Is there any grey in the counters? If yes, I'd try to get a match to that. If not, I'd probably advice a more greige color.

Or something like BM Quiet Moments might work for the walls if you pick a creamy white for BS.

Can you switch out the cabinet bin pulls and knobs for something in chrome or other shiny metallic? That would lighten how the cabinetry looks as a whole and add a nice gleam.

The red striped window draperies don't go with anything. The kitchen would look more fresh without them. They're not providing privacy or serving any purpose so I'd take them down.

the molding between wall and ceiling throws everything off, due to the super glossy white paint used for that row, all around ,and the very white ceiling. I like the paint color Cornforth white-shown above ..I would use that color with 20-30% less intensity and paint all walls, ceiling molding and ceiling with it. With no plans to redo the kitchen, let the nice cabinets have their presence, and reduce the conflict with the glaring ceiling molding with a subtle paint job. Then get some soft and textural mats on floor in the right locations for yourselves, and some sort of area rug in living/seating zones.Removal of stripe valances is probably a good move... but can wait if you want....I personally like something at windows..could just do a cellular shade in neutral at kitchen window and leave shades in dinette, remove valances. Neutral walls and ceiling ,and some rugs would do wonders and I think surprise you pleasantly..

Thank you, for your advise, It looks like I am pretty much limited to neutral gray and beiges for paint options with the current cabinets and granite color. Also, all of the furnishings and window treatments are not ours but current owners, we are planning on removing all window treatments if they are not taken down by the owner, and re-painting everywhere, but did not want to replace the granite, but will be changing knobs and pulls on cabinets and most likely updating lighting fixtures. May even consider starting over with new countertops if paint color options are limited. I think I may try a color like the one above, I can always change it.

changing the wall color and cabinet pulls / knobs and taking down the valances will make a big difference. See how you feel about it then.

I too would explore ceiling, trim molding and wall paint options. For the moldings consider matching them to the molding color of those trimming out the cabinets. That will integrate the window better. The ceiling could be a lighter shade of the walls. Say the quart formula of your wall in a gallon. Sheen level is important too.

Your granite reads brown, so if you use a gray paint, it needs a slight blue-green undertone. Compare the paint strips at the paint store to see the undertones. I like Benjamin Moore Pale Smoke 1584 or Wales Gray 1585.

I think changing out pulls and taking down window treatments will really help. I think I would look at a gray/blue wall color. A beachy color. Maybe BM Wythe Blue or Palladian Blue?? I would get a new window treatment done in a beach fabric. I would think of the palette of sky and sand for inspiration.

I wouldn't install tile above the granite backsplash either, and agree with the paint suggestion. But I would paint the crown and ceiling in Cornforth White at 50% and not full strength, and I wouldn't paint the rest of the trim out that same colour.

You can (and should) just pop off the 4" granit backsplash before adding tile.