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100 foot Slip N Slide - Lawn care?
Comments (16)So I did a test run this weekend with the slide. It has been 3 days and so far the lawn has recovered nicely. The only noticeable damage is in the center part of the slide where all the grass has laid down sideways. I jumped on this right after taking down the slide by gently raking the grass upright and watering well (odd as it sounds). The soil under the slide was still bone dry after we finished up. I figured a good soaking would help the stressed grass recover better. I will add: prior to testing the slide, we hadn't had rain in 11 days. My sandy soil had been dried out for well over a week. Add to it high daily temps in the high 80's, and pushing 90 several days. Needless to say the lawn was already stressed badly before setting up the slide. So my pre-slide lawn prep will be as follows: - Starting 2 weeks before the event I will stop cutting the grass. (I want it to be very tall on the day of) - Starting now I will be adding a round of Milorganite fertilizer. (Been wanting to do this anyways to improve the soil) - Starting 2-3 weeks before the event I will begin watering the grass to ensure it is all healthy and actively growing. (I don't water at all right now) - About 4-5 days before the event I plan to cut the grass adjacent to the slide where people will be walking back up to the top. I am not going to setup the slide early. It only took me about 20 minutes to prep the slide this time around, and during the event I will have plenty of eager helpers. The morning of the event I am going to get out early and water the area under the slide before putting the slide down. This should soften the soil a bit and make the ride a bit smoother (Something I should have done during the test run...ouch) The landing "pool" will be a separate sheet of poly that is black to keep the water warmer. This "pool" will be constructed with pool noodles underneath to form the bowl shape, prevent injury, and make setup and tear down a breeze. I took pictures, but will have to post them separately. I will keep you posted!...See MoreFather lies for and baby's 16year old stepson
Comments (7)I have been down that cancer road several times, so I know how physically and emotionally exhausting it is. You have to do what you can live with long-term, and if you feel you couldn't live with yourself if you left your husband in these circumstances, then all you can do is minimize the wear-and-tear on yourself and your daughter. I am sorry your step-son is so impossible and even sorrier your husband is so difficult and unsupportive. Cancer didn't suddenly make him a better or different person. Here are my suggestions: 1) Protect yourself and your daughter financially for the possible time when your husband is no longer with you. You may want to set up a separate bank account and sequester some of your resources so you are assured of access to monies regardless of anything your husband might do (like decide suddenly to put his sons' names on the account). If possible, consult with an attorney regarding estate planning. Given your husband's current intractability, you may not have any luck securing his cooperation. But at least you will know what your legal rights are. 2) Prioritize your tasks. Your husband's medical care is a priority. Your daughter's physical and emotional needs are priorities. Doing your step-son's laundry, picking up after him or fixing meals are not. At 14 he can do those things for himself. If he doesn't do them, his problem. 3) Look into support systems for yourself and your husband. That would include hospital services, family support groups and Hospice, so that if the burdens get too heavy to carry alone you know who to go to. Do these things while you're still capable of thinking clearly. A time may come when you're too tired to think at all. This assumes you decide to stick it out. You may decide this is too thankless a task and leave your husband and his rotten kids to their own devices. Feel right in your choice and the judgements of others won't matter....See MoreStill Living in the past...
Comments (44)What a story about your friend, Cawfe! And what a skunk - he lied to both of them. Some men have NO qualms about doing this to women at all. I remember a young woman I used to work with. She started to have an affair with a married and somewhat older and somewhat prominent man who lived in a city an hour away from the city we lived in. This gal "Susie" was very open about her affair at work. She told us his marriage was "over", and that he told her his wife was a cold-fish and they didn't even sleep together anymore. The guy, "Peter" also had the audacity to come into our office to see her several times and he sent her roses at work, signed love "Peter". I knew him on sight and I also knew what his wife looked like as I'd see her at a business function before. So, this girl thinks "Peter" is just smitten with her. He's coming to her apartment all the time to see her and he was spending the night, too, and they she bragged that they were making "plans" for their future. She was convinced he was ready to leave his wife and marry her. One weekend day, I was driving down a street in the downtown area of my city and I see "Peter". He is walking down the street with his wife. My mouth fell open. They looked like lovebirds and they were laughing and holding hands and it is quite obvious they were very much in love. From the way his wife was behaving, it was very obvious she had no clue he was cheating on her. This whole thing made me sick. I had a whole lot more sympathy for the wife than I did for the girl I worked with. She was TOW and she knew he was married. I'm sure he lied to her but she thought it was ok to carry on an affair with a married man just because he told her his marriage was "over". On Monday morning I went to work and casually asked her if she'd seen "Peter" over the weekend. She said "oh, no, he had a business trip". I said, "oh no he didn't". I told her that he'd been in our city that weekend with his wife and I told her what I saw and told her "if he tells you his marriage is over, he is an absolute liar". I told her they looked like they were on their honeymoon. She went nuts. She called the wife and told her she was TOW and then the wife went nuts. The wife found out where "Susie" worked and the wife called the owner of our company and before the week was over, "Susie" had lost her job. The wife then called "Susie" and threatened to sue her for allienation of affection. "Susie" moved to a different state soon after and no one ever heard from her again. What was amazing is that the wife stuck with him. They are still married and this was 28 years ago, so at least he landed on his feet. I don't know what ever happened to "Susie", but I surmise she was more careful going forward....See MoreContractor $100,000 over budget on major remodel-- options???
Comments (14)That's good info to know about the benefits of cost plus, as I wasn't really aware of why you would do one versus the other. We have been disciplined if bids came in high (e.g. we changed our AC because that bid did come in high and we modified our trim materials to stay on budget), but all of the other bids have been pretty spot on or in some cases even less than was budgeted for (e.g. electrical, plumbing, roofing, siding materials, tile, floor refinishing, cabinets, gutters were what we expected and had budgeted for). Countertops were $2000 over budget, but that's really the only sub-contracted thing that was more than expected (and that's a fairly minor amount given how far over we are). It's really his labor cost that off. For example, we exceeded the budget for siding because it took him months to finish it, in part because he only had two guys working on it many days, which meant one would often be on the side of the house, and for each cut the other guy would have to crawl through a window, make the cut, crawl back though, and this inefficiency just added a lot of time and cost. We talked to him about this, but at the time he assured us we were on budget. There were also similar issues with framing. It was only months after all this that he told us that we're way over budget. Given that we've started doing so much work ourselves, I'm just not sure what else we could have done to prevent this other than going with fixed cost. I have a hard time believing that he didn't know that we were over budget until 6+ months into the project, and I wish that he would have let us know earlier, but I'm not sure there would have been a good option even if he had let us know. It is was it is now, so hopefully we'll be able to figure something out with him....See More- 9 years ago
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