How do I design a dorm room to suit an adult and not a college student
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Comments (32)re Graduation: I'm working on it. ;) I'm a mechanical engineering student with a minor in math, but I'm planning to go into research. I'd like to work to develop systems that will run more effectively on alternative fuels. It'll fulfill my need to save the green things. Until then, I've got some plants. :) re Community Gardens: That sounds promising, but I really do not have the time to go out and do that. I take an average of 18 credits per semester while also learning Swedish. (Going to Sweden for study abroad next Jan.) As much fun and joy as growing things gives me, I cannot devote that much time to finding somewhere here and going back and forth. I also just really do not feel safe at all leaving campus. re Sprouts: I saw this the other night and it looked interesting so I hunted around in my little "mini-kitchen" (a little plastic thing with some shelves, a microwave, and a minifridge) and all I found was some popcorn. I only get the plain kind in the plastic bag that you have to put in a paper bag yourself. The package didn't say anything about them being pre-treated, so I looked up sprouts online and these should probably be done some time tomorrow if what I read was correct. I was rinsing them today and saw that they are growing tiny little things from the end of the seeds! That's so neat! re Chia Pets: Chia pets sound fun too. While I couldn't eat them, if I were to find that they were not toxic to rats I could probably give them to my darling rat-girl when they are done growing. She loves to dig. :) re Lights: I went to home depot and got a little setup for $12 that is a ballast and 2 48" flourescent lights. Each light is 40 watts, 3300 lumens, CRI 70, and 4100K. I am not sure if that will be sufficient for the current veggies, but even if it is not then it was not much money lost and I'll have an extra light in my room! I tried to set it up today but I do not have the proper hooks in the ceiling. Tomorrow I will get duct tape. ::maniacal grin:: Do you think that mushrooms would grow more easily in low light? In nature they grow in the forest, which is dark, right? I love portobellos... I'm not sure how things will work out with these veggies, but by the end of the summer I am quite determined to have found a few things that I can grow here that aren't flowers. Because I hate flowers....See MoreHow often do you hear from your college student?
Comments (12)Ohh, same boat as you, only last year. What a tough time being a parent, no? Finally resigned myself (with a little support from DH), that if I/we didn't hear from DD, it was a probably a good thing. DD was busy, had work to do, making new friends, adjusting to living with 2 roommates (DD is an only child), and everything else that comes with going away to college. Also, the college DD attends, requires all incoming freshmen to do a First Year Seminar which pairs the freshman with mentors in groups. The upperclassmen (mentors) do things like meet informally on a weekly basis to answer questions about adjustment to college life, have bi-weekly dinners with the peer group, make a point of checking in on a student who seems may be having trouble, etc. Also, a mandatory first semester class was FYS, which was all about adjusting to college life. That class is held by the professor assigned for each major. DD went in undeclared and stayed with her FYS advisor through her entire freshman year. DD's professor/advisor had his entire group of freshman and peer mentors come to dinner at his home ~ a farm he shares with his wife. Nice BBQ, bonfire, music, get to know you, casual social thing. So nice of him to do so. DD declared a major at the end of her Spring semester. Now has a different advisor. DH & I were very glad the school mandated this FYS, as we feel it was sooo important that there was some support provided to every freshman as they moved to a new chapter in life. A safety net, if you will Had we heard from DD everyday, it would have been an indicator that she wasn't acclimating, or at least not trying to do so, if DD was still so "wired" to me/us. Would say I got a few texts, not many. Calls, less than texts. First time home was only 2 weeks into the Fall semester. DD had a "mini-meltdown/pity party" about the dorm room, how hard her classes were, how much work, yada yada. Well, as I wasn't the most sympathetic audience, I had a sit down with DD and let her vent, but then I asked DD if she would like to trade places with me, or with any of her high school classmates who weren't fortunate enough to have gone away to college. I think the light bulb went off for DD. After our discussion, it seemed as tho she had gotten it, and truly appreciated having the opportunity to be away at school. By the end of the Fall semester, DD couldn't wait to go back from Christmas Break. Thankfully, it all fell into place and worked out well. If you feel your DS is not isolated, and otherwise seems to be doing well, then I would just try to wait for him to communicate. I tried to sit on my hands, so as to let DD get into her groove at school, only texted if necessary, and responded to the texts DD initiated. I knew she was adjusting okay after the first few months, and I am confident in my relationship with DD being very strong at its core. I figured if she needed me, she would call or text. I also did some baking, sent her favorite cookies along with a mid-semester care package. While recently on vacation visiting family (DD is now a sophmore), I asked about a another family member whose DD is the same age as my DD, and who is now attending her sophmore year at college away from home. I was curious how much communication went on between that student and her mom/dad/family? Well, the person to whom I was talking had taken said student to her college orientation, as her parents were both working that day. The speaker at orientation told the parents (mine wasn't the parent), that if you aren't hearing from your child, send them a text or email, or even leave a VM on their cell, that you are sending them $$, or do they need anything? See how fast they respond. LOL. So, we just tried a little experiment after this vacation conversation to see if the advice was good advice. Heard back immediately from DD. We laughed so hard about how true that orientation speaker was. So, there is something to that particular strategy. Fall break isn't too far off. My DD attends a private college, so they have a fall break next weekend, but most big universities don't have the mini break, first time home will be Thanksgiving. Just wait till you see the difference in your DS. It was amazing watching from afar, my DD change into an independent young woman. HTH....See MoreWhat colleges still offer same sex dorms?
Comments (5)Are you the student or the parent in this situation? Either way, the MOST important thing about chosing a college should be to find the school that offers the best preparation for the career the child wants to pursue. If you're the student, I'd recommend that you discuss your preferences with your guidance counselor. He or she will be able to help you find a school that's right for you. If you're the parent? I'd have to say you're walking on a very dangerous line. When we try to micromanage our grown (and legally, 18 is adult) children's lives, we're likely to completely push them away. Do that enough and they may never find their way back. Also, I refer back to what I said first--getting a good and appropriate education, one that will provide the tools needed to be a success in the field the student wishes to pursue is the really important thing when choosing a school. If you attempt to limit your child to schools that offer same sex dorms, you may close the door to them going to a good school that would offer a much better education. You may find they are so unhappy at school that they don't finish. You may find they resent your rules so much, they will not want anything to do with you. Never forget, the goal of parenting is to make our job obsolete. We teach them when they're young, SO THAT when they are grown they can make good choices on their own, without us directing every decision. I don't know about you, but I do NOT want to still be raising my daughter when she's 40 and I'm 70. Look, if you'd done a good job of teaching your child, they'll do the right thing. And if they don't? Well, making mistakes and learning how to rectify them is also an important part of the learning process....See MorePreparing Son for College Dorm Life
Comments (19)Got a lot of smiles from these posts. Remembrances of my four going off to college, each for the first time. First to go was DD. She took 125% of everything she needed. The school sent a list and I got another list from a different school too. We got it all. took 2 vans to move her in. She shared a 7 x 11 foot room with one other girl! We have a pic of her room on move in day. Oops, that super size box of Tampax on the bed shows in every picture! Her and old room mate laughed about that one at DD's wedding shower! Now, the next 3 were boys and they take 100% of what they need (meaning: 25% of what you KNOW they need). One set of sheets, who needs to wash except at Xmas and Spring break?! I mean it simply amazed me! If they didn't have something they needed, they just went down the hall and "borrowed" it from someone else (usually a girl who had it all). If they knew they were coming home in 2 weeks, then they didn't do laundry. No, I do not do anyones laundry except mine and DH's, they just didn't want to haul it anywhere. So don't worry, what they don't take with them you can mail or they will beg from soneone else. BTW mail them a package one day BEFORE they leave. Amazing how much a box from home says "I love you". Still have 2 in college, had all 4 in at the same time one year! Kathy G in MI...See Morechiflipper
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