Something I noticed at my husband's NH
There are several older women who have refused to eat because in their minds they have not paid for the meals and do not have the money to do so. They have been wheeled to the dining room and then break down and cry because they think that they are not supposed to have the food because they can not afford it. I do not know how frequently it happens at other homes but there are several women at this one. This is the only thing at the NH that breaks my heart. Most have some form of dementia so I do not know if their minds are reverting to their childhood, 1930's or if it is caused by recent impoverishment. The home attempts to tell them that the meal is paid for by family but you can tell the ones that know this is a lie. Not as healthy as the meals but the home has a "snack" cart where they keep simple sandwiches, cookies, fruit and snacks for those that refuse to eat in the dining hall. When my husband was in rehab at another facility for knee surgery the snack cart was just 'snacks'. I have been wondering if this was a common occurrence at many nursing homes.