Shouldnt I have cried

I've heard that Time heals all wounds - so perhaps you are well.

Hi Christine. Grief is a weird thing, there's just no telling how it will manifest itself. Sometimes the tears come much later than we expect or maybe not at all- who knows why?

When my father passed away last year, I hadn't seen him in quite a while (long story), so I cried initially upon finding out, and then had no more tears for a few weeks. I don't think it registered fully with me at the time how gone he was. Now it's a few months out and sometimes the grief just catches me for whatever reason- it's hard to say why and when it comes. Let it be its own thing. Maybe you had already grieved this man after breaking up with him under such sad circumstances, and you were already all griefed out where he was concerned? No right or wrong here.

quasifish, my Mom passed 42 years ago and I miss her every day and I do cry for her when I least expect it, sorry about your Dad, it was a loss in more ways than one, I had a love hate relation with my Dad and I didnt cry over his passing, I grieved for him long before he died. Thanks for taking the time to respond to my question.

sonni1, your right, time heals

There are no rules -- everyone grieves different. There is nothing wrong with you.

the tears may come one day or not.

I never cried when my mom or dad died and feel no guilt, however, when my cat was killed by a predator, that tore me up.

Oh I wish I could give you a hug...

No...There's nothing wrong with you. Most likely, you did a lot of grieving the loss of him while he was still alive...