I can’t decide on our built in color!!!
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Can't decide - BM & TOM in our (tiny) apartment?
Comments (14)Thanks for all the responses. Marge - I can see why a mom would want to make sure the place was suitable for small kids. Even though she knows that BF is on top of those kinds of things, and a very hands-on parent, we still thought it would be a nice gesture to let her in, so to speak. I disagree that she doesn't care what the place looks like - in theory that's how it should be but in reality we were both curious about each other's living situations. She has openly admitted that she has been Googling me, looking at my website and MySpace etc. since the first day she found out about me and BF. She made a lot of comments when she was in our place re: home decor, something she is really interested in. I was a little curious about her place, too, just because I know she works, gets half of BFs salary, and her new DH is wealthy. She actually sometimes complains to me about not having enough money, to which I do not respond. !! I am sure her primary concern is/should be her kids, but with every situation I have given her an inch and she has taken a mile, i.e. I approve her to be my Facebook friend, then she starts posting comments on all of my pictures every day, or when I let BF's DD9 call BM from my cell and then BM starts sending me little text messages, saying how in "other circumstances" she thinks we would be great friends, etc. In other words, she wants to interact with me outside of the main topic which is the kids. I don't want to do this - actually, in my own friendly and naive way I do, but I know it is not a good idea. I know she is not my friend, but I figure things out as I go along because I don't want to be the one to reject a "friendly" overture. None of it seems outwardly hostile, but there are boundary issues, and that is something I struggle with, so it is a concern for me. I'm not very good at all this, and I only have my own experience to trust in and since I can sometimes be too trusting...I am grateful for the help. I've been reading, among many other related books lately, "The Enlightened Stepmother: Revolutionizing the Role" by Perdita K. Norwood and Teri Wingender, and last night I came to the part where the authors advised against letting exes into the home, as it feels like an invasion, encourages competition about lifestyles, the allocation of space amongst kids (if applicable), etc. I am just going with my gut on this, but from how I grew up I feel like as long as the bedroom door is shut this time it will be OK. I don't want to make it a touchy subject and take the blame for an awkward situation. Ima is right, I also don't want to appear controlling and insecure. (But as Ashley correctly pointed out, I am insecure about all of this!) I re-discussed last night with BF and let him know that I changed my mind and did not want to "ban" her, but just to shut both doors to the bedroom and he agreed 100%. But apparently he had already phoned and arranged to meet BM at a nearby cafe for the exchange per our conversation this wknd. So if they end up coming upstairs to the doorway or in to use the bathroom or help with bags later on, BF and I will be on the same page. I will not be there, though - I will be busy at work....See MorePlease help me! I can't decide on a roof color...
Comments (19)Thank you SH! Those really do help me visualize how each would look. Thanks also for everyone who posted picks, I have a hard time visualizing things, which is why I'm having this current problem. I also agree with the person who mentioned the lighter colors not looking as good for as long as the darks. So many I've looked at that are lighter have dark streaking going on. I'd like to avoid that if possible. Dh says we should go more brown, but I like how the blacks bring out the grey tones in the stone. However, I do love the first mock up! I guess I need to decide which "look" I'm going for. I just don't know! I'm wanting an old world feel to it for sure. I was thinking the black walnut would be a good way to stay dark but still get the brown tones. But with that first mock up, it really says "old world" more than the black, doesn't it? I also was concerned about the roof looking busy, like it would compete with the stone in some way. Oh and the whole house will be done in the stone, if that helps. Here is another picture of the house with the stone on it and a black roof. These are the type of shingles we'll most likely be using, do you see any browns there that would work? Here is a link that might be useful: Shingle gallery...See MoreI just can't decide which bathroom color
Comments (3)You should get more help if you post in the Home Decorating area. I am not very familiar with SW colors. For the ceiling you could compare their ceiling white with your trim color and choose between those. If you like Steely Gray but worried that it might be too dark, you could get it mixed at 50% or 75%. I would get samples and paint sample boards to try out the colors in the room. Also consider what color towels. You have a lot of dark but also a good amount of white in the room....See MoreNeed to change carpet in our cottage can't decide color?
Comments (4)Have you consider FLOR carpet tiles? Then you can get something lighter that contrasts with your floors but easy to clean if something spills. Are the colors blue and tan (hard to tell on my monitor)...See Morevmt2011
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