I wouldn't give siblings who are relatives different amounts. The potential for animosity is not worth the few dollars.

That's what I thought, too. If I am going to distinguish I have to do it now though, there are three more after this, LOL. These are kids we pretty much only see at their weddings and showers, so we are not close. But I'd hate to offend.

Over the years I have done extra things for him and special things for him as my godchild, but probably also because he was the first grandchild. I know the sibs have godmothers too but no idea how that role has played out.

I think it is important to give the same amount to both kids-- she may not know what her brother received but if she did know, it would sting. I don't think being a god child has anything to do with it-- whether you are religious or not. A god parent might give an extra token of the sacrament but an extra $500 has nothing to do with the role of being a spiritual guide/guardian imo.

Lol. Fair point, funky. I guess if I think about it the role of godmother has been a little bit more like… Fairy godmother, LOL.

DH just pointed out that he thinks I have my numbers wrong and that we gave him more than that… Oh my gosh I hope I can find the check.

We have given all nieces and nephews the same amount.

LOL.. we should all have a Fairy godmother!

There's a fairly good chance she doesn't even know what he received....my brother had no interest in my wedding gifts and vice versa. He was still in college when I married, and my mom even had the whole gift display up in the dining room (a southern thing, I think, the planner rents tables and pretty tablecloths to ring the room in your parent's house, and you set up all the pretties on the tables or the risers. When people visit, they can view the goods, lol. My mom's friends hosted my bridesmaid luncheon at my parent's house, and they adored seeing who sent what!) I don't think he set foot in that room the whole time it was set up! Plus, needless to say, of course you don't display checks. :)

Anyway, just saying that probably the only people who might notice there was a discrepancy would be the parents. If you are close you could explain your rationale, Otherwise, they'll either think you forgot how much you gave brother, or you've become "cheap" (lol, not!) or since the whole family isn't attending, you've pared your gift down accordingly, lol. And you, indeed, are probably thought of very fondly by your nephew. If my auntie slipped me a thou for my wedding..,I'd be the greatest niece ever! ;)

The nephew may not know, but his bride might, and if she and the niece are pals they might share the information, or she might be present when the niece opens the gift.

Godmother is a very special person in my family, and a very special gift goes to that child, so I think a different amount is just fine for the other "less special" nieces and nephews.

Siblings might not know..but chances are their mom would. That could be a potential problem.

I give my god children twice what I give others, they are special to me. I only have two.

I'd give the same and be done with it. DH wouldn't agree with me.

Another thought. She may not know what he received, but if the money given to him was significantly larger than other guests gave it very well could have come up in conversation.

My DH & I are God Parents to a few of our nieces & nephews. We have given the same to all.

We always give same amount to nieces / nephews. I am godmother to two, never thought to distinguish the gift based on that role. Didn't give it a second thought but now wonder?