If you want RH Cappuccino, have it color matched in Ben Moore paint. Have it made it a quart first. In the base and sheen you will ultimately use in the house. If the builder dictates SW, you'll never get a color match to RH Cappuccino without it showing with a green undertone in your house. I don't know what you mean by "3rd down on a color chart". I think you might mean that you want the value of the color you choose to be that of the average color that holds the third position down on a typical paint color strip. Value is the lightness and darkness of a color. Not to be confused with intensity. Intensity deals with how pure or muted a color is -- how grayed or dulled. If you are using value when selecting paint color, you need to understand LRV. See link below. THE POSITION A COLOR HOLDS ON A STRIP OF COLORS MEANS NOTHING relative to any other strip or anything else for that matter. Color strips and fan decks are simply a method to organize color and that method of organization does not provide any guidance or specific direction to coordinating, conceptualizing, or developing color schemes. Can't even count on the colors to be arranged in a literal light to dark sequence on the strips -- the colors are arranged from light to dark, yes, but it's not necessarily the SAME COLOR mixed to different values. You can have a half dozen colors that sit in the "third one down" spot and they would have absolutely nothing in common -- they would be at all different intensities and have a variety of LRVs, etc. Have to know how to evaluate individual colors. Understanding LRV is a good first step. Here is a link that might be useful: Understanding Light Reflectance Value (LRV)

Ooh I like that Berkshire Beige- I do need to look at that! That's the shade I was leaning toward, I don't think I'd seen it! I've thought about green or coral- right now the bathroom's green,and if I do the bedroom in that (it would be a different shade) then I'd have to redo the bathroom (which is no big deal.)I have another dark peach bedroom, so was leaning towards tan- or maybe a green. Thanks for the suggestions!

Well, I bought a quart of Revere Pewter, and one of Gossamer by Pratt & Lambert...just a tad deeper than the Feather Gray, as well as a test quart of Sherwin Wms Requisite Gray--the pretty one from Ttodd's old bedroom pictures. They are all so close. Seriously close. The Requisite Gray has the same depth as Revere Pewter, just maybe one slight tad more gray. The Gossamer is almost a match for Revere Pewter. So, now I've determined that what I need is something just a little warmer, and perhaps a shade darker. If you saw my living room right now, you wouldn't even know what to think. I've splotched a dozen things. All walls are painted. Just not the same!! Red

Glad you chose a colour, Robo. Are you still satisfied with your choice? We are planning on using BM Dark Linen, which is on the same card as Pale Sea Mist. In our house neither is neon. In fact, Pale Sea Mist looks dingy/muddy. Interesting how lighting, surrounding colours, and spaces impact a colour. Dark Linen looks like the palest colour one might see on a Luna Moth, and plays with shadows beautifully. We have 4 different woods/stains, 2 different types of masonry, plus all kinds of jutting walls/corners & asymmetry in our 1960’s semi-open floorplan, so paint colour has been a hard nut for us to crack. Oh, and the lighting. It’s not typical. It’s brighter on the north side than the south side, even though the light itself has a cooling effect. Anything with blue or grey in the undertone turns grey. My hubby is a sun lover, whereas I‘m an overcast gal, but even I can tell how much we need to open up the space with color.