Thank you! I tried that and also pulled a zillion swatches and still couldn't decide. But we visited the house again today and I think I am going to use Behr silky white as a secondary color. : ) I may have the trim painted too and I'm not sure what to use for that. It's currently Behr Ultra Pure white but I can't decide if I want that much contrast. Debating the different sheens of the same color approach (w/ trim in alabaster). The trim is unremarkable, as you can see.

I picked up a sample board at a flooring store. It’s still hard to tell with that size but better than the little square. When you are close to making a decision, you should buy 1 box and lay it around. Also - I found that Costco sells calypso oak. The website allows you to see what it looks like in your house. I don’t know if other sites have this option but when I was deciding, I didn’t see anything like this for Calypso Oak. https://costco.shawfloors.com/flooring/vinyl/details/coretec-plus-enhanced-plank-7-vv012/calypso-oak

My contractor is coming back Monday so I needed to make a decision and whites are so complicated and I’ve heard horror stories of one white making the other dingy that’s why I usually go with trim same as wall but I like my whites to have some warmth both the colors do♥️ I just wanted to make sure they would work together..I don’t want to waste anymore money because paint is expensive

I have had a really busy week and didn't look at Houzz. Hope what I have to say isn't too late for your decision deadline. When deciding on cabinet color you want to choose something that works with the counter you are choosing and works with your overall color palette. Pure White is one of my favorites for cabinets because it is just slightly warm and doesn't limit your other choices as much as either Extra White (more cool / gray) or Alabaster (warmer/ more yellow) If you knew you loved fall colors, warm gold, greens and burnt oranges, I would say Alabaster would work better with the overall palette. That is not what I am hearing from you and not what I am seeing with your other finishes and flooring choice. I think Pure White (left) is much prettier with your flooring than Alabaster. I think Pure White is prettier with Taj Mahal than Alabaster. Pure white will be easier to work with than Alabaster as you make other color decisions for your home. Here is a picture of Taj Mahal with Alabaster and yellow walls. It is a lovely combination. I think pure white would have been too white with the yellow walls and golden floors and may have felt stark, too modern. This is a kitchen with Taj Mahal counters and "Pure White" cabinets. Not specifying SW Pure white, but what I would expect Pure White to appear next to Taj Mahal.