I snore, DH snores & the cat snores. We all sleep in a queen bed with room left over.

I think it's interesting to see/observe how others live.

*We* have a bedroom, but I sleep in it. Why? Five years ago my husband was in a car accident. He has severe headaches that keep him awake. He can sleep for a couple hours at a time, but getting up and coming back to bed when I have to get up for work in the morning was waking me up. Then 14 months ago, he had emergency life saving surgery to remove part of his stomach. So add getting up to RUN to the washroom into the mix. He sleeps on the couch even though we have a spare room with a queen size bed in it. He usually falls asleep watching tv. It's funny because we were just talking about this with my kids the other day. When he does think he can sleep in the bed, I can't sleep because I'm so used to being able to stretch out in bed I can't sleep. So he gets up and goes back to the couch. lol

I always laugh when I hear others reasons for not sleeping with spouse but yet they can sleep next to a big dog that snores and slobbers on their pillow and sheets. Choosing a dog over a spouse is odd to me.

Our dog was never allowed in the bedroom. I wouldn't have slept a wink, with a dog snorting and snoring and scratching. I can't imagine being able to sleep with a pet on the bed.

We've always had one pet-free room...our bedroom! I cannot imagine sleeping in our King size bed with pet hair. It's very nice having one room that doesn't have pet fur in it. And yes, we've loved several dogs and cats over the years.

I suppose it was my mentioning husbands big bedroom and my tiny room that caused you to wonder about this. LOL

I've been married for almost 40 years and up until 1996 we shared a room and a bed. Than along came our daughter with her medical issues. She needs me thru the night. For a long time I was in and out of bed nightly which caused dh (Mike) to have a restless night. He never complained and often got up with me, but I felt bad knowing he had to work in the morning. I started takinga blanket and pillow into daughters room and just kinda camping out on the floor. This became a nightly routine. Than in 2009 when we moved into current house I figured I'd just take the tiny room, not much bigger than a walk in closet. This solved my problem of waking Mike when I need to get up. Current day is no different. My daughter still needs me through the night and I still don't want to disturb Mike expecially now with his medical problems.

Our dog sleeps at the foot of the bed and makes for a great foot warmer. It’s become a ritual in the morning for her to come lay between us for a bit of a cuddle before we start our day. No slobber, no face licking and she’s not allowed to be near our pillows but it’s a nice way to start the day and neither of us would have it anyother way.

We learned the first month of being married that sleeping or "trying" to sleep together was not going to work. We needed our sleep as we both had to get up early to get to work, so we went with separate bedrooms for sleeping. It's been that way for 47 years now. Our dogs and cats would take turns going between the two rooms. We can sleep with the animals, but just not with each other. Now we just have the two cats and they take turns between us too.

Brushworks Spectacular Finishes if you have ever had a spouse accidently roll over and smack you in the face in the middle of the night you'd see how much easier it is to sleep with a pet lol :D

I sleep in the same bed. as my husband. He seldom snores. If he does, I tell him to roll over and he quits. We have a double bed, and a cat always sleeps with us, but last night, because it was cold and more of them came in, we had six of them sleeping with us, and one was sleeping across the room, and six dogs were sleeping on pallets on the floor. He told me I needed to hurry up and come to bed, or there wouldn't be a spot for me.

Shared the same bed with spouse for 54 years. Then his cpap sent me to a spare bedroom. He no longer uses the cpap, but we both became accustomed to all that space to spread out so haven't moved back in together. I do sometimes miss the cuddle time that came with sharing a bed.

That's us, except it is cats. I remember a cartoon....a man and woman in bed and cats all over the foot of the bed. And the woman was saying, "Put on another cat....I am cold."

Snoring can be a sign of a health-threatening medical condition. Often but not always. If ignored, you do so at your own peril.

Both snoring and restless leg syndrome are easily stopped by various means used by a medical doctor who is a sleep specialist. I know from personal experience, I used to have both, now have neither.

We have a king bed. The dog's bed is on the floor. No animals have ever been allowed on our bed at any time and that will never change. It's personal preference but I don't get the attraction of having an animal nearby when sleeping.

I have cats. They don't care what my preference is about the bed, lol. If I close the door, they will scratch and whine and keep me awake anyway. It's usually fine but sometimes they are annoying.

We share the room and we share the king size bed and when it's cold like it has been there are usually at least two cats on it with us. I can stretch my legs over as far as I can go and still not touch my husband, I kind of miss having a queen size bed. I sleep on the outside two feet of the bed usually with a cat and a body pillow. The bed is pretty tall so the dog is not allowed up on it because we don't want her to get hurt jumping up or down. She has her own beds scattered around the room and she likes to sleep under our bed. My husband snores occasionally but all I have to do is give him a little nudge and he will mutter an apology and turn over.

If snoring is indeed a problem CPAP prescriptions seem to be increasingly easy to come by. They may be a screaming annoyance to become accustom to but once they become a habit they are quite useful, increasing the hours of uninterrupted sleep and decreasing the hours of total sleep.

Do tell, Elmer, how you easily got rid of your rls. I think my mom basically died of it; she was on heavy, constant, strong narcotics for the last few years because that's the only way she'd have any peace. I truly believe she would have continued living if she hadn't been dependent on these drugs for so long. I'd love to know what you do for your legs. (That sounds sarcastic but I don't mean it that way--I really would like to know your secret!)

I have tried all current drug therapy available with and without prescription for my rls and unfortunately I am not that fortunate. Some of the medications have conflicts with other meds, some have side effects that do not allow me to use them, including gabapentin and opiates. Some are not used with some of the medical conditions I have. Unfortunately there is no cure for rls today.

https://www.webmd.com/brain/restless-legs-syndrome/restless-leg-syndrome-treatment

We sleep on separate bedrooms due to working different shifts. He hits the sack at 6:00 pm. If I crawl into bed in the middle of his sleep cycle, he can't get back to sleep and it would be unsafe for him to drive semis. If I stayed up till he got up, I'd only get 5 hours sleep! Sleeping in a chair eithout c-pap is worse than no sleep at all.

I have five pets, three cats and a dog and a husband. Not one of them ever comes into my private sanctuary on my antique four-poster rope bed. It's not big, a few inches shorter than a double because it's from 1850 when people were smaller? For decades I slept with my husband only to get increasingly peeved with him going to the bathroom, snoring, or waking me to go to work. He's been in his retirement career for years at the golf course and in the summer that means 5AM. So a dozen years ago, he went to the far back bedroom in this old 180-year-old farmhouse where he has an antique rope bed too and the prettiest room in the house with five windows facing east, west, and south where there is a big greenhouse window filled with dozens of plants. My room is in the front with a fireplace which we have never used because my one window is opened all year (yes, even now at 9 degrees)The pets are one floor down, dogs in crates, cats in any of their many beds. I was an only child and always slept in a double bed by myself and LOVED it then and love it still.

sjerin, I've been a patient of the Stanford Sleep Clinic for 20+ years. I don't think it would be right for me to diagnose or prescribe what works or doesn't work for a particular person. Sleep doctors at prominent facilities like Stanford (some of the docs there, who I've been seen by, were early-on researchers and founders of the sleep specialty several decades ago) have a large and growing number of tools and approaches to offer for each person's specific circumstances. Two years ago, at my annual "checkup", the attending faculty member who met with me was a doc from a Midwestern medical school who the fellowship doc told me was one of the nation's experts on RLS - he'd come to Stanford to give a presentation on the subject and they let him take some clinical appointments. I was chosen for his list of patients to see -he said my effective treatment required no tweaking

Restless leg syndrome is very common and (from what they've told me) usually easily treated, as it has been in my case.

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Speaking of having your partner sock you in their sleep, yeah. My DH has practiced karate for 30+ years. Fairly regularly he will start fighting something mythical in his sleep. Usually kicking, but occasionally throwing an arm. I have been slugged a few times, although I usually wake up as soon as he starts.

Last week he started kicking, and I sharply said "no! no kicking!" He stopped, rolled over and said "harrrummpph". Apparently I ruined a good dream, although he didn't remember any of it in the morning.

We share the same bed. His alarm goes off at 4. I very rarely hear it or wake when he's getting ready. He's out the front door by 4:30. My alarm goes off at 5:30.

I am often in bed asleep before him, sometimes I wake most time not.

DH and I shared a bed for 40 years, but now for the past 3 years we have slept apart. He started having extreme health issues (related to obesity) and I moved to the spare bedroom in the middle of the night more and more often. He had sleep apnea with heavy snoring; later open heart surgery with a long and difficult recovery. During that period I got used to sleeping by myself - what luxury! The blankets stay tucked in, I can leave the ceiling fan on all night, read till I get sleepy, etc. etc. He picked the bed with the soft mattress while I like a very firm mattress. We both sleep better.

None of this keeps us from having conjugal visits, though. We just don't sleep together. :)

SNORING!! many years ago, when still married, had to put up with snoring. got fairly good at a not so obvious poke to get him to change position. one night, i gave gentle poke and said... "you're snoring!" he said... "i'm not even asleep!"... it was the DOG!!

Rhizo- you said "Why do you even want to know about my personal sleeping arrangements?"

Because I'm curious. I reference those old shows because; out of parents, grandparents, aunt's, uncle's, cousins, friends, friends family members, etc, I have NEVER met a single couple who slept separately. The only examples I have ever seen of this is on TV shows.

It makes sense, if there are health issues why a couple would sleep apart. It seems that is the most common reason. I'm glad neither of us is affected by anything that would require separate bedrooms.

Thanks everyone for answering!

anoriginal- too funny!!

We've been married for 36 years and have always slept in a bed together. However this is the best bed we've ever slept in. I thought my sleeping problems were because of him. I found out that they were because my bed was all wrong for me. How did I find that out? I went and tested then bought a different bed that was softer. He loves it too. DH snores but I seldom hear him.

We solved the other minor problem of my hearing him often early like 5 a.m. in the morning shuffling around and getting ready by moving his clothes into the spare room. He got to stay but his clothes were out of there. my sleeps are great again:-). And the dogs and cats sleep on their own mats and do cuddle in the morning. The cats have heated mats which helps in this cold weather. Best of Both Worlds in my mind.

We share a room and a bed,but usually not at the same time. I work nights and sleep during the day. He's a truck driver and usually prefers to make his runs during the day. However,on my off days,he says he would prefer that I sleep with him at night. I try,but he is difficult to share a bed with. He's very tall, a kicker, a cover hog and likes to hold me,which entails putting his pillow almost completely over my head and wrapping me in his arms and legs so tightly I can't move. I just lay there patiently until his shoulder starts to hurt and he rolls over to his side of the bed. I prefer to have the bed to myself, but would never tell him that. He obviously sleeps better by himself as well,but he doesn't agree.

Sadly, no one in this house to share with. My late DH and I always shared the same bed.

I think people should do whatever helps them get a good night's sleep. My late husband and I always shared a bed, and often there were multiple small dogs and cats on it as well. When menopause came along, the dogs left for crates - too hot - but the cats stayed.

Having been a widow now for 12 1/2 years, I love the company of my little dog in bed with me. She sleeps right between the pillows with her warm little bottom under the covers. She snores, but it's like a cat's purring - not the sleep apnea jerky snoring most people do. It puts me to sleep instantly.

I wish my old boy was still next to me...

Anglo your comment bought tears to my eyes. My husband has had several medical problems and recently has been unwell for several months and just got a diagnosis. I reach out many times just to check he is breathing. Also share our bed with 2 cats and would not have it any other way.

No one here but me - so no sharing in this house.

(Actually, I'm at my son's, following car and health problems, and heavily interrupted sleep last night. I have just had a five-hour sleep, after dozing a number of times .. and son has gone to bed, listening to the radio? or - maybe: maybe he's asleep).

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I shared a room with my sister until I married, then with my husband for 41 years until he passed away. For the first time in my life I now have my own room. Would give anything to have my husband back but I do enjoy having my very own space.

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Albert, I still wanted to offer this because it really helped my husband. His physician practices holistic medicine along with his regular practice and thus avoids prescribing harsh medications whenever possible. Often times, my DH experiences serious cramping in his legs and toes at night and this doctor told him that a common cause can be as simple as dehydration, however, an easy fix is to eat a spoon of yellow mustard or to drink pickle juice. Much to my husband’s surprise, it not only works, but he will feel relief within a minute or two.

A lot of people (my dh included) think that because they drink a lot of “fluids” like coffee, tea or soda, that it’s the same as water, NOT. Drinks with caffine in them can cause dehydration.

I've slept with a cat most of my life. My house is so cold and this bedroom is the only warm room....so I let the cats come in that want to. The dogs are all outside dogs and usually stay in a kennel at night but they are all house broken and well behaved, so I let them come in. The only down side to that is that around 3 a.m., they all want out. So I get up and let them out. In about five minutes, they all want back in. So I let them back in. They went back to their pallets and went back to sleep. I don't have any trouble going back to sleep....so I go back to sleep too. I don't mind accommodating them a little. One dog wanted to stay in the kennel, and that's good. He is rowdy and would be more trouble than all the others combined. He is also a long haired dog and the rest are short haired.

My great grand parents and my grand parents slept in separate rooms from the time I could remember. My mom was divorced from my dad so she always either slept with me when I was young or by herself. I always saw other families who had parents and grand parents who slept together and could never figure out why my family was so different. I asked one day and they both explained it was easier for them to sleep the way they wanted and more comfortable having separate rooms plus both grandmothers were able to have frilly girly rooms while my grandfathers had their manly decor.

I was married for 20 years and him and I and our cats slept together on a Queen bed. He snored, I'd wake up tell him to roll over and then try to go back to sleep. His alarm would go off for work and I'd spend 30 mins listening to the snooze button being pressed and having to stay awake to make sure he got up every morning because he was not a morning person then of course by that time I was awake or if I wanted to go back to sleep I couldn't because he'd shower and then run back and forth to the closet, open drawers and just constantly moving around in the bedroom to get ready for work so I was up whether I wanted to be or not.

When I got divorced and moved into my own house I bought I King sized bed all just for me and the cats. Thinking they'd have plenty of room to spread out heh. We share the same side lol. But I thought I'd have a hard time not having someone in bed with me after always having someone to sleep with and I tell you having my own bed and my own bedroom is awesome! I read whenever I want in bed, watch TV. It is quiet when I go to sleep and I can sleep as much or as little as I want without the added noise of another person. I honestly don't think I could go back to sleeping with someone again, I enjoy being alone in my own bed.

My mother in law comes to visit me often she is 80 years old and I made sure she had her own room in my new house. I let her pick her own bedroom furniture and everything. When she comes to visit she wont sleep in it lol she wants to sleep with me so for the usually 2-3 weeks she comes to visit I share my bed with her. Strange I know but it makes her happy and she and I sit in bed watch TV and sometimes even sit there and eat popcorn in bed while watching a movie before bedtime. So her special bedroom sits empty. I make her wear breathe right strips because she snores and tell her if I can't sleep she has to go to her own room lol. But she is the only person allowed to sleep in my bed with me and the cats and if I ever get into a relationship where I have a man move in I guess he will have to take the spare room because I have no desire to share a room again.

My ex-husband liked different bedding......I love a heavy comforter, I like the feel of something heavy and warm on me, it's comforting. He didn't like weight at all. After about a year of marriage he slept in the spare bedroom and continued to do so. We both slept great.

Hubby and I sleep together in a Queen bed. We had a King, but it was too big to get up the stairs and into the bedroom. We've had a Queen for about 5 years and do I ever miss the spaciousness of the King.

Comforters are for kicking to the floor at bedtime. At least around here. :)

Fifty-three years ago my then-fiance said he wanted us to have a king size bed, and we have had the same configuration ever since: Two extra-long double-sided twins on extra-long twin foundations. Over this is a thick mattress pad, sheets, blanket, and in winter, a down comforter duvet. Window cracked open. No TV. The room is for sleeping and loving. If one of us snores, the other nudges and the snorer rolls over. None of our Westies slept IN our bed, but on a bench at the foot. No cats here.

We sleep between linen sheets, on linen pillow cases, a wool blanket topped with a lightweight linen/percale quilt. Lightweight, warm and gentle, not to mention a luxurious feel. Nothing drapes like linens.

Since I sleep alone I don't get the idea of queen/ king sized beds. I never move from my side of the bed. In the morning I'm in the same spot I started out. (and it's about 2 inches shorter than a double bed.) My house is warm thru out (in the winter) but my bedroom is very cold because the window is always open. I LOVE a cold bedroom. I snuggle under a cotton sheet, a Shabby Chic white blanket and large blue and white R Lauren comforter and even have another down one on my feet. Hate sleeping in the summer.

Lily: We sleep with our window open, even in subzero temps, it’s the only way I can get a sound sleep. We use a down comforter in a cotton duvet cover and it works well but last year, one of my sister’s gave us an electric mattress pad that we finally put on the bed this winter. It has 3 warming zones and ooooh my goodness...it’s the best for cold feet. If you’re ever in need of a new mattress pad, I highly recommend giving one a try. Also, did you by any chance get your Shabby Chic blanket from Target? I bought a SC quilt from there back in the late 80’s, early 90’s sometime. It’s a little worn for wear but I still use it in the summer months and love it so, that I just can’t seem part with it. The quality of that Shabby Chick bedding was amazing.

We sleep with our window open in the winter too. I love a cold nose! When my feet are cold they're between hubby's legs. He's a natural heater, his body temp is hotter than mine. In no time I'm warmed up and have to move away from him. :-)

Yes, lukkiirish, all my Shabby Chic stuff was bought at Target and they still carry them. I have two sets of sheets, the blanket and a quilt. The product does hold up well and fits with my decor.

We have not shared a room in many years. Hubby keeps his bedroom between 78 to 80 degrees. Mine is in the frigid temperatures. He keep a rolled up towel outside the bottom of my door to "keep the arctic on your side". He likes heavy bedding and blankets. I use a bottom sheet and light blanket. He has black out shades and heavy drapes over his Windows. I don't even have a curtain in my room. He goes to bed around 7:30 and gets up around 1 a.m. I am up and down at all hours of the day and night. He needs total darkness and quiet. I have an air purifier, the fan, or air conditioner, and the TV going all night.

He likes to sleep with his arm thrown over my shoulder. He is 6'5" and been in construction for over 40 years ... Feels like someone dropped a tree trunk on me when he rolls over and throws his arm around me. LOL

Oh, and I can still hear him snoring from three flights down!

Nunya!

I was married for 32 years, and can't imagine having slept in different rooms. I do recall falling asleep on the floor of the nursery, as I patted a cranky baby on the back, and my husband coming to find me. We bought a king-size water bed, and kept it until the kids stopped wandering into our room during the night. We then went back to sleeping in our full-size antique brass bed.

I've been widowed for 7 years, and although I'd give anything to have my hubby back, I've come to enjoy having the bed and the room to myself--except once in a while the grandsons wander in and want to sleep in my bed.

I keep my bedroom cold, but have a mattress warmer. It is very comforting, and reminds me of the waterbed days. I turn it on before I go to bed, so I don't have to slide in between cold sheets. I love sleeping under a pile of blankets--I have a sheet, matelasse blanket, a comforter, and today I added a quilt.