Communication is one of the most important parts of a marriage. You can't communicate if you have no voice and if you let it go sooner or later it will eat away at your marriage. I would sit down with your husband when he is relaxed and feeling good and discuss things. Make it about you and not a blame game. You might say--when we disagree I feel like I have no voice. I feel--- and keep on in that vein. You don't want to mention his ex or get him on the defensive but you want him to respect your feelings and understand them so don't use you do or you don't do instead have every sentence start with I

If you need to see a counselor go. He needs to sort out that stuff from the previous relationship. Maybe you go if he won't. I had the best ever relationship but we rug swept many issues and now it's a big monster. I don't know that we'll survive it. I regret not standing up to him sooner.

I really am just blind struck ...thought this past week was getting better but right now really afraid it will end...and it would destroy me....I just cannot with being so mean.

Please do see a counselor. It will help you to clarify your thoughts and decide what you want to do.

Let your husband know that things need to change. You cannot go on bearing the brunt of anger you didn’t earn. It’s not fair.

Any relationship article you read will stress the importance of “fighting fair” if you don’t want the arguing to wreck the relationship. Your husband needs to know that.

And if your husband is not interested in fixing this, and you decide you aren’t willing to spend the rest of your life feeling disregarded, disrespected and disempowered, ending the marriage will not destroy you.

It will free you.

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A relationship in which you are afraid to speak up lest things "escalate" is not a perfect marriage. Please take care of yourself.