Can you fold over footboard or bench at end of bed? I have NEVER been able to sleep under heavy covers.

I bought the most lightweight comforter that company store offers and it’s still too hot for me. Like you, I don’t exactly have hot flashes but I wake up hot and sweaty in the middle of the night. I finally threw the comforter and duvet across the room and put the summer quilt back on the bed with a folded blanket on top, which DH uses on his side of the bed. I find that one flannel sheet (fitted sheet isn’t flannel, only top sheet is) and a lightweight quilt is just about right for me.

I’m hot natured also. I bought a cheap duvet insert at linens and things, when it existed. As thin as it is, I only use it from dec-feb. the rest of year I can only use coverlets and have been known to use duvets w/no insert.

Maybe a vellux blanket? I really don't like them but they do have a bit of heft and would keep the duvet from looking flat. I adore my duvet and light down comforter but I also have those nights when I wake up in a lather. I have never been able to figure it out. Maybe there is some random hormone still floating around trying to get out. I can see where the duvet will have to go come April when temps start to climb.

dedtired that's a great idea - I don't like the feel of those vellux blankets at all - they're ookie! - but inside a duvet cover it just might be enough. Random hormone - ha!

bossy when I was dealing with the true hot flashes I used an empty duvet cover and kept a coverlet folded at the foot of the bed for DH. I could do that again but it always looked so flat - the fluff is what makes a bed look inviting I think.

Sue where did you find a lightweight quilt? I had one years ago that was light but all the ones I find now have quite a bit of heft, like matelasse and DH hates the weight - he thinks they bend his toes over !!

Alison what we have isn't heavy at all - it's very light. I start out cold most every night so I love the bit of down for that. But eventually my inner oven turns on.

I live in southern Louisiana and use a Company Store lightweight down alternative comforter inside various duvet covers year round. I've been having hot flashes (average 5-6 per night) for the past 18 years. Easy enough to kick off for the duration and then crawl back under.

http://www.thecompanystore.com/lacrosse-tcs-down-primaloft-deluxe-comforter/c3f3-ps-g17.html#start=1

Have you looked at Ikea? They have affordable cooler duvets. They have them in "warm" and "hot" options as well. They have different price points in each category, depending on the filler type.

CindyMac mine is also Company Store but what I'm more focused on is ~gulp~ 18 years !?!?!? ugh.

susmtl I have not looked at Ikea - great idea. That's where my current duvet cover came from and I love it because it's light as a feather and washes like a dream. I feel an Ikea trip coming on....... 2 hours away so it does require planning.

We ditched our fluffy comforter several years ago and got a lightweight quilt similar to this one that I found on Amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B073VL7S5Y/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1519184317&sr=1-4&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&dpPl=1&dpID=51xJWaFFIML&ref=plSrch&th=1&psc=1

I find even a drop of synthetic material will make me hot more quickly. What I do when it is too hot for me is I layer hemp or cotton sheets. Also the type of mattress seems to impact me as well. Memory foam causes me to heat up more quickly and stay hot. I use a wool blanket on top of my sheets when I'm going that route to make the bed look neater tidier and more full. DH also gets hot so he's okay to have just the wool blanket and sheets.

I just use sheets. In the winter, I add a comforter or blanket. I need something over me, and am content with old fashioned sheets. (Never heard of duvets until I discovered this site. )

(The comforter is on the bed for fluff year round, I just don't always use it when actually sleeping.)

You might consider a mulberry silk filled duvet -- allegedly they breath and release heat more, but I've never tried them. And true versions (not those mixed with poly) are very expensive.

My two basic temperatures in bed are cold and hot.

Ditto - only for me it extends beyond being in bed. What the heck happened to our internal thermostats!?

Gooster I almost bought a silk filled duvet at Costco many years ago - it was costly but probably far less than buying elsewhere.

I have the same issue -- and I recently verified with Company Store that we have the lightest weight. I am fine with it on my feet and legs, but most of the time is becomes too warm. It is much too warm when I put it inside the duvet -- and we only use it in the coldest weather here (3 days last year -- maybe 3 weeks this year). The rest of the time we use a lightweight quilt or Rough Linen's Summer Cover. I have a lab and a linen throw if my feet get cold. ;)

Never saw a silk one at Costco or I would have been tempted to check it out.

I would do as Allison suggested and not use the duvet. We never use our top cover to actually cover up with. I pull it down at night. We then use a sheet and blanket (how heavy depends on time of year) to actually cover with. I don't have hot flashes but must have a cool room to sleep in.

For some reason I am now sleeping warm, too, even though we turn our heat way down at night. I can no longer do any type of duvet or comforter, even the light weight ones, especially if it's in a duvet cover. Since DH always sleeps warm, too, we have switched to using just a regular top sheet and quilt - no flannel sheets or extra blankets or duvets. We have the Pottery Barn Linen Diamond quilt and it is warm enough and very breathable, too.

I used to like a fluffy, inviting-looking bed, but honestly, I don't really care anymore. I have made peace with just a quilt and a more streamlined look.

Bluebell that linen quilt is beautiful. Even though it's washable I'm trying to stay away from solid colors - prints are more forgiving in my world read: dog ;-) I think a quilt offers enough of a fluffy look - it's the empty, flat duvet I don't want to go back to but may have to in summer. It's like a deflated balloon.

tina if I could find the right blanket and just use the duvet cover as the pretty topping that might work.

lascatx that silk comforter was one of their road show events - they had a large set up in our Costco. Kind of kicking myself now.

They may not have come to Texas. Probably not the climate needed to justify them.