Am I Crazy? (Sorry long post.)
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help me improve my plan please? (long post, sorry)
Comments (10)I agree that composting in place is a good idea, especially if it would enable you to keep all the material onsite instead of sending some to the landfill, saving you both time and money. The concerns you have about turning the compost and covering the bins would be important to address if you wanted compost faster or had limited space. In your case, since you're not in a hurry, you have lots of land, and what you are doing is effective, the less work the better -- I think it 'll be more productive to figure out how you can spend less time on the composting process (move piles only once, to their final locations, for instance). I have 6 compost bins and a relatively small garden plot (at a community garden, so I have to use bins). I turn them rarely, and I get good compost. Without turning, it takes a little longer. My understanding is that turning can speed up the process if you monitor temperatures daily and turn after the temperature spikes and then declines, and that otherwise turning doesn't make so much of a difference. Covering compost does help control moisture levels and help keep the compost critters warm and happy, but if it works without covers, that's ok too. I have one bin made from hardware cloth, which was drying out too much during the dry season, so I added some cardboard to keep moisture in. It's not pretty, but after one dry season, it does look like it has been very effective. Again, the cardboard sides and the cover help speed up the composting process by conserving moisture (and, to a much lesser extent, heat), but I got compost the old way, too. When I do turn my piles, it's because I see ants, which tells me there are dry spots, so I water it and then (if I have time) turn it and make sure the materials are more evenly distributed. But dry spots usually occur if I've put in a bunch of stems and twigs, and not enough small loose stuff to fill the spaces, so the stems and twigs stay dry. If I were composting only horse manure and watered as I went along, dry spots probably would not occur....See MorePost Wedding: What to do? (Sorry, v. long)
Comments (16)I thought I would address some of your inquiries - My husband and I most definitely talked/talk about this. We both feel very similarly about the situation, but I think he is more angry because it he felt it was embarrassing and disrespectful. I have let him take the lead in the situation. The last time he spoke to her was over a month ago. I actually encourage he to talk with his sister, but she has been slowly cutting him and the rest of the family off - she changed her cell and home phone numbers and email address and didn't tell anyone. Their grandparents were in a serious car accident a couple of months ago and no one knew how to get a hold of her. I absolutely do not talk about this publicly, however I do talk with my close friends and immediate family - my husband knows what I say and to whom regarding his sister. He does not mind and understands. I don't expect her to apologize for her BF's behavior. I think it would have been nice if she had said that she was sorry that she had to leave the reception so early and that she missed such a special day in her only brother's life. I am over the lack of apology and have been for months. I think that it is really difficult to say that this is only my DH's issue, b/c I am apart of the family now. But, I most definitely differ to my DH's wishes re: what to do in handling his sister. Except I do insist on the following: we send her a Christmas card from us. I have talked to DH about my suspicions about her being in a borderline abusive relationship. They really have all the telltale signs (isolation, withdrawl, dominate personality with strong machoistic tendancies, etc.). We don't believe he is physically abusing her (yet), but we know about the signs. I think we will continue to follow her lead on the direction of the relationship, but we are most definitely vocal about the fact that we care about her and would like nothing more to at least be civil. BTW, I had a wonderful time at my wedding and reception. I didn't realize half of the things that happened were going on until after the honeymoon. My brother, DH's BM and ushers, and other loved ones worked at handling everything discreetly. I think most guests didn't even know that these things happened too. I know my Grandmothers had/have no clue. I guess we will just continue to send cards to her for her birthday and holidays, for now. I guess I just wanted to check to see if DH and I should be doing more. DH and I are extremely close to my family, and it pains me that we can't establish a good relationship with his sister. But, I think I just need to come to terms with the fact that it isn't my fault - she doesn't understand how to have a relationship with anyone in her own family. She actually makes her own Mom cry when they talk by telling their Mom that she is fat and needs to loose weight and criticises her about her hair, clothes, etc. It is awful. Jenny is really mean and horrid to all of these people who love her so much. I truly do not understand her. My DH thinks that there is something broken in his sister - they are sooo different. It is amazing that they are siblings. I believe that she has a predisposition to be mean, but that she has also attached herself to a person (her BF) who is like poison. BF has the attitude that you should only have to do what you want to do no matter what, that he and Jenny are right, if anyone disgrees "F@#! them" - sorry for the language, but I've actually heard his say this before about several people. Sigh! Well, thank you for letting me vent. I wish that there was a solution to making the situation better, but there doesn't seem to be a magic bullet. I just have to let go of the idea that all siblings and families relationships work in a particular way when certain criteria are met - it just isn't so. I wish there was an explaination for her behavior - it just doesn't make any sense to me. Yes, her Mom and Dad aren't perfect, but I think there is something really wrong and illogical to her behavior....See MoreI need a "Happy" Room (Sorry, Long Rambling Post)
Comments (29)I don't know if this is good or bad. I went to the local BM paint store today. I was going to grab some paint chips of Hawthorne Yellow (is that what you call the paper strips with three or four or five colors on them?) to put next to "stuff". None in the rack. The only slot out of the 47,000 they have that was empty. I went to the 2 oz. sample rack. Nope, no Hawthorne Yellow (didn't think I'd get lucky). Not a lot of other neat colors, either, but the paint mixer-upper did tell me they are not restocking the small sample jars. The pints are only $7 and the 2 oz. sample jars were $5, so all of us cheapskates around here just buy pints. I did have them mix up a sample pint. Dang, it looks oh-so-different in the can than it does on the chip. Wonder what it's gonna look like on the walls. Guess I'll find out. So do you think in my neck of the woods, it's the color slathered on everyone's walls? Here I thought I was going to pick something unique :-) Now for something completely different: saw these euro shams on clearance plus an additional discount plus free shipping. They didn't have anything else in the pattern which was probably a good thing :-) Does the bicycle print go with anything else in my universe? Nope. Do I care? Nope. We haven't had a car in years, so DH and I rode bicycles everywhere. I saw the pattern, it brought a smile to my face thinking of our many bike rides together so, for somewhere around 12 bucks, I got a much needed dose of temporary happy. I put green sheets on the bed, the blue in the two shams make the icky turquoise on the walls look almost palatable, and the yellow matches Hawthorne Yellow almost exactly. Sometimes it's just little things that put a silly grin on my face :-)...See Moreneed humidity HVAC help please (sorry,long post)
Comments (10)You posted in the plumbing rather than HVAC... but here's my $.02: First you recognize this is really odd. You have hit on the major issues: 1. Sounds like you have an oversized AC unit for the bedroom. That would tend to reduce the temperature without reducing the humidity level in the cooling season. 2. You have tested for other sources of moisture including from the floor (are you on a slab or on crawlspace / basement?) 3. You have tested for water in the walls and have a new roof. Now what about the following: 1. have you ruled out plumbing leaks? 2. have you ruled out a clogged condensation line on the A/C unit that allows water to back up into the room somehow? 3. was the master bedroom an addition or significant remodel? 4. There isn't a humidifier on the master bedroom furnace by chance is there? You need to know that you have an accurate way of measuring humidity such as a digital hygrometer. If you are using accurate test equipment and are getting a significant change in humidity from one room to the next while the AC is off for several days, you need to find out why before you do anything else....See More- 8 years agomoosemac thanked dcarch7 d c f l a s h 7 @ y a h o o . c o m
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