close to me! He's such a funny guy-had to feed me goldfish crackers and took off my glasses and put them on himself. I think I'm going to love being Gremma to his new sibling now that it's starting to sink in.

Just an aside...check for recall on goldfish crackers and ritz:

https://us.mondelezinternational.com/~/media/MondelezCorporate/us/uploads/downloads/press-releases/2018/Ritz-Recall-2108.pdf

https://www.pepperidgefarm.com/GoldfishUpdate/

While you asked for Grandma opinions, I would like to offer a mother of four perspective. My mother absolutely had a special relationship with my first born - not favoritism in any way- just a tremendous closeness born of the fact that he was the only grand for the first 21 months and then when his baby brother was born, my mother helped me most by taking care of the older child, so the special bond definitely continues to develop once number two arrives. Having a grandmother around to help out when baby is neediest helps alleviate sibling rivalry to a huge extend.

Congratulations on your growing family.

Oly, thanks, we're aware of it. They don't have the recalled type. She's pretty up on social media and she's a news junkie, so she knew about the recall before I did!

Good news is that today she was able to go to work. She's still queasy but at least can keep things down and is working dilligently to get her fluid volumes back up. Hoping her morning sickness passes soon! She had it with her first for nearly a month!

I pray she's over the nausea soon! And congratulations!!!

My situation is a bit different than yours. When my son married we gained a 2.5 yr old granddaughter. While she is a "step" we don't think of her as such. We love her just as if she were our own.

Then about a year later, they blessed us with a grandson. We adore him just as much. We knew we would. However, our DDIL was afraid we wouldn't love the granddaughter anymore. My son said, "Seriously? Have you met my parents?" Bwhahahahahaaa!!

We are thrilled with both, and look forward to more!

Remember how exciting it was when you were pregnant with your firstborn? All the stages of pregnancy, then experiencing a love so deep in you that you never could have imagined?

Second pregnancy comes along. Old hat. Been there done that but you loved that baby just as much as your first.

This may sound bad of me, but when my grandson was born (my first grand), he was so good looking even the doctor closed the door to tell the family that and said he's never seen such a good looking baby. He really was. You can see him in the pet picture thread.

When my second and last grandchild came, a girl, well, I loved her right off the bat but she had THE fattest face I'd ever seen and as plump as a well fed pig. lol. She stayed that way for a couple of years and now, OMG, she is drop dead gorgeous at all of 7 years old.

She's nothing like her brother which is fun dealing with the different personalities.

Six kids, six kids-in-law, eighth grandchild on the way. It doesn't get any better than that. Until the ninth grandchild comes along : ) : ) : )

Oakly, I've seen E-she is the most beautiful little girl. It's so funny how you describe her as a new born. Both your grands are just gorgeous.

I was talking to DD tonight, her son was yakking it up in the backround and apparently was looking for me behind the phone-he couldn't figure out where Gremma was. Then he discovered that we could talk to one another so he kept shouting Hi! Hi! Hi! then when I said goodbye he shouted Bye! Bye! Bye!! He only knows one volume!

DD is feeling a bit better today. She is able to keep food down, but some smells are really getting to her.