Thinking about Divorce
Vertty Smith
6 years ago
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Comments (11)Thanks for the link John. This was my first year growing ghost peppers, and I now realize this plant is not what is was labeled at the nursery. I do have some chocolate ghosts that do display the proper shape, size, and skin texture. No comparison between the two. I'm not completely sold on the thought it is a Trinidad Scorpion, though. I've grown these in previous years and mine all had a very bumpy skin texture. These are almost smooth. They also don't display the "stinger" shape that gave the Scorpion its name. I'm inclined to agree with one of the earlier posters that it is a habanero or hybrid. I have a Caribbean Red, with a few pods getting ready to ripen. I'll post a side by side shot when they do, as I think these two plants are one in the same. Whatever it turns out to be, the recipients of the peppers I grow will still be happy. Most of my garden harvest goes to a church run food bank, but the super hots go to a relative of a work associate that makes one mean hot sauce with them. He usually reciprocates by sending me back at least one small bottle of the sauce. I won't be able to try it this year, but hoping to do so next season....See MoreSad update: Divorcing after 17 years
Comments (67)Thank you all. I know we have a long road ahead, but I honestly feel better than I have in YEARS. I had no idea how much I'd been dying inside. I've been a less than good mother, Realtor, friend, daughter, everything because I was fighting "giving up" for so long. One thing I've learned is that loyalty to the point of death and pain is NOT always a good thing. As a child of divorce, I know full well how it affects kids. I have to say though, that I was so happy to have grown up seeing a truly happy, truly whole mom, rather than a shell of a woman pretending she was happy. I got/get almost all of my strength from watching how my mom dealt with being divorced. My heart aches for my kiddos, but I know in the long run we will all be better for this. I only wish I'd been able to do this sooner. As I said, it's been over for a very, very long time. Again, thank you all for your support. It means so very much....See MoreHelp and advice needed - to divorce or not to divorce?
Comments (7)"he continues to have personality conflict issues. He has no filter, and further fails to take responsibility for the problems he thinks isn't his fault." Without a strong will and a concerted effort on hos part to change this, it will always be the same. Does he want to change? Is he willing to go to counselling? If not, I can predict with a large degree of certitude that this cycle of getting a job, then being unemployed will continue until he retires. " I do everything around the house (cleaning and yardwork) in addition to my full time job." Even now that he is unemployed? IMO when you are both working, jobs should be divided equitably (not necessarily equally, but according to who likes and is good at doing particular jobs and how you _both_ feel happy with the division). A non-working partner's contribution to the partnership is, IMO the lion's share of the household chores. This is as valuable as the other partner's monetary contribution. " I don't want to kiss someone I have to tell to brush their teeth and take a shower." Yuck. While not exactly physically abusive, it's not the act of a caring partner. Yes, he may have let his personal hygiene slip due to depression caused by being unemployed, yada yada, but if he's depressed he needs to get counselling and _fix_ the depression. How will he get a new job if he's dirty and smelly? " But there is still a fear that I will be alone forever" And if you were, would that be worse than continuing in your current situation? You probably won't be, though I wouldn't rush into another relationship for its own sake though- you already know how that plays out. I guess your decision will hinge largely on counselling. You need it for yourself to work through your own thoughts and decide what you want out of life. He needs it to work on his depression and other issues. If you want to save the relationship, you need it together to work out how you're going to do that. I wish you luck....See MoreDo you think, and rethink, and think again about your choices?
Comments (2)I do think and rethink and reorganize and replant.... But the thing that made me laugh was your "with the world going to hell in a hand basket".... That's exactly why my gardens look so good this year, it's the only thing that I can control in these crazy times.......See Moregardengal48 (PNW Z8/9)
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