Well, my two Ruby's (Angel's Blush) aren't overly large. I have them in areas where I will keep them pruned back as well. Monrovia lists this one at 8-12' tall and 6-10' wide. I think with pruning it could be kept in the 5-6' range. If you do a search I think you could find a picture ego45 posted of a non-pruned paniculata just showing that with no pruning they can, in fact, become quite large. Size is also a factor of environment. Mine seem to grow slower than those further south - probably due to the shorter growing season. Ditas - I'm so sorry to hear about your granddaugher - what a nice way to remember her by. Dirtdigger, there is a link above if you are willing to go mail order for Ruby. I like my Pink Diamond as well - but love the color of Ruby more. By the way, I don't put a lot of store into what Dirr says about paniculata. He doesn't like Ruby either - and it is amazing IMO. His various comments in his book about the paniculata make me think that they perhaps perform better in the more northern climates than in the deep south - in particular those that fade to pink. He does comment that many of the paniculata were evaluated in the cool European climates that rarely experiences the heat and humidity of the US. I would be curious to see what he said about Quickfire. I purchased it this year but it is too small to really evaluate.

You could try it without shutters, if that is allowed. If not, black Or sage green Either would be beautiful :) I'm sorry I don't have specific colours to suggest.

Easier to match paint to curtain than the reverse. Happyleg makes a good point about off white being a versatile wall colour but don't think that blush walls will tie you in to one colour scheme. It pairs well with white, cream, yellow, coral, greens, blues, gold, grey, charcoal, black... Check Bed, Bath & Beyond. Society6 also offers shower curtains. You can easily lose an evening browsing that site.

Make some BIG samples on white board and move them all around your room. I lean toward the peaches myself and it took FOREVAH and a lot of samples before I decided. Some of the rose/pink/peach colors are grayed out and desaturated and others are just tooooo bold. IMO. I ended up with a lighter version of what I thought I wanted.