I'm very happy for you about work, but you still need to get to the doctor about those head aches.I know you are scared and I would be too, but you will not be any good to any one else if you do not take care of yourself. I know I sound like I'm preaching, but you really do need to take care of yourself. Quit worrying about work, they seem to be very pleased with you at work, and they don't won't you feeling this way either. Now tomorrow morning get on that phone and call the doctor. It may not be anything real serious, but do you want to go through the holidays, feeling this way and not knowing? Not too long ago my dh was having alot of problems and I was just as scared as he was. The not knowing is almost worse than what is wrong. When they finally figured out the problem, we didn't like the answer, (m.s.) but at least we know what we are dealing with now. Please, Please go.

I moved much like you did when we moved here. I moved my kitchen, bathrooms, artwork, garage and shop things, clothing not in drawers and quite a bit of my office although not a heavy desk. 6 minute drive. I'd boxed books and hadn't put them in my SUV yet, the movers graciously offered to take them as they had room. I had brought my own lamps too I think. . All my living room furniture was new and delivered by the store as were the appliances. I tipped each of the three man crew, who brought the heavier pieces only, $40 each, Same with the movers I hired to move my mother to her retirement apartment an hour from her home. They moved three rooms of furniture and her clothing, I packed her kitchen myself, put those things into my SUV. It was a warm day, I had water which they accepted, soft drinks that they declined. Two men. They preferred to stop and buy their own lunch after they had packed and before they unpacked her things in her new city. I tipped them $40 each, although I think they were worth about 10 times that much for as helpful and good natured as they were that day last Fall ;-) Editing to add - I just remembered with the company hired to move mother, they brought us coffee! They called and asked how many were at the house that morning, and arrived with Starbucks, their treat ;-)

It's not just chains- I've personally worked for two independent restaurants, one mid level and one very high end fine dining, that calculate taxes based on assumed tips. Most servers will receive paychecks for $0.00; the $2.13/hour the restaurant owes them is completely consumed by taxes, so tips are literally all they take home most of the time. And if your state has income taxes they are the last to be taken out of a paycheck, so your server will get hit at tax time for all the state taxes there wasn't enough In her paycheck to cover. Here's another one most people don't know about- the 1-3% to run your credit card is often taken out of your servers tips! It's the same as any industry, if you haven't done it, you have no idea. Poor service? By all means, show your displeasure in your tip, I do! But no tip because you assume takeout is no work? That's just cheap. Some restaurants are moving to a no tip model for many of these reasons; Joe's Crab Shack announced they would be switching to a higher set wage and no tips, and they have already said the menu prices will rise accordingly. Good food, good service, cheap prices- pick any two ya like, but you can't have all three.

I think the prices sound pretty good. I am in the DMV though and things are more expensive here and I imagine the LA burbs are comparable if not a little pricier. Having said that most parties I have or attend are fairly casual with the occasional work associated or wedding that is more high end. I have never seen a tip jar at any catered party I have attended. At open bar weddings I do normally tip. Last wedding we attended at the beginning of the evening I tipped each of the two bartenders 20 dollars each. It probably covered the cost of my & DH's drinks by far. They didn't have a jar out. I have been at parties at a home or at a "country" club where there was a sign that said, No tips, you are here as our guests. I would presume in that case the party hosts had taken care of the servers. I don't know what is proper etiquette as far as that type of sign. I don't know about tipping the owner but I probably would. I have the same dilemma with my hairstylist who owns the salon. I tip her and give her gifts for holiday's and her birthday. I personally would give the bartender 50 dollars and the owner 100 with the request he share it with anyone who helped prep the food or did set up and clean up if they had additional help. I understand you don't know if he will but that is on him and how he sleeps at night.