I'm with you on that mmommy!! It's disgraceful. We work very hard to keep the kids in the dark on this stuff since it would just create even more issues for them. The oldest sort of knows what's going on becuase we're pretty strapped financially right now, and can't do certain things for him that we normally would be able to do. We don't discuss this with with him, but my sense is that he knows something's up. It's really hard to instill moral values and work ethics when this is what's going on with their Mom. It's like they don't understand sometimes that their Dad and I have to work for a living. Our lawyer is very confident that there will be no "willful contempt" found since he was paying support all along. He does plan on presenting the agreement to the court for documentation that she had agreed to the terms, and that she could have gone to court to change them at any time. And, you're right, most likely we will be able to pay it back in small amounts. He's also going to request that the court order her to find fulltime employment since she's "under employed". bud wi- You are absolutely correct. There is nothing we can do, and my husband definately messed up in trusting her. At the time they did this, I suggested to him that he take the document to the court to get it approved (it is actually a form from the state's probate court website that they filled out) He thought he was covered, and didn't do it. So now he's paying for it. How's this for a punchline...she was lying about her income, and working under the table to receive medicaid benefits which also enabled her to receive free legal support from the Woman's Bar association...Nice! The sickness in this all is that she could be employed full time at her job, but won't do it because she'd get less CS, and is really just doing all this to be nasty.

I wanted to share a couple other ways your identy/money can be stolen. Both happened to me. By the way, I'm really sorry you've gone through this. It is so frustrating. It seems like the majority of id theft is from credit cards. This first one happened years ago, when this was a relatively new crime, but it wasn't credit. Someone took my name and driver's licence number and the account number of a closed checking account. Then they created a new account and went shopping, at Sears, Macy's, Home Depot, and Victoria's Secret. All in one day. They almost got cought at VS, which ended their shopping spree. I believe they got over $3,000 in merchandise. It was a NIGHTMARE trying to convince all the different agencies and stores that I wasnt the thief. I didn't lose any money, but my driver's license number is still flagged with telecheck. Sixteen years later. BTW, after I made contact with Macy's to explain the situation, Macy's started billing me for the $900 purchase. We had a pretty heated conversation about how they wouldn't even have my information if I hadn't called them to do the right thing. The other was just a couple years ago. I was going over my bank statement and saw a payment to a cell phone company that we don't use. I checked a few monthes prior and noticed I had been paying someone elses bills. Cell phone and the utility bills. The utility bill was easy to miss because I use the same company. It was the cell bill that tipped me off. Someone used the account and routing number off a check one of us wrote and was paying her bills online. Once I cought it, I called the bank PG&E, and Verizon and had everything taken care of. The utility companies went after her on their own, so I don't know the outcome. There was a name on the accounts, but I was told it was probably fake. So anyway, these are just a couple more areasto consider and keep an eye on. Also, Sears can be kinda shifty. I would still be a little suspicious of them. I would not put it past them to issue you an unsolicited credit card. On the off chance that you accept it. It doesn't make much sense for a credit thief to have the card sent to your house. Unless, they were watching your house hoping to intercept your mail

It may be identity theft but it could also be the doctor's office not entering the correct insurance number. Several insurance companies are interconnected and only use the insurance number to find addresses in their systems. If the insurance number keyed to your name and address the computer would fill in the blanks using your information. I had this happen a couple of years ago. Insurance system at that time read the card but the receptionist had to rekey the number to verify it. Both names and numbers were on the card but she picked up my husband's number. I had a hard time correcting.

We're not military...and...as an employee of USAA, they get a 10% discount and it was still higher. Update: The past company I was with for 3 weeks....that was the increase in sq footage people. That was fraud. Now this company, the owner emailed, said he got my paperwork I sent where the roofer signed off for USAA saying it was a Class 4 Decra roof(hail proof), but they need him to fill out paper work for THIS insurance company and he refuses. So they can call for a roof inspection, free of charge to do this and that will give me the roof discount, get rid of the $1065 bill. But have they....nooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! The agent wants me to agree to stay with his agency before he does anything. Nope. Changing agencies and they can order an inspection. It will take several weeks to clear it all up....but it sounds promising! YAY! Elmer.... YOU were right on THIS one. I was wrong. It was an incompetant agent that just didn't care. She just wanted me to "go away". The 1st agency...well.....that one was fraud.