My house is falling apart !
Deborah
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Comments (8)I don't know of a metal hood replacement, but if the plastic replacement costs $300, imagine what a metal one would go for. I've been on the fence for a while about forking out the $$$ for a new hood for my GT262 (same hood). It's a design flaw which they fixed with my next-generation GT225. Mine looks fine, but when you lift it to access the engine, the whole thing just comes off. No big deal, but it's not practical to leave the lights hooked up. The hood is in two pieces, an upper and lower. The $300 part is just the lower. The whole thing is something like $500. I wouldn't pay JD the labor to replace it. It shouldn't be hard, just a lot of bolts. I don't know if the exhaust makes the plastic brittle at the hinges or what, but it's a shame they didn't come up with a redesigned hood for these tractors....See MoreHelp my marriage is falling apart!
Comments (6)Thank you all for your posts.I'll try to answer all your questions. "if this were your biological son who abused your step daughter, how would you handle the situation??" I would do everything in my power to help him and make any sacrifices that were required of me. But the problem is that my husband is not willing to ignore the rest of his children and focus on helping him.He has alot of anger towards him because of what he did to his other siblings.He doesn't feel comfortable showing the girls affection because he doesn't want them to think he is trying to be sexual...One of the twin boys has also been really affected by the abuse and is really confused as to his "sexuality" he seems to thik he has to act feminine because of it.To top it off,my husband has never had a close relationship with the oldest at all.When his wife left and he was alone raising the 4 children he took on his moms role and was very abusive toeards everyone,including my husband.He blames his xwife and his mother for making him the monster he has become and he just doesn't want to spend the rest of his life dealing with his mental illness.HIs x wife left him because she couldn't she deal with him anymore.although he is too young to be diagnosed,i honestly believe that he is a manic deppressive like his mother.I can only imagine what he will be like a few years from now if he indeed is-because he has so many other issues along with that.The fact that the 2 women who raised him were both selfish,controlling,deceitful,cunning and verbally abusive doesn't do much for his personality either because this is exactly what he is like.I feel for him, i truly do..but i don't want to spend my life trying to undo such horrible parenting.I never would have gotten married had i known that i would have to neglect my own children to help fix this child in the first place.The fact that he also abused my daughter adds the fact that my daughter would probably resent me for the rest of my life for having put her abuser's needs ahead of hers and i don't think anyone would be willing to do that. "Don't you think he deserves a chance to heal and become the best he can be? Why throw the baby out with the bath water? His behavior is a loud cry for help. Someone needs to answer the call." I agree someone does need to answer that call,the problem is that the only person who is willing to take him in and raise him is the grandmother-who thinks he is just misunderstood and spoils him to death.She basically excuzes all his bad behaviors and tries to justify his cruelty to others by saying that he can't help it because of the way his mom raised him.So he is never held accountable-and he plays right into it and pulls on her heart strings every time he is in trouble so that she can bail him out.This little boy lies,steals,beats other kids up,runs out of the classroom in school,yells at the teachers,refuses to bath with soap,thros dirty toilet paper on the floor,breaks whatever he gets a hold of when he is angry,has full blown tantrums that last for hours,is direspectful to adults in general and cruel to animals and she says its normal because he is becoming a teenager...My husband can't stand his mother because of it so it makes co-parenting virtually impossible because she will ignore my husband and do whatever she wants with him.I know that she is not what he needs-but what am i suppose to do?Put everyone elses's needs on the backburner to try and make him the best he can be? Its not fair to the other kids-especially his that have had to live in his shadow all of their lives.Besides i am dealing with alot of guilt since i was spending so much time trying to "help" him,exhausted and streched to my limit-i wasn't emotionally available to the rest of the children when he was abusing them.Maybe if i hadn't been so tied up deling with him all day my daughter would have come to me sooner...or i would have picked up on signs that it was going on.Because thinking back,there were many signs-i was just too drained to put them all together. if you abandon the marriage now, no one will heal from the harm that has been done. I agree with that statement totally,I love my husband and my stepkids but i have stayed in this relationship mostly because i want these children to have some closure from the harm that has been done.I don't think i could live with myself knowing that i just ran away from this situation not to have to "deal" with it.Its important for all of us to get through this,it will teach them a valuable lesson in life.We shouldn't "run away" from things,we should confront them and find a way to overcome them... Are there other relatives around who will take on the responsibility of the SS ? Unfortunetely the only relative availableand willing is the grandmother. My husband would not be willing to move out and stay with him,he has a hard time going to the visits to see him and when he does he usually comes home feeling all mixed up.He says he has conflicted feelings,he loves him because he is his son,but he acts so much like his xwife and his mother-who he can't stand to even speak of,that he feels as if he is just just like them..I think they call it "transference" in other words he sees him and he sees "controlling,abusive,crazy mother and x wife" whom he chose to get out of his life when he realized that their toxic behaviors were making him "physically ill".This is his son-and he is just as toxic as they are.I think he struggles with the fact that he is so much like the two women who have caused im so much pain and misery in his life and nomatter what he does he is destined to have to deal with his toxic son for the rest of his life.Its just all really complicated...Right now i am just focusing on the kids i am raising and helping them heal from the trauma they suffered. There is no way i could focus on his oldest and remain sane.Its just too overwhelming....See MoreIs my flat roof about to fall apart?
Comments (25)Here is what I heard from the company that did the shingles roof of my house. Names have been changed or omitted to protect the innocent. ;) First Reply: Hi – It looks like they originally installed an EPDM rubber roof system up there and then applied a coating to it once it started to fail and cause leaks. I’m not sure on the leaks obviously, but most people would not spend $4-5 a SQ FT to apply a temporary solution for no reason whatsoever. It also appears to have been applied during the summer which is why you’re seeing bubbling in certain locations. Even though you’re not experiencing leaks, you can see on some of the zoomed in photos that some of the fiber from the rubber membrane is exposed due to aging. That’s obviously not a good thing. How much life remaining is almost impossible to narrow down since most people are pro-active and try to fix a problem before it becomes one and other people wait until they have interior damages to repair before doing anything about the source of the leak. I can’t speak for you there. Moving forward, we would recommend a TPO system (Thermoplastic Polyolefin) that utilizes fuse welded seems and also has energy efficient properties. This is the same type of membrane that’s used on commercial roof systems and new modern homes without roof pitch. We’re a GAF certified Master Elite TPO installer so we’re well-qualified to tackle this for you if you decide to go that route. Let me know if you want us to have someone out and get you a quote for that. Hope this helps. Thanks! I then asked him what it would cost, whether a low-slope roof is better, whether a shingles roof could be put in instead, etc. Second Reply: It’s better because there are essentially no penetrations for roof to get into even with product failure. Most shingles cannot be installed on a low-pitch roof and even so, they will typically have issues during heavy rain. We can usually instead a TPO system for $400-650 per 100 SQ FT depending on the area (large commercial projects will see the low end of that) and whether or not we’re adding insulation (PolyISO) board below the TPO as is common practice. I would of course get more than one quote from a low-slope roof specialist if I go that route. What do you guys think? Anyone familiar with the TPO System? Thanks in advance. (I still haven't gone up to measure the pitch. So, shingles may or may not be an option)....See MoreMy echeveria is falling apart. Help.
Comments (5)Rocks at the bottom do not help. Excess water collects between them, and gets easily re-absorbed back, keeping potting mix constantly moist. It is important to have excellent drainage for succulents and that means fast draining potting mix and drainage holes in containers. Easy way to find out if succulent needs watering is using a bamboo or wooden skewer or chopstick (or even pencil). Stick it deep into pot - about 3/4 deep, and leave in for 5-10min (or longer). If it is dry when pulled out - time to water. If damp, there is still plenty of moisture and wait to water. There is no 'set' time for watering. Colder it is, less often they need to be watered. Many ppl overwinter succulents in cooler temps, and do not water them for 2 mo or longer....See MoreDeborah
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