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As a child, did you have books in your home?
Comments (63)Golly, I love all your stories! Some of your comments remind me of my own love affair with books, & one of them, 'We lived within walking distance of a branch of the NY Public Library', sounds like pure heaven! 'I can still remember how proud I was when I got my own library card when I was 5.' I was older, but I do remember that card! & the big steps up to the big door & the big balistrude (or some such) where I could sit & read until my mother came back to pick me up. the ceiling fans in the cool, hushed lobby area. the smell of the date stamps & the waxed linoleum floors... I read the "Black Stallion" series starting, I think, when I was in 2nd grade. read 'em all. The very first one "The Black Stallion", was an orange hardback book with the silhouette of The Black on the front. I loved that book. About 3 years ago, I bought a bunch of books that a library nearly 60 miles from my hometown was discarding, including an orange hardback copy of "The Black Stallion". When I settled down to re-read it, I found that it had been stamped in to the Ferris library in the 1990s, but it had been stamped in my hometown library in 1957. It was 'my' book. 'Oddly, I haven't done a lot of reading in the last couple of years' I've noticed that I too go through 'spells'; sometimes I read all the time, sometimes I sew all the time, sometimes I have to re-aquaint myself with the concept of 'books' & sometimes I have to make friends again with my sewing machine! Life takes us down different roads sometimes, but our old loves are always there. Sue, try audio books; I listen to them all the time, at home & in the car. I love 'em! 'When I was in first grade, I filled out a little tiny order form for a set of Brittanica encyclopedias and sent it in. A salesman showed up at the front door.' Bingo! I filled out one of those cards in the doctor's office, for a children's set of 'encyclopedias' of Bible stories. The sample book in the doc's office was a bright sort of turquoise marine blue with a technicolor-bright illustration of Jesus & a crowd of children. Out of that one card, I scored the Bible encyclopedia, the Book of Knowledge, & Lands & Peoples, an encyclopedia about different countries around the globe. The Book of Knowledge was my favorite; besides informational articles, it had stories & poems. "The Arab's (Something-Song? Call?) to His Steed" marked the first time I'd ever heard of Arabian horses, & they're still my favorite. My brothers & I were very lively, & the only way my mother could get us inside to take naps was to read to us from the Book of Knowledge! When she broke up housekeeping, my mother gave the Bible stories to her church's children's dept, & I don't know what happened to Lands & Peoples. I still have the Book of Knowledge....See MoreWhat to do about the cruelness of your boyfriends child's mother
Comments (58)Sorry I was having a bad weekend, I didnt mean to lash out, Im just upset with the whole situation....I had no intention of harming his visitation, he has visitation set up already, he just hasnt had the chance to change it to have her come spend the summers with us for a little while. BM said to the law guardian that she wouldnt mind that, but then when I spoke to her she said that was never going to happen, that her daughter was never going to leave the state. I never said I wanted her to bring Abby to me, I want her father to see her, that's all. I do not EXPECT her to let me see Abby. I seriously was just trying to get along with her and she hurt my feelings with what she said so, I am Human, lashed out, it was a mistake and I cant take it back..... So anyway, he does have visitation, it jsut doesnt work since he isnt in the same state anymore. She also never told the courts she was moving, so when he was gone, they had a court date in the wrong county....Things have just been so tough, and I guess I just want to understand why BM is being this way. The relationship ended badly, I understand that, but it was her that cheated and gave up on him. and took his daughter away without saying why... I guess she knows thats the only way she can hurt him...and its working.....and in the process she is hurting me too. I just want to understand why she is not thinking of her daughter in all this.....Oh and about the phone calls, she doesnt have an answering machine, it just keeps ringing and ringing, and she will not give her cell phone number. Her house phone is private, and whenever she calls my husband, it is from a private number, and its not always from her home phone so she blocks her cell phoen number too, idk why, cause she gave him a fit about not having his cell phone number......Im really sorry for being a jerk on this forum... I just took it all as a personal insult and this is a very hard situation so it made me feel worse then I already felt.....I guess all I can do, is believe that God has a reason for this and that God has a plan that will work out in the end for all of us, including BM. All I care about is Abby and I just want her to know that her father and I love her very much, and Im scared of all the time we have been away from her that she will think that her father dosnt love her and he does. He donst like confrontation, like any guy, and when he ahs to fight just to talk to his daughter, it stresses him out a great deal. I know its not an excuse.... I just see what he has been through with all thsi and most of all he doesbnt want to see his daughter get hurt so he just doesnt bother calling cause he doesnt feel like fighting all the time. I just wish this whole situation was different...Things will eventually work out, just not when i want them too.........See Morehow well did your child adjust?
Comments (18)Firstly, I'm not someone who needs a man. Geezus, I scoff at that!!! I have lived ALONE in MY house (own, not rent mind you) since my child was in diapers. I NEVER have received child support. I have NEVER asked a man for money and never did any give me any. Yes I dated. Was involved for 1 year with someone who had a child, he wanted to get married and have oodles of babies so I broke up with him (we did NOT co-habitate). I knew I was unable to have more children so I let him go his own way and find a woman who wanted to get pregnant again. Then I was involved with someone for 1.5 yrs. He also had a daughter. Yes my DD became VERY attached to both these men's daughters. This second long-term relationship ended VERY BADLY and was NOT healthy for me or my DD. I knew that and thanked God when it ended. This one was never going to result in marriage and I even told him so, to his face. I suppose it was that harsh realization (that I didn't want to marry him) that made things easier when he stormed off and broke off our relationship... I knew it was not something I wanted in my life permanently. SO you see, I don't flit around from man to man. Heck I hardly dated in between those two long-termers. AND I NEVER lived with anyone else. The last time I lived with someone it was when I had a ring on my finger. Trust me I told this much to Dave when we discussed him moving in. I told him that I'm not used to having a man 'underfoot' and I was fearful it'd be like having a whole 'nother child to take care of. And I had very VERY bad memories of the slovenly, lazy man I married drooling on the couch, me cleaning up around him and making sure he was fed and lying on his side so he'd not choke on his own drug-induced vomit. So YES I was fearful of "things" happening over again. I am more than independent, to the point people admire me greatly for it. I do NOT NEED Dave for his money OR support. I had to laugh at that! Are there really women out there who are that helpless and needy? If so, I pity them. Cuz I'm not one of them. It is just SO NICE to come home and see I have HELP with 'things'. Everything. I handled it all for so long that I became accustomed to it. Having him there for 'it all' is wonderful. But I do not need it. And yeah it'd be all peachy keen and fine to be in a long marriage and only have one man. But that is not how my life has been - lots of us haven't had the pleasure Rosie has had. I can't go back and change things. This is my life. You bet I'd love to be in a stable marriage with just ONE PERSON. Which is something I can now work towards. Just because I'm no longer an 18 year old virgin who will wear a white veil at my wedding doesn't mean I'm garbage. I'll wear white; I'll just be 30-something and toting a school-ager to the altar with me. MI Step Mom... the idea of marriage was not even an idea until we met. I was dead-set against it. I mean if I wanted to hook onto someone and get married, it'd been with that first long-term relationship I had years back. But I knew it was wrong because he wanted babies galore. I didn't. Is that a wrong reason to end a relationship, or should I have married him and risked my health (I have Epilepsy and am now infertile), just to provide a "stable" relationship for my daughter? Should I have forced my exboyfriend, the angry and miserable guy with the daughter my own daughter adored, into marriage to make things stable, to have a husband, to give Emily a father? No way. And I won't do that here. The only reason I can see to marry this man I'm living in sin with is because I love him and he loves me, and we want to be together. Not because I need his money (hah hah.. I make more than he does...) or because I need a 'man' around. What a weird conversation this has been... but fun. - darkeyedgirl...See MoreDid you/your child find college tours useful?
Comments (30)We had different experiences with each of our kids. Visiting the campus and taking the tours were very helpful for 2 out of the 3. We also made sure to spend a night in each area so that they could sample the night life. I really enjoyed those trips and spending time with my kids one on one. #1 Wanted small liberal arts universities so the two of us made the rounds of schools from Colby in Maine, through CT, MA, upstate NY, and PA. We probably visited 12 campuses over 12 months and I could see that he refined his list as we went. He went to his first choice and loved it. #2 Wasn't sure what he wanted to do after h.s. so he took a gap year and worked in a restaurant and catered. He had considered the Culinary Institute of America but then surprised us when he changed his mind and applied to one (just one) University. Sight unseen! We shouldn't have been surprised because he has always done his own thing. After graduation he went back to restaurant work. And yet again surprised us by applying to law school. At least no visits were necessary here - he picked the best one that accepted him. #3 DD knew she wanted an urban experience and visited campuses in Boston, NYC and Philly. She thought the student lead tours were useless as far as getting honest information or opinions from the student tour guides. However she did value walking on campus and touring the facilities. DD thought the most productive visits were those where she stayed with friends who were already enrolled. She went to classes, ate in the dining halls, hung out in the dorms and was able to get a good idea of campus life. My neighbor had been touting her Alma Mater, Boston College. But DD spent one afternoon there and knew it wasn't for her - she complained that it reminded her of high school - very preppy and very pretty and everyone looked the same. She was looking for something with a little bit of an edge - and that's how she ended up in NYC....See MoreSueb20
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