Oh, please stop the butchering
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Comments (17)sorry, I did know that you were picking up your daughter, too, just didn't think of it. "I do agree that as I work through my issues, particularly my pain from my mom's drinking/abuse, it will help me to not be as bothered by BM." wrong wrong wrong. You *need* to be "bothered" by BM. She's a danger to you, & the part of your brain that is in charge of self-preservation *knows* that. There's an excellent book called "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin DeBecker. The core message is that people, especially women, get beaten, stabbed, raped, shot, & murdered because we allow our "rational" brain to argue with our perceptive brain *& win*. One little exercise he does in his safety seminars is: Say you're working late in your office in a high-rise office building. You're the only one on your floor. You leave your office & lock the door & punch the button for the elevator. When it stops & the door opens, you see that there's one person inside, a man. What do you do? He says that every woman in his seminars knows the "right" answer; you don't get on that elevator. but when they discuss it a little further, almost every one of them will sheepishly admit that she'd probably look at the guy & try to figure out if he looks dangerous; then she'd realize that he knows that that's what she's doing; then she'd feel embarrassed that this no doubt perfectly nice man thinks she's the sort of person who suspects somebody without "evidence"; *& then she'd get on that elevator to show the guy that she's a nice person*. This woman is dangerous, you know it, & you keep trying to make your perfectly healthy response (terror) into something that has nothing to do with the threat she poses. This assailant "hugging" you is assault & has nothing to do with your mother. If you haven't broached this subject with your therapist, you need to do so right now, & if you have broached it & the therapist & s/he hasn't supported your healthy response to threat... get a different therapist before we hear about you on the news. I wish you the best....See MoreHelp please with butcher block countertop stain
Comments (12)Mineral spirits evaporate. Unless you drink them, it's not a problem. Tung oil isn't food safe either if you eat it, which is why you shouldn't use it on a counter you're going to cut on. Nothing that creates a protective surface for a counter is truly "food safe". It's a completely overblown concern unless you eat off of your counters though. Cutting boards and trivets should be used with all counter surfaces. The only time you need to worry if a finish if food safe is if you are using butcher block for it's original intended purpose, and chop directly on the counters. Then, you wouldn't stain them at all. Only oil them with mineral oil. Which IS food safe, in it's original meaning, meaning you can ingest it without harm. It's used as a laxative, after all. Staining butcher block is usually best accomplished by a wood dye, not a stain. It will be much more even, especially if you're dealing with a maple butcher block, which can blotch badly. Or, you can use a plain light coat of tung oil as a sealer to minimize the blotching, and then use regular stain on top of that. I wouldn't recommend a stain/tung oil mix for any coatings though, as if you scratch it, you'll be scratching off the color. It's the same as using a pigmented varnish on cheap furniture to disguise the wood underneath. It's one way to end up where you want to be, but it's far from the best way. Tung oil is a good choice for a top coat over the dye though, not because it offers more protection than a standard much harder polyurethane, but because it's easier to touch up if someone's knife does slip off the cutting board and scratch the counter....See MorePlease help me stop the deciding on a duvet cover madness!
Comments (68)Oh my everyone. Thank you for your help, olychick, Tibbrix, aktillery, sjhockeyfan, may_flowers, joaniepoanie, and everyone else! So I bought it. It's on. Not the best pic, and no big pillows, but goes good with my clearance target performance $20 king sheets:) I also told Target I had lost my rain check and they gave me 15% off without it, so I was happy. I had a rough day with some cautious good news, so I figured I deserved it too :) So here goes......See MoreHelp please Gray Cabinet/ Butcher block remodel STUMPED ON COLORS!
Comments (24)Check out GWer elizpiz's gorgeous kitchen with its gray-green cabinets and time-worn, comfortable look, Finally - Elizpiz's Finished Kitchen. I think her cab's color looks great with the wood-wrapped windows so I think it would work well with butcher block counters. The painting technique is going to be more labor intensive but it would definitely suit a 100 year old farmhouse. Here's the link to her photo album. Elizpiz's kitchen is still one of my hands-down favorites. I'm so glad the photo links still work! And just because I have a little time on my hands, here are some other kitchens with gray or gray-green cabinets. A few tilt more gray-blue, which I think would also look good with your floor and butcher block counters. Farrow & Ball French Gray on cabinets. Reads a bit minty green on my monitor but that could be because the floor reads taupe (your floor reads taupe-y on my monitor, too.) Benjamin Moore's Alexandria Beige SW Coastal Plain Farrow & Ball Manor House Grey Hit the photo limit....See Moremoonie_57 (8 NC)
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