Well if I wanted to be snotty I would say anybody can slip up and get pregnant, but I had to make humble application pass all kinds of tests to get my two beloved daughters. They are not your adopted daughters, they are your daughters. Your wife sounds like a real piece of work. A grown woman who is mean to your kids... How can you justify to yourself or your children allowing this kind of thing? Kick her to the curb.

Ariel, I don't know what you're on, but your answer really does not fit the situation the OP describes.

I agree with sylvia- why does a grown woman feel the need to text nasty messages to her husband's daughter? And making nasty comments to her husband about them (which are backhanded insults to the husband as well :-O )? Dictating how often a person can see his/her children is also way out of line.

Are your girls disrespectful or rude to your wife? Setting aside your wife's argument with your ex, is there anything that they personally may have done that upsets her? If not, she needs to either pull her head in or move on. If so, you need to tell both sides to mend their ways, and ensure that they do.

Probably because I'm thinking this post is a set-up. Lines such as: Do you think an adopted daughter has more rights then a wife? And: It is like these women think they are "less" since they are not my biological kids. And, My current wife always says: They are not your blood-you can't have kids at least I can! And, It is like she hates my ex and since there are a part of her, they are bad too!

Sounds too obvious and too convenient. If this woman does fall into the 10% of truly evil SMs, I agree with both you and Sylvia completely. But, I have my doubts that this post is even factual. Whenever someone sets up a post as a SK vs. SM deal, and I'm completely innocent, I'm always suspect. It is rare for a bio-parent to be that innocent. Couples divorce and are supposed to move on. Too often the move on part falls into guilt and bitterness, and then one or both remarry and all hell breaks lose because the unsuspecting step-parent and the children of the bio-parents have to suddenly deal with a load they never expected to be there.

A poorly handled divorce can leave a lot of casualties in its wake, even for years to come. But, thank you for your posts because I guess you never know. Maybe this post is the real deal?

Thanks Ariel/Sylvia/Colleen all this is true unfortunately! You all made me reflect a lot! For dads it is always a bit easier to handle step kids! I am good to her boys -involved in their lives/pay for their cell phones/talk to them about football/attend practices-games and I know my girls are not perfect but from the start it was rocky- she wouldn't allow them to go to the wedding-she thinks it wierd if I want to see them more than one day a week and the best was in the Summer they took a trip for 7 weeks and she got mad because I bought flowers at the airport for them and she did not want me to even pick them up at the airport- she said I over act! I suppose I take the fault to be too wimpy- I try to please everyone too much and there were other issues of jealousy when we were dating etc.and she never ever apologized for any of this so you gals gave me a new insight and I will move on Peace and thanks again,

I'm sorry I didn't take you seriously at first. But, now you know what you need to do and what to look for in the future. Best of luck to you.

Dude! If you dont have kids with her RUN! I am on the cusp of divorce as we speak based on similar situation. Let me tell you something... You listening? IT WILL NOT GET BETTER! She will continue this for ever an it will always be something different. A different occasion or feeling or holiday that she will ruin based on her insecurity's or hate. Its either she has guilt about your step kids father, she is a narcissist or Possible Bipolar disorder! Good luck